Is your boyfriend/girlfriends sexual past important to you?

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What do you think?

MaelE · Accepted Answer

Unless they got raped, sexually assaulted, had any kind of sexual trauma or have any STD, no

ryckrohan · Accepted Answer

I would wanna know but it won't influence my opinion of the person

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

I don't date, but if I did, it would be important to me, because it would show how similar (or not) our values when it came to sex are. I would personally not want to be with someone who is into casual sex or has slept around.

Finchie40 · Answer

It depends, but not really, most people lie about their sexual past anyways cuz they don’t want to hurt their new partner’s feelings out of respect , so all that really matters is how they treat you , and respect you , and if they are STD clean, if someone constantly brings up their past to a new partner then it just shows they don’t really respect them and they more than likely struggle with their own insecurities , someone that values you will only talk about their past if they are questioned by it , so by asking your partner about their past , is pretty much something you are choosing by asking them , why it’s best not to really talk about it , meeting someone new is your future , when we give our heart to someone it can suck when we hear about their past and who they slept with etc. But not a reason to end that relationship with them unless you find out they were a prostitute or they have a huge track record of getting around , but it comes down to your decision , that’s something that you have to answer on whether you can stay with someone like that or not. Me personally wouldn’t want a girl who has been around a lot , to me it’s just dirty,

420Rachel · Answer

Nah. I was pretty wild in my late teens/very early 20s so I would have no right to judge his sexual past anyway. A lot of us think we want to hoe around and have fun but when it comes time that you actually want a relationship you realize casual flings are just not worth it. As long as he doesn't have any diseases or gives me a reason to not trust him I really don't care. In fact me and my boyfriend tell each other stories about our sexcapades. 😂

exitseven · Answer

It;s not a dealbreaker but if I was in a relationship with somebody I want to really know that person. That includes relationship with parents, employment history and yes, sexual past.
I think if she was in the triple digits for a body count it would be a red flag that she was not good with commitment.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes because it comes down to how they value themselves and there morals. I would like a girl who values herself and doesn’t just let anyone fck her. I guess it depends on the other person as well as what standards they have themselves and what kind of morals they have and what they’re looking for in a partner

Browneye57 · Answer

Of course it is, but you'll never really know.
And never kiss and tell. EVER. For one thing, it's none of their business.

But yeah, if you ride the cock-carousel for decade before you decide to choose a best-suitor, you better keep your mouth shut about it.

thathonestman · Answer

Yes because past decisions dictate, or at the very least, influence future behavior.

Don’t kid yourself - “the past is the past” is bullshit. When people show you who they are, believe them. If they had questionable judgment 5 years ago, those decisions can manifest themselves in the future.

scholastic_vibez · Answer

Yes; as a guy you don’t want a girl who’d ditch you if you made her dinner for a guy that would promise her $300 bottles of champagne in the VIP section of some club or that would suck his cock for lines of coke. That just has money hungry hoe written all over her.

Tellme · Answer

Very interesting question. I think after a while in the relationship, I always asked my girlfriends. Some of them were open to talk about it, others not really.
I think it can help building trust, and it’s sometimes interesting to know how much experience they have.
Personally, I don’t mind talking about it at all. I have nothing to hide.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Yes. If she was with 20 men over 10 years all hookups isn’t the same as 20 men over 10 years all long term relationships. And did she jump from one ltr to the next with a week or 2 between? Hell yes it matters.

just_a_potato · Answer

I don't want an STI. Beyond that if they can't share their past while also expecting to be sexually involved with me, what else are they willing to hide? Sexual history is important in my relationships.

muscularbumblebee · Answer

Couldn't care less unless he recently had sex with 100 people although if I might be a little careful of his intentions in a relationship if the number is high...

Avicenna · Answer

A woman should tell her boyfriend if she’d ever had a child or an abortion, if she was ever raped or sexually assaulted, or if she used to be a prostitute. Other than things like that, no, unless they feel it’s important.

CasuallySamsonite · Answer

Somewhat, If my partner is into some kinky, freaky stuff I'd like to know... so we can get to doing that faster... otherwise, no don't care how many, who they were or what they did. If they want to share cool, but no I'm not going to judge.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

As long as they dont have any STIs or kids with crazy exs, i dont give a shit. They are with me now, why do i care about their past relationships or sexual history?

Surely · Answer

More concerned of the type of guys that she has been with. Second, the number of guys. As always, std free.

Joshua0213 · Answer

To an extent but really only like if she dated anyone with an std or similar things.

Andres77 · Answer

Yes... I always tried to dig. And the more I made it clear that I wouldn't judge the more open she became. Then greater fun would ensue.

Aquariusmystery · Answer

Yes but only so I’m aware of anything that may be triggering etc

fonduegirl · Answer

So long they don't carry disease or baby, I don't give a fuck.

Anonymous · Answer

Very; it is a deal breaker if they have more than 1.

AlongCameCindy · Answer

I would be curious to know, but no it wouldn't change my opinion. long as they're showing me the qualities i want and need.

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

As long as they have no Kids STD's Legal trouble I could care less how many partners have had

Adam_West · Answer

i dont care my prospective girlfriend's sexual past

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. The fewer partners there were the better, virgin is ideal. The times when I don’t care is when I don’t have respect for her. If I do respect her then I would care about it.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m not sure. I just sometimes randomly remember about how he has spent the night with 3 other girls before he met me and we’ve never been allowed to spend the night together and that makes me sad.

sailortwift · Answer

Yes!  If I'm going to share my life with a guy, I ought to know who he is.

Anonymous · Answer

Not exactly unless and until if it’s affecting your current relationship

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Nope not at all, really could not care.

SillyDaffodilly · Answer

Nah, experience is key. Keep them STD's though

Kayla99 · Answer

I want them to have experience.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, i only prefere virgin men who ain't whores

williamHD · Answer

No not really

Slim57 · Answer

Yep want someone similar to me

humanearth · Answer

Nope, give a shit

JSmuve · Answer

Yes it is

dudeinohio · Answer

not important

copiecat · Answer

No it's not

Clarke498 · Answer

Yeah a bit.

Nachowedgie · Answer

For me yes

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Ye, it is. 100%

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes of course

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, very important.

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