I‘m 23M and I‘m dating a 36F. I’m her toy boy and it’s mainly about sex. Do you think it‘s fine?

[Anonymous]

I‘m a fitness trainer and I’m dating a former client of the gym. The relationship is mainly about sex. She is obsessed with my body and I‘m a sort of toy boy. She wants me to be wearing only a thong (or nothing) when we are together. She‘s also into (light) bondage: mainly scratching and whipping my body. It’s fine with it and I think I’ll go on for some more months...

What do you think?

[oldawg]

Yes there's nothing wrong with it I've been there and done that quite a few times and I actually enjoyed myself I'm a bit older now but I'll give you two pieces of advice if you want and it was given to me and I didn't listen but it doesn't matter it's just that usually a relationship built on sex doesn't last if you're thinking about a long-term relationship because one or the other will get bored eventually, and the other is enjoy yourself as much as you can when you're young because you will wake up one day and it's just like someone turned the switch off what I mean is all the girls you have and are having fun with excetera it just seems to dry up if you know what I mean it was told to me by a bunch of my older friends and I just laughed but believe me it happens and I should have paid attention just saying

[skyplusremote]

I went with 32 when I was 22. Dated for couple of years and the sex was great and she had an amazing body but remember they want different things at this age and she stopped taking the pill when we dated and only found out after 6 months being off it because she tried to trap me so just watch mate. I was living the 22 year old dream. She was a blonde with a body like Kelly brook in her prime but as far as a connection non sexual was a no go. They are at a different stage of her life so just make sure she knows u just want fun

[Asker]

Thanks for sharing your experience. Yes, I need to be careful. I think she just wants to have fun. But sometimes she seems a bit out of control... We see each other just once a Werk, at her place. What do you think of the fact that she‘s into this toy boy thing with light bondage? I currently have a few scratches on my pecs, haha.

[JuliaStyles]

What difference does it make what we think? I'm pretty sure you aren't going to listen to anyone telling you it's not fine. To each their own.

[FlowerSeeds]

Um I would stop that type of relationship if I were you.

[Asker]

Thanks. But why?

[FlowerSeeds]

Wouldn't you want a girl to value you and love you for you and not use you just for sex

[Asker]

Sure.

But at the moment I‘m happy with an only sex relationship.

[Asker]

It‘s probably for some more months.

[FlowerSeeds]

So it will be for some more months? But why post this question in the first place if you were happy with it?

[FlowerSeeds]

Well I wish you the best and be careful okay I'm sure there is someone who will love you not only just for your body but also for your soul as well.

[Asker]

Thanks!

I posted the question because it‘s a totally new experience to me, at times mind

And it‘s difficult not to think about it. For example I currently have a few scratches on my pecs which temine me of it, haha.

Let‘s say I‘m fine with the experiment right now... But it‘s a short term thing.

[GingerGuy]

Enjoy it while it lasts. Is she single? There's nothing wrong with it if you are both on the same page and have no issues with it. You're adults. The only thing is if she's married (or with anyone), then personally I'd have a problem with that. But to each their own. Others are fine with it.

[Asker]

Thanos for the comments.

She‘s single now. She’s divorced and has no kids. I think she wants to enjoy herself after breaking up with her ex.

We see each other normally once a week or sometimes the whole weekend at her place.
What do you think of the fact that she‘s into this toy boy thing? I currently have a few scratches on my pecs, haha.

[GingerGuy]

If you like it, it's great. If it were me, it would be hot to be someone's "boy toy", I'd love that, but I'm not into BDSM personally so that part would turn me off. But if you like it, great.

[Asker]

Right, at the moment it‘s great

[Anonymous]

If everything was ok, this question wouldn't exist. You are using each other for different things, but a part of you knows this is empty. When the pleasure is over, all you are left with is a waste. We are better than this, and our soul only responds to actions that support this truth. But as others have said, everyone can do what ever they wish. Just know that when we ignore what our true self communicates to us, there will be consequences of some sort.

[Asker]

Right, but i‘m Not looking for a committed relationship now

[blank_expression]

I did that a while. A mature woman is uplifting on occasion. It gives you some perspective—less the bondage crap however if she is mature.

[RingOfFire]

I'd say enjoy it while it lasts... it won't last long.

[Anonymous]

No usually men who cat get women their age they date older women. Who haven't found a partner


Is she chubby to fat? Does she have kids?

When you get older 35 you'll be dating 21-25 chicks.

[Asker]

She‘s fit and sexy. She‘s divorced and has no kids. Anyway it‘s not a long term commitment. We simply both enjoying the moment.

Thanks for your input

[Opinion Owner]

Ur welcome. Your part of a very small group you should feel lucky

[Asker]

I can‘t complain

[Nik_92]

Definitely not brother stay away...
Don't be someone toy

[Asker]

Well, it could be hot

[kiiski]

The fact that you are questioning this is troublesome.

The setup can for sure be okay when both parties enjoy it but here with your case I'm not so sure.

[Asker]

I‘m perfectly fine and I’m enjoying the experience now.

I posted the question because it’s an entirely new experience, which can be mind blowing at times.

And it’s difficult for me not to think about it. For example I currently have some scratches on my pecs which remind me of it.

Thanks for your input.

[kiiski]

Then enjoy it, the relationship / matters between 2 people are to be defined by two individuals not by society.

Communicate well and have fun 🥰

[Asker]

Thanks!

[ChiTown33]

If both parties needs are being met I say it's fine.

[anylolone]

It's fine. And it depends, but it does seem like you are a boy toy.
Being the fitness trainer has more to do with it than age.

[Anonymous]

Do you want it? Yes.
Does she want it? Yes.
So, is there any problem? No.

[Adam_West]

oh shit you lucky motherf*cker

keep do whatcha doin'

[thotmas97]

Sure, if you’re cool with it

[Asker]

Thanks

[hellacray]

Lol why do I care? Do whatever you want.

[Дерйа]

We don't care

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I think So

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Nope

[lycanthrope3]

Okay