Why do men complain about women preferring tall men?

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I’ve had my fair share of short guys 5’5”-5’8” tell me that I’m too tall as a 5’4” woman, for their liking. From my experience it’s always only the short guys who obsess over short girls. Taller guys never ever care about how tall a girl is

raw_is_war99 · Accepted Answer

As a guy who's 5'8, 5'9 at best I can't worry about something I can't change. Girls who are 5'2 is fine, I think the average height for women in America is 5'4-5'5? But if a woman wants a bigger butt or bigger boobs or larger lips all she needs is surgery but I find incredibly immature and hypocritical if a girl or a woman makes fun of a guy's height meanwhile she's making herself fake by enhancing body parts that aren't real. I'm not saying its wrong for a girl to get breast implants for example, but geez man be civil to each other. I dated a girl taller then me and she was cool with it. If you are a confident guy with a good attitude and good morals, the right girl will come along. It's fine with me also if a girl likes taller guys. But that's like me saying I want a girl who's in shape, not some bitter/cranky overweight girl. Even girls who may be chubby I'd be willing to date if she has an awesome personality. I think some girls or some women are so insecure that they feel if they are with a shorter guy people will look at her differently. I also understand girls or women feel protected with a taller man, again, it's okay but what if that man had to fight in war and dies and that woman is now a widow? So to asker don't lash out at me and call me insecure, I am cool with a girl who likes tall guys, but at the same time its not the end all be all. In fact taller men may have back and knee issues as they get older to, I've seen many athletes in bad shape who are taller or with really bad ankles or knees and where the wife has to take care of the man. This is no shot, people can like who they please, it's a free world and i'm fine with that. Of course majority of guys will say they want to be taller just like a girl will say i want bigger boobs, the difference is, it's easier to change a tit size then your actual size.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Accepted Answer

1. Men can't control their height.
2. 95% of the time women don't actually care about a set number, they just care that they're shorter than their man.
3. Women are absolutely ridiculous with their standards and make their decisions about cognitive attraction based on what their peer group defines as attractive.
4. Nobody is complaining about women that want to date a man taller than them, that's the norm.
5. Men want to date women shorter than them.
6. Women are full of shit on so many of their criteria there's no way for most men, and nearly all inexperienced men, to determine which qualifiers are essential and which ones are shit tests.
7. Even the women that know what they want, don't know what they want.
8. Reread everything stated above.
9. Reread everything stated above 4 more times.
10. Reread everything stated above until you internalize it and realize that you need to stop looking checklists of qualifications and that you just need to find a good guy that makes you happy. Happiness isn't formulaic, and if women keep pushing men away, there's going to be a hard shift where a vast majority of men start taking pride women that start to crash and burn by the time they hit 40.

When both sexes aren't being reasonably and adequately satisfied you'll always have one side working to steal their satisfaction from the other. If you want to stop feeling so empty, start treating men like they're more than just a means to a better future for you. Realize that it's not a one way transaction in relationships where you get to be comfortable while your man works himself to death; you have to work to make it last.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don’t agree, I think this is just your experience
As a short female. I’d say the opposite from my experience.
taller men have always been interested in me and shorter men always wanted taller women. I think coz the shorter men almost wanted a taller woman to compensate for their lack of height. Sort of like why a shorter woman wants a taller man to compensate for her lack of height.
i think the issue is because at 5 4 you are neither tall or short. So a shorter guy usually wants a tall or short woman. Because a tall woman gives him a sense of confidence as he gets height by proxy and a short woman gives him confidence by feeling dominant.

I definitely think you don’t need to analyse this. At 5 4 you shouldn’t have any issue with guys because of your height. It’s a normal height. People like normal in general.
It might be because of other physical attributes that are causing the issue.

alice55 · Accepted Answer

Where the hell do you live where someone would find a 5'4 girl too tall O-O
I'm 5'6 and nobody ever told me I was too tall never, it sound like a joke.

And they do cause they're bitter women reject them for their appearance (something they cannot change) but then they're hypocrite cause even the ugliest of men refuse to date a too tall woman or a fat girl or an ugly girl so really they're just bitter hypocrite with no sense of reality.

TonyV · Answer

Cause we can't control our height that's why, I'm 5'9", I wouldn't consider myself short but clearly I am, I swear 100% of women who say their height preference want a guy over 6', any taller girls like 5'8" and up feel they "need" a man over 6' cause for some reason women feel the need to be the shorter one?🤷‍♂️
Ypu know the meme about guys o. Tinder always posing with the fish? Yeah well lemon are like that with hight, I'd say easily 8 out of 10 chicks have "if you under 6' swipe left" in there profile.

Then other other side of it women hate men who say no fat chicks, women get pissed when guys are picky about parts of women that they can actually change, we can't change height but are suppose to be fine with that, we mention something within a woman's ability to change and we are monsters? Ok cause that's fair.

Cybermetal93 · Answer

In what world or universe is a 5'4 woman tall. They're idiots. Im 5'4 myself and I've never once viewed a woman my height as tall whatsoever. Not that short either it's medium height for a woman. Just go for guys that are like 5'9 and above. As a short man myself I can assure you those short men represent us really bad and it's toxic. I could care less about a woman's height. I've seen an attractive woman of every height idgaf. If I like how a woman looks she can be 10 inches taller than me and idc she'll still be attractive. Most guys think the same just move onto someone. else. I'm sure even some guys my height won't even care either, you're just meeting shitty dudes.

Anonymous · Answer

A "preference" is one thing, but for many women, they'll straight up tell you it's a "deal breaker", which to me is mind blowing. I'd never reject a woman based solely on her height. That seems so ridiculous to me, something they can't control at all that has nothing to do with the person they are, but women think that "he has better genes", which is false also. "Better" in that better chance of her child also being tall, but that is it. Not "better" genes in general. I think a lot of women don't realize that. Unless it's ALL about the safety feeling? Somehow feel more protected? Which is also ridiculous, but feelings don't often make sense lol.

ODC2112 · Answer

The answer is quite simple. The height cannot be changed. So if a man is short, he stays low.
Low men have an inferiority complex called the Napoleon complex.
However, this complex does not fall into the category of mental disorders, but the subjects who are afflicted by it are believed to tend to compensate for their stature with behaviors considered negative, such as aggression or jealousy.

In any case, it must be specified that the name of this syndrome refers to a false historical myth: Napoleon was in fact about 169 cm (5'54 ") tall in a period when the average height of a Frenchman was 164 cm (5 '38 ").

Women that are too short are not that I like them very much (I am 187cm, 6'15"), they tend to be uncomfortable, it takes a search for proportionality between the two heights from my point of view, a ratio of 1: 1.1.

TwinTonyz · Answer

Double standards.
As of late there's a shrinking list of expectations for women in dating but the same cannot be said for men.

It was the body-positive movement which made men's height woes more mainstream. In an era when men are not allowed any cosmetic preferences, especially an aversion to the obese, there is still a height limit imposed against dating men. This is largely viewed as unfair, as men's height isn't necessarily anything they can control, while body fat is manageable.

ZackBan · Answer

I'm 6'3 and I can tell you the reason men complain is because it's kinda true. And I'm not flexing or anything but when I'm out with my shorter friend I'm the one always getting the looks and even he notices and tells me that I keep getting checked out by women. While when i hang with a taller friend although he's a bit skinnier than I am we both get checked out and it's not really noticeable.

TalNas3 · Answer

Women preferring tall men is analogous to men preferring women below a certain weight. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a preference in body type, and most gentlemen give physical traits a lot of weight in deciding who they like.

I believe the frustration stems from having little dating experience, since I have met numerous fellows under 6' with "body counts" below 2. At the same time, there are a few who have large counts. The difference is confidence and how much of priority they give to "finding a woman." When your "shooting the shot" becomes the teeter-totter between having a good or bad day, lack of confidence and anger will manifest.

harmseygracelu · Answer

Okay first of all, we can't just assume what everyone likes and group people together. There's not one set of preferences for every guy in the world.

Because a lot of guys aren't that tall and can't live up to those expectations. What they need to remember is that there's someone for everyone, everyone has different tastes and they can still get a girl. Guys also like a lot of of things that we can't live up to either, it's called life.

InventorofWarp · Answer

It's hard to say I'm not attracted to short women since I've caught feelings for women 5'3 or 5'4 which is WELL over a foot shorter than me but in general I find I am indeed more attracted to women who at least broach 5'8 and have more in common with them as well. For the record I'm still about a foot taller.
My mother is herself 5'8.

HawkPerception · Answer

Taller guys never care about how tall a girl is because most of them are shorter than them. I'm 5'9 and I just prefer girls under my height. I don't really obsess over it. It's just a primitive dominant desire. Just as most girls have their submissive desire for a man that's taller and stronger.

JackSmy · Answer

I don't care if she is taller than me, and plays Volleyball, or if she is shorter! It's all about WHO she is, and how we relate, and feel, together!!
Something rather EROTIC, when dating a tall woman, and she is the Big Spoon, and cuddling!! LOL!! :) :)

JSmuve · Answer

Taller guys (i. e. 6'+) never care because taller guys will almost always be taller than the woman, and will always be desirable to women. A guy who is 5'5" will only be taller than 50% of women, and those 50% who are shorter than him generally will reject him in favour of a guy who's at least 5" taller than her. So a short guy's access in the dating market becomes severely inhibited by something that he didn't choose and cannot change. That's why they complain.

demonics · Answer

Because preferring 6ft tall+ men cuts out 85% of the male population. It just demonstrates how ridiculous female standards have gotten. Men complain about things we cannot change (our height) women complain about things they CAN change (their weight).

I personally prefer women that aren't munchkins, 5'6 and above... its cute when you're like 16 but, its just a hassle when you're older.

Kaamraj · Answer

Tall, now does that mean taller than them, if so then guys would not complain, however if tall means 6 ft. tall or around that age, then some men complain because a fraction of men, meet that criterion which is usually genetic. It's comparable to saying why women complain why men only go for women with natural big breasts, that too is genetic.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

I'm 6'3'' (1.93m)
I don't usualy care how tall is a girl but at last i will hope she will not be under 1.60m (5'4''feets) because i don't want to take the elevators all the way to her to kiss her or hug her.
But even so i will not have a problem if she accept to be lifted all the time to be to my size. :)

genericname85 · Answer

for the same reason women complain about men preferring big boobs. cause not all men are tall and small men also want a partner. and of course you obsess about women more if you have a harder time finding one. same for girls that can't attract a guy. is it really that hard to empathize with that?

Anonymous · Answer

This is interesting as I once watched a video on your tube. There was this guy who interviewed some feminists regarding height preference and they all found it reasonable and even funny to reject guys on their height. However when the interviewer quizzed them in how they would feel if someone rejected them on the basis of their looks such as weight (one of the ladies was overweight) they are all lost their freakin’ minds! They claimed everything under the son from bigotry to misogyny. The truth as I see it is that there are preferences on both sides but we as a society should not tolerate or condone double standards. If women would turn around and say preferences of height is valid for some then so be it, but if guys say they prefer girls who are not obese you can not go ahead and try to shun them from society especially when obesity can be dealt with.

Jlegacy · Answer

Personally I love a girl I am taller than, and I'm 6ft and some inches, and I prefer white ladies but I met a girl who had an irresistible quality. I mean who she is on the inside is golden. More than gold. I fell instantly even though she is almost my height and dark skinned.

The-Wise-Phoenix · Answer

Well of course tall guys don't care how tall a girl is. They can date tall girls and short girls without being told by the girl that they are too short.
You really need this explained to you?🤪

And I don't buy this assertion that guys who are 5 foot 7 told you that your were too tall at 5 for 4.
That didn't happen.

okayk · Answer

They either have some weird tall fetish or they insult you the whole date. Seriously, I was kissing this guy one time and all he could say was "I've nEVer KiSsEd s gIrL ThIs TaLL, it'S sO wEiRd." Not helping your case boys.

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

Because it’s annoying, I’m only 5”10 myself and I’ve had girls tell me I’m cute but I’m too short even though I’m about average height and then they end up with some 6”2 asshole that cheats on them all the time, I personally don’t care about a girls height as long as she’s shorter than me but it seems to me that a good amount of girls are obsessed with a mans height

SupremeWarlord · Answer

Because height is something we don't have control of, so it seems "unfair" to be judged based on that.

Anyway, not all men are like that, I'm a short guy (165 cm, 5'5'') and don't see the big deal in women dumping me for that, it's how they feel after all. It would be more boring if all women preferred the same thing.

Anonymous · Answer

You cannot care about hip dips until woman make you aware of them. Tall guys need not ever be aware of height thus we don't care about it. Short guys get told by woman they are not good enough because x so they focus on it. Focus on the pain. I don't understand how u don't understand pain and hurt bothers people. People wanna to feel good enough.

InferiorElegy · Answer

Guys especially tall guys don't care about height but short guys generally get rejected especially by girls around the same height because the guys are considered too short, so to save themselves from rejection it's easier to just say the girl is too short because she's either gonna just leave the guy for someone hotter and taller or she's gonna reject him. But taller guys have better chances of getting any girl especially if they are really good looking.

dray995 · Answer

Who actually thinks 5’4 is too tall? Do you mean too short? Why would an average height guy want a super short girl? I mean if I was already attracted to her maybe but I’d feel like a giant with anyone under 5’4. I think it would be a bit intimidating.

Truthist1 · Answer

Men will date women shorter (to a point, no midgets) equal height, and taller than them if they can manage it. Women however always seem to want to date men a couple inches taller than them, which to men of equal height to those women seems unfair and petty really. Throw in the fact women artificially increase their height with heels and it just gets downright infuriating

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Because most guys are shorter than women wearing heels, which is why women have that standard. Women feel protected with a man of stature that makes them feel small

Daviddd5412 · Answer

I've never understood why people care about height so much, for both men and women. Like, I've never seen a girl and thought "wow this girl is SO short. That's hot af 😩". That just seems really weird to me.

AlexanderAnttila · Answer

You can like them all you want. But liking tall guys is one thing and completely ripping down on short guys another. I've seen disgusting comments made by women. That's probably what some guys object to in this case.

atlas56656 · Answer

Because women obsess over it and place far more emphasis on it far beyond its actual importance in finding someone to have a decent relationship with. Yes in the past picking a taller man might have been important from a survival/biological point of view as he is judged to more capable of keeping her safe but if you constantly turning guys down because they are a couple of inches shorter than some target you have in your head then you deserve to be single.

K-I-S-S · Answer

As a 5feet 8ish dude i see no problem for women having a prefrence.  Hard limiting it to a number seems pretty stupid though, but that is their choice.

Anonymous · Answer

You need to realize just how many men hate themselves. If you dont believe me, just think about how there's an organization called the military that takes advantage of that. They join because they dont care if they die. So when you girls go around talking about this shit, it isn't funny. Dont project your narcissism onto short, normal, or tall men. We literally dont overvalue ourselves, you aren't humbling us when you incessantly talk about your picky standards.

BBFDancer · Answer

My first and last pre-date girlfriend. She was taller than me even without her heels on.  I don't mind this nose piercing: I like these nails:

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

I think height normally only matters to tall women and short men. Not all but more often than not in my experience, usually not more than "taller/shorter -than me-" though so I don't know why a 5'8 would think you're too short.

Too_Honest · Answer

I don't know man but they’re some of the most bitter people. And it’s ironic considering most of them wouldn’t bother dating a girl taller than them anyway.

MrCommodore · Answer

Yeah my own height or a woman I'm dating height isn't something I really thought about or cared about. The tallest girl I dated was 5ft 7", which is fine as I'm over 6ft.

Feelicks · Answer

I mean it's kind of arbitrary but you do you. I don't like short guys either, they always seem to want to fight me. Like chill out short stack LoL

OddBeMe · Answer

I would say women have more standards and look for reasons to say no to men. So height would be an issue. But that’s their prerogative.

Also chicks are influenced by the media’s idea of perfect coupling.
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john23232323 · Answer

This is major CAP!! It's actually the tall guys that always talk about how much they like short girls. Almost all of them like girls like 5'1-5'2 tall. Most short guys i usually see on here love tall girls, and often even girls taller than them.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

5’4” is average for a woman isn’t it?  Also, I personally like women who are closer to my height or taller.

_no_one_ · Answer

Similarly it's mostly them tiny girls saying "i prefer guy above 6". I ain't never seen any average hight girl complaining about that.

Medlife · Answer

I prefer taller men and I prefer any size women. In women it's not about the height for me. But in men yes. I like to be carried 😁

LeeannaDD · Answer

It's funny because I've never once heard a woman complain about a guys height. Just men complaining about women saying that.

Notfabricated · Answer

Lol because they are probably short, and instead of looking at themselves and wondering why he can't do what that taller guy does they hate. I've been saying it along, hate is the new love. Its so disappointing 😞

Twalli · Answer

Because they know most girls won't reject t bgg rm because of height. Trust me at 5'4", there are a lot of girls that don't like me because of my height. They've told me to my face.

iseekpinetrees · Answer

Usually because thye are short and not getting anyone.

Anonymous · Answer

I think everyone can have physical preferences. you can't force people to date you. I prefere tall men but i also have no problem when men prefere models or skinny, thick, curvy, blond and hot women for example.

ARealHonestHuman · Answer

because not every guy is tall. There are so much guys who are average height and short. there's a small percentage of men that are tall

cth96190 · Answer

In what universe is 5’8” short? It is average height for a white male.

BCA6010 · Answer

I had never heard people b*tch about height as a major factor at all until finding this site.

Anonymous · Answer

the same reason why women complain about men preferring shorter women and prettier women. Simple coz they are not tall and they don't want that to be a problem.

joeblow123 · Answer

Why do women complain about men preferring slimmer feminine women?

Anonymous · Answer

I've never complained but then again I'm 6'2". But a fat wallet is many times more attractive to females than a few more inches of height

NightHawk99 · Answer

Because a lot of women who prefer tall men are the same women who say men shouldn't judge them for their physical appearance.

DaMack999 · Answer

Why do women complain about men preferring shorter women with a booty.

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

the same reason women complain about guys who want thin women Don't complain about weight, if we shouldn't complain about height GET THE FUCK OVER IT

fred_durst · Answer

if you read it at girlsaskguys , it is because this kind of website always attract people who want to complain , most likely because no body IRL willing listen to them

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why women complain about men preferring short and skinny women

Snakeyes7 · Answer

Because the preference is based on an immutable characteristic.

Anonymous · Answer

Short guys are disgruntled losers with a sense of entitlement.

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