Boyfriend never wants to hug me?

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Or touch me, maybe like 5 min a day and then he wants me to back off, he wabts sex maybe once a week. I talked to him about it he says he loves me and wants me but i just dont believe it.

Jake99999 · Accepted Answer

He is not very affectionate. Some people are like that. And often you will see a man and woman who is like that too.. they find each other and it is a good match.

But if you are very affectionate and he isn’t…then it’s not going to work. In my view you won’t be able to “train” him to be something he is not. Besides - you want affection to be natural and come from the heart. You want it to be authentic.

The other possibility is that he is not very attracted to you but is staying around because he values other things in the relationship.

Either way, sounds like you and he are not on the same page. When you are with someone who is not what you want them to be - don’t try to change them to fit your mold. Go find another guy who is authentically want you want.

FR_Ruby · Accepted Answer

That sounds bad. A lot of bad boys are only into their girlfriends for the sex. If there's no affection for you it's probably because he's sexually done with you and wants to move on and have sex with other girls. Sometimes boys are like that, it's lame. It's cuz guys naturally tend to want to spread there seed, that's why affection is so important for keeping a guy faithful to a single girl, but if he's unaffectionate that's a terrible sign.

daniellec317 · Accepted Answer

Sounds like he is not very affectionate! I’ve had this issue with a man before. I’m a very affectionate woman. I want the man I love to want to randomly walk up to me and hug me. Kiss me. Grab my face and kiss me! Pick me up and spin me around. Make sure he understands your love language and that affection is very important to you.

karaspara · Accepted Answer

Sounds like he has problems with intimacy perhaps he grew up in a home where it wasn't encouraged

slatyb · Answer

It doesn't matter what he says, you want more physical affection in your relationship. You have asked and he has not responded. Are you willing to live with that frustration for another 30 years or so? No? Then it's time to break up.

Jlegacy · Answer

He is boyfriend and not husband. In my opinion, all premarital relationships have these quirks. So rather than be fit for a boyfriend, live your best life now and focus on your husband. He won't have these quirks.

Anonymous · Answer

He has game he's gamer did you know that man who doesn't have game is loser to a woman? . So relax it's part of the game men learned to be bad ass to keep relationship with women. If he hug you more and sex more you will take him for granted and lose interest he will be loser with no game. A man with no game is a loser to a woman. SMH

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, every girl wants hugs you need to tell him that he needs to come around and act like he loves you, or your moving on to find a new guy

Fuentes · Answer

Some dudes like space after awhile we don't always need to be touching each other especially after i nut im like get up off me lol if you don't like it talk to him & if nothing changes then break up & go after what you deserve right

RasberrySlushPuppy · Answer

could be that he's not used to being affectionate because his family are like this. Does he like you hugging him? i mean who doesn't like a hug?

Kyle-Jackson · Answer

im not touchy either, I dont like being hugged by anyone really, Your boyfriend could be the same

SamFromFL · Answer

That’s not normal. Was he the same in past relationships?

Scotte1us · Answer

Some guys dont like too mushy girls , i dont see anything wrong unless he has another one, hire a private investigator to see if he is cheating :)

Clarke498 · Answer

Yeah that sounds very strange. Is he asexual? Or maybe there's some trauma in his past?

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Once a week? I thought that was a once in a while thing

888theGreat · Answer

Some guys are not so touchy feelly. You touch him? Squeeze his crotch?

MrSwisher · Answer

I'd play bad cops and have a conversation be like cut the crap i know somethings going on

Anonymous · Answer

would you believe if he told you he hated your guts and hoped you dropped dead?

es20490446e · Answer

Who doesn't want to hug his nice little princess?

Iron_Man · Answer

Start trying to get him to hug you more

Wise4myage · Answer

I think its time to cut him loose.

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