How do you approach someone you are interested in?

Question

What is your go to move for telling someone you like them?

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

A lot depends on if the person and myself have chatted before etc.

if so then would ask them out for a coffee and basically tell them.

explain why and when’s, that I liked them and let them know straight up I did not want a straight out reply from them about it, but to think about it for a bit (upto a week).

the important bit is showing respect, being honest with them and making sure you communicate it clearly, making sure they have an exit for saying no sorry.

if I’ve not really chatted to them, then it’s a case of non cheesey flirting and making sure they understand you are not simply hitting on them (you are but not like it’s a random at a club).

again respect, and being open, as honest as you can, trying to show a level of trust to them.

Venue specific, you need a place we’re you can both talk and hear each other without too much noise or interruption.

then really it’s a bit like the first one, being open and honest on why you like them, what attracted you to them, for me it tends to be attitude, confidence, Tattoos, being original.

I really find just showing respect for the other person, being open and honest, with no stupid chat up lines works best, obviously humour and Geordie charm helps as well.

Short version. Talk to them

Show respect, be open and honest and communicate effectively.

Do not put on spot, give them time but then respect their decision.

IDontBelieveIt · Accepted Answer

When my Neice and Nephew were children, we would be walking along somewhere either I would say that I fancied or they would ask me do you fancy her, then when the girl approached they would say my uncle fancies you, out of the mouths of babes I loved them, it's a good ice breaker she would blush and smile but that was it. Because of metoo, feminazis etc. I don't approach. The best way for me would be my silliness humour and I can laugh at myself. I work in a male environment so I can't use there where it would be natural. In a previous job as a Train Driver, I liked to pop in to another departments office that was on route and have a laugh with a lady older than me I would move things she would say what you done with it, I'd reply whattt? Like butter wouldn't melt. This particular day I was in there also was a train conductor I had been joking, messing around the older lady would always say go on bugger off! Well she had got off her office swivel chair so I sat in it and started pushing it with my feet out the door she said come back with my chair I replied you told me to bugger off so I am I got the female conductor to push the chair with me in it along the platform with me pointing directions there was a few passengers that were looking. When I came back later the older lady gave me a piece of paper with the conductors phone number on.

sullyk1234 · Accepted Answer

i did this and be very careful not only was interested in him but he was the first man i was ever attracted to and by the way im in my mid 50s and he's 67 young love move over for older craziness well sometimes you can over do it and i did i didn't mean to it just happened and wish it never did if your interested in a man please let him come to you or try to catch his eye DONT go up to him and try that way either he will think your easy or hell play games with you like this he told me not only he wasn't interested in me i wasn't his type after he told me that he stared at me for over 7 months every time i went into the store he works at YES I HEARD WHAT HE TOLD ME but he was making me question everything i have learned a very big lesson and my heart still breaks for him i haven't seen him in months we dont talk i am over weight and trying to loss it i was doing good then my mom my dog and my boyfriend this man is very handsome tall big man and not only did i like him i fell in love with him he could care less about me or if he ever saw him again but please take my advice LET HIM COME TO YOU , GOOD LUCK GOD BLESS

A_Bell · Accepted Answer

Putting a hand on him. Either a hand on his arm or touching his should when laughing at a joke.

ayomanwya · Answer

Since I’ve got rejected by a girl that I never even asked out I don’t approach someone that I’m interested in. I do have a coworker that I think about approaching but I don’t. After work my coworkers and I had went to Dave and Busters. I was the first one there so I was just playing games. After awhile everyone else showed up. Nobody really talks to me at work like okay whatever it is what it is. While we were all sitting down ordering food this one guy had bought everyone shots and another guy had said that he was glad that I was able to make it. What really had surprised me was that a girl that I’ve been working with since 2019 who never really said really much of anything to me at work was outside of work. We were kinda talking throughout the night. I had walked over to a shooting game which was surprisingly 2 players. I was just standing there and then I seen my coworker standing across from. I didn’t know what to say but I didn’t want her to walk away so I asked her if she wanted to play? We both sat down and played the shooting game. I’m hoping that one of my coworkers plans something again so I can see how she acts before approaching her

virtue2332 · Answer

Look not to age myself but when I was in high school we didn't have a whole lot of ways to approach girls it was either in person or over the phone. There is absolutely no reason now that it can't be done. There's texting Dm and with social media it's not hard to figure out what to talk about or what they are interested in it's right there on thier page. Oh and if you find out that they aren't really interested in what they have on thier page but just wanted look cool or fit in cool drop em last thing you need in four life is some fake ass liar.

Still-alive · Answer

hopefully im out with friends so i could use them for a pep talk or if im turned down they can give me a comforting pat on the back.

but anyways yeah i just go up ask, im usually nervous as fuck but i go for it. and if im shot down then take it on the chin and walk away

chriss · Answer

Ask them to go on a date, say do you want to go to a restaurant. I would like to go out with you to get to know each other better. If the person says yes then they are on the same page. This is how me and my girlfriend started dating. We went on a few dates and then we made it official.

jamezsexton · Answer

Be yourself
If ur blunt very forward be that person
If your shy timid tell them their beautiful or hansome and something you like about them eye color way the outfit looks with their ear rings. If really timid say you look beautiful or hansome today. If nothing else when they see you again it mayb in different light.

moviedude714 · Answer

Interesting that a girl is asking this question, because it has always been and always will be extremely rare for women to approach men or make the first move, ask a guy out, I have no doubt about that, not saying that's how it should be forever, but expressing my sarcastic venting about it

Ceslovas · Answer

I think the Best way for me is to act like complete ashole and arrogant.. and them see this nice slap coming to your face.

Lovely experience trust me! it is so quick u bearely notice it coming! U just feel this nice breeze coning your way and then boom!😁🤣🤣I think... at least this way u get girls attention.. 'touch ' if we count slap as..'touch'😂

No i never did that, but i think aboit that a lot... should i be ashole or just be this nice guy i normally are🤔hmm

SuhRaw · Answer

Just be straight up with the person and let them know that you have an interest in them. I do it sometimes and sometimes I don't out of shyness or insecurities or whatever but just tell them. Once you tell them you'll feel better because you don't want to go through the (what if) wondering what could when you don't no what could if you tell them. Just allow the opportunity to present itself and if there's no opportunity just tell them.

Gatorademebiatch · Answer

I tell them point blank haha life is too short not to

Lost_in_the_Woods · Answer

Usually say something stupid and then run away.  Definetly not recommending that but it saves a lot of time and heartache if you just run like hell and don't look back.

TheGreatAwan · Answer

I find them at the Starbucks or Wendy's by my house. I ask if they think I am cool and ask for their name. I find them and add them on social media and and pray that they don't get all bitchy and block me. If they do then I create an another account and try again until they realize that they need to stop pursuing Chad and instead go for a nice guy like me and that it is rude to ignore me after I have been polite.

exitseven · Answer

I used to try and do some recon first to figure out if she is available and what her deal is. Then I staked out her natural habitat and try to make an approach that did not seem too obvious and try to talk to her a little.

hellacray · Answer

I walk up to her. Throw a compliment and then ask for her number.

I mean it's seriously not that hard. Worst thing that could happen she says no. Altho in my case a lot of times they say they have a boyfriend which I'm sure is a lie lol.

DWornock · Answer

I let the girl make the first move by smiling and saying "HI' or otherwise indicating that she would be receptive to being approached by me. Also, I try to be where she might be to give her the opportunity to make the first move.

topramen1565 · Answer

Bruh, just be forward. That's advice I learned from TV, if you really want to speak your kind, be up front with it. If you're upfront with wanting to hang with a someone, they feel validated and wanted.

mreber92 · Answer

If you know them and there's already a way to communicate then just ask them out. If they're just random go up, introduce yourself, tell them you think they're attractive and you'd like to give them your number.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

I dont approach but if I did they would NEVER know.

bowenw · Answer

Start slowly to see if they are interested in you. For example invite them to join you for coffee or lunch somewhere and see how it goes.

serious · Answer

Never been interested in anyone. Hence no question of approaching them as well.

Nik1hil · Answer

I think of the scenario in my head...  I reject myself...  I don't approach..

HonestThoughts · Answer

I usually meet girls through Tinder or social media but in real life I try to just be laid-back, confident and funny. Same logic applies to to texting or hooking up for the first time etc.

libsaretards · Answer

"I like you. Give me a chance and let's see where this train leads".

JosyJosy · Answer

"I like you. Would you like to go on a date with me this Friday?"

loveslongnails · Answer

The best way to approach is from the front - you might spook them if you come up from behind !! LOL

Feelicks · Answer

I usually offer them a chocolate and invite them out. Works pretty often.

BareNecessary · Answer

Spill my drink on them. Miraculously trip and fall awkwardly catching myself on their lips. Lean in. Stay awhile.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

"Shamalama ding dong baby 😉"

Landy24 · Answer

Go up to them and Introduced your name tell them you like them and give them a compliment then ask him/her out and get the number

Matt3 · Answer

Making eye contact  They will know  Then Text them. OR ask them for their accounts

jjj101010 · Answer

Slowly like a ninja from behind with a chloroform soaked rag. Lol  Joke, obvs, I just say hey

OddBeMe · Answer

I’m weird. I like to get to know them first. Be a friend, and then strike when they aren’t looking.

Joshua0213 · Answer

Usually just ask like a generic question about something they are looking at and move from there

InferiorElegy · Answer

I no longer have any moves I also try to not have feelings towards others especially females.

FamilyGuy2020 · Answer

Girls always do this ask a friend to go to a movie or something with Your guy

EaterPeter · Answer

Any thing creative not costing fortune or may cost fortune. Future is looking good.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't, maybe I'll send them a drink  After that it's on them if they want

Anonymous · Answer

You have nice legs, what time they open? Lol. Just kidding.

EstevanMadrid898 · Answer

I would probably walk up to the person and tell them they are cute

Sonorous · Answer

I do not participate in mating & dating rituals.

normalice · Answer

Gawking awkwardly from 200 ft away..

pankaj317 · Answer

Jaane ka aur baat karne ka..😂😂

SandandWaves · Answer

I will just let him know

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

well your a girl, you don't have to approach guys

Danthemanwithaplan · Answer

I tell her straight up. Nothing to lose.

DrHonesty · Answer

Take your clothes off

KrakenAttackin · Answer

I'm done being "interested".

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I don't. Not anymore.

RHK36 · Answer

I generally don't unless I know she's into me.

CreamySeed · Answer

Whip it out as a reproductive offering

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

I thought only guys have this issue..

Chthou95 · Answer

I don't. They're not worth it

kdog911100 · Answer

Just go for it, don't be shy

robocop666 · Answer

be nice to them they seem to like it

hotboy77 · Answer

I say that I'm intended in her😉

Anonymous · Answer

Straight up ask them out. Simple as that.

Anonymous · Answer

I sniff their butt like a dog

ARealHonestHuman · Answer

talk to them

K-I-S-S · Answer

I dont't.

Iron_Man · Answer

Just go up to them

Anonymous · Answer

With a wad of money...

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