Why is it that the overwhelming number of men on GAG don’t have dating lives?

[nella965]

[es20490446e]

Because dating girls is so hard.

For example I have spend all the summertime outdoor, doing group activities, and meeting with all kinds of people (outdoor always, for security).

I haven't meet a single girl to date, with long term perspective.

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

It isn't _hard_, per se. It us just largely pointless unless it is a thoroughly matching person.
Girls hugely overvalue thrmselves (even if they internally think they are worthless - perhaps _because_ of it)
It makes no sense wasting time on any of those. And they pretend you just can't live without them

[es20490446e]

@ThatNoUVAtYourEyes Yeap, that's it.

[Anonymous]

because they're on here trolling and bashing on women

[Anonymous]

Because most men here don’t have the best characteristics and looks.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Because they come here in hope to learn how to be a better man for the dating market and possibly help other men who are struggling.

[exitseven]

I am married so I do not have a dating life. I blame social media for this. Nobody wants to do the work involved to really get to know somebody. It is easier to cut and run at the first sign of trouble.

[Caliguy88]

Well you are always gonna have more guys on a site like this. I’m on here and not dating but get action regularly. Just fun to chat and read people’s stuff

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

There aren't 'more guys' here. Look at the question types. Many have many more female responses than male.

[Caliguy88]

I don't know, maybe. Not saying you are wrong but hasn’t seemed that way to me. I’m sure I’m wrong but was just guessing.

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

Girls alway treat guys in a way that makes it seem like there are plenty of men and few girls - while they secretly stalk you and sift through all the messages you ever wrote - in hopes it will press you to pursue them.
They have hugely overdone this, thus - men going their own way.
The truth of it is most women feel hugely afraid of no one out there wanting to take them and, instead of being their best, kindest, most caring (and careful) selves (and they can be genuinely wonderful) - play these bitch games thinking that will get them a moral victory (which, I suppose, is a sense of proudly being alone, not being alone and desperate... I find it bizzare and super destructive - but no one seems to be telling them to wake up, get a grip and arrange their lives well - probably because we keep focusing on feeding fucking India and China and all the scum of this world, rather than the good people)

[ChrisWells295]

I had lots of long relationships and I'm divorced now with kids to look after.

[nella965]

Why so many long relationships never worked out

[ChrisWells295]

Because sometimes after many years together people change, what they want changes.
Some relationships just run their course and the people drift apart.
It doesn't mean the relationship wasn't successful and loving and passionate, it just doesn't always last forever.

[nella965]

I think people need to understand that marriage is about more than passion and excitement , it’s also about Caring about each other and being there for each other forever. The reality is , there’s no such thing as “family” with all this breaking up. Upon every divorce or breakup, the kids lose a family. And at the end of your life , you don’t have a companion you can trust and rely on. You just look back at a series of passionate but broken relationships.

[nella965]

There’s always gonna be someone better and more exciting. If you’re gonna break up every time due to that , at the end of your life , you will still remain lonely And single dying alone.

[ChrisWells295]

You have to understand that, no matter how good your intentions may be, you can't control what the other person in the relationship will do.
You can try to make it last, but it takes two.

[nella965]

Well you need to find someone that has the mindset of stability over excitement. At the end of the day you’re the one who is responsible for your own life , nobody else cares

[ChrisWells295]

I'm not really looking for anyone right now.
I was in long relationships from the age of 21 until I was almost 40.
I never really had much time to be single.
Now I'm busy with my kids and responsibilities. I'm actually enjoying having the whole bed to myself for the first time in many years. LoL!

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

Surprisingly sane points!

[Jamie05rhs]

I agree with Nella!!

[Anonymous]

A lot of women to! Look at all them saying they can't find a boyfriend.

[Jamie05rhs]

If we had dating lives, why would we be on the internet?

[Recurrence]

I’ve been working on my anxiety and I plan on trying to date before the end of the year

[eagle1951]

well in my case I'm old and don't know how it goes anymore.
And who would really be interested in me anyway?

[nella965]

Other 70 yr old women?

[eagle1951]

8I like younger

[nella965]

Well you’re not attracted to women your own age. That explains why no one is attracted to you

[eagle1951]

well there is another reason they dont like me. 1 I'm not looking. and 2 i don';t care

[888theGreat]

Some are retarded and can't and some are too busy. Some have no jobs.

[Anonymous]

That’s the ones that mostly come here for advice just like there are more virgins on here than anywhere else

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

Why else would anyone be on GaG?
Do you (have a dating life)?

[Snakeyes7]

Some don't want one, some don't know how to get one.

[Slim57]

And the women don't either lol. I've been dating whilst still on here and single it happens

[jasco]

because most women don't like us.

[Anonymous]

I am married. What about you?

[rjroy3]

Lmao fair play. Point to anon

[nella965]

What is a married guy doing on here

[Opinion Owner]

It is not a dating site, please don't confuse it with one

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

What are girls with boyfriends, dates or husbands doing on here? Looking for a replacement?

[nella965]

@ThatNoUVAtYourEyes this is a married man on here. Not a married woman

[rjroy3]

You really should stop while you're ahead girly. Not a good look

[nella965]

@rjroy3 I’m not married

[rjroy3]

I'm talking about taking yourself way too seriously. Obviously what he said was a joke. You're taking this 3-4 comments deep when it's not even that serious lol chill

[nella965]

@rjroy3 what joke?

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

@rjroy3 she is basically asking 'why do no men on this forum chat me up/attempt to date me' - as girls very typically do. For whatever reason, men work for relationships, some excruciatingly hard, women simply expect them, whether they worked for them or not whether they made huge mistakes or not.
It is how girls are raised - to be different, fragile, submissive - I won't go into reason since it is a different topic.

[nella965]

@ThatNoUVAtYourEyes well men are biologically programmed to work hard to attract mates while females just usually sit back and wait to be approached. Just take a look at peacocks and lions. It’s always the males that need to impress the females. During mating season, males compete and fight each other over female mates. Same for sperm. Sperm chases the egg

You can’t argue against something that is purely biology

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

We are not biologically programmed that way at all.
That is what morons are taught to believe.
It is pure and simple matter of how you were socialised, what lies you were taught.

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

If anything, women, in their laziness, fight over men.
And the low value ones try to create this obligation for men to pursue them. Obligation that is just not there.

[nella965]

@ThatNoUVAtYourEyes

Just because there are a few women who fight each other for men, it doesn't mean that most women fight for men. In nature especially animals, it is always the males who fight each other for female mates during mating seasons. Nobody taught male lions to kill each other in competition for female mates. In humans, its almost always the males making the first move on females. Sperm chases the egg. Egg doesn't chase the sperm.

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

Keep going... maybe you find something there.
Maybe you realise that's what you are on GaG to get out of your head...

[nella965]

@ThatNoUVAtYourEyes

You can’t argue with facts

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

Nella, get married, will ya?
1965 is no excuse for procrastination

[nella965]

@ThatNoUVAtYourEyes

Me getting married still won't change the fact that men are biologically programmed to chase women. End of story

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

Sure. Keep telling yourself that. Has no effect on my life, why would I care?