Boyfriend never wants to touch me?

[Anonymous]

No cuddles, sex once a week, or two... no kissing with tongue. No hugging. He jist says no, and when i tell him im out he says go. Very touchy...

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He used to be very into me

[btbc92]

This is not about love. This relationship is about sex. If you want him to display that, you get married. Not have sex and all of this which should be in a marriage and then you are shocked he isn't doing that. He doesn't have to. Neither do you. When you married that is different. His attitude tells me he is unhappy with you for whatever reason and or he is harboring something either you done and it never got resolved or he is badly depressed about something. Listen. Nobody can be INTO you. I realize it's just fake when people say that. Either they love you, want to, or they don't. People's feelings can change. Something got him on edge for him to behave that way towards you. I believe it is best to leave him alone until he is in a place of communication. The fact you're giving him sex outside of marriage on top of that AND when his behavior is like this shows you're promoting the behavior and in turn, you getting used and hurt if not emotionally abused. When a person is touchy, they're upset with YOU. Usually. It could be somebody else. But oftentimes, it's you. I don't what you did, I believe you may not have done anything to warrant that behavior. But whatever it is, you're going to have to halt everything and talk to him. Otherwise, you already know what the answer is.

[lolitababy123]

He chased me 3 years, i dissappeared for a year and came back to him

[btbc92]

@lolitababy123 Are you serious? You got involved with a guy who never loved you. He used you, I'm sorry to say. It is possible he is seeing or messing with somebody else. And you need to get your life in order. This is unhealthy. No healthy relationship is like that. Again, it sounds like you need to end this relationship because it's just going to get worse. He just wants something out of you, but because you may not give him what he wanted, he is just using this relationship to gain from you. Again, it's best this ends for your sake and not have premarital sex again. A boyfriend shouldn't do that. A husband is the only one who should touch you. Technically this guy is your husband, but if you don't want to stay with the guy, what else are you holding on to? Guys like that always do that in the beginning and their true colors come out. This is who he really is. He doesn't see the need to put the effort anymore because he already has you and you're tolerating that.

[lolitababy123]

What do u mean used? He chased me i always rejected him.

[btbc92]

@lolitababy123 Your expecting sex, to be touched etc. You crave the love of a husband. And this man cannot be a husband to you because he isn't. He chased you because again, your attractive to him, he saw you was avlaiable at the time. He wanted what he couldn't have. And now that he has you, he doesn't see the need for teh chase anymore. He just didn't want to be alone. That didn't mean he wanted to love you. A man who loves respects you. They don't chase like that. They are not that desperate. ONLY if they truly see a future with you and truly want to be with you that rejection may not be enough if there is no probable cause. There was probable cause from what I am sensing and seeing as to why you rejected him many times. Why go to a man you rejected? Because you were lonely too. And now you feel alone in this relationship.

[btbc92]

The worse thing you could have done was not stand your ground and not date the guy. He was already with problems. Now, look where you are? In a big relationship rut. From what your stating, it was all planned. Again, you are not at fault. He planned this from the beginning. He got what he wanted now he feels like he doesn't have to do much. It may not be what you want to hear, but you're not pleasing to him anymore. I'm sorry, again for saying that. That's why again, another reason why I don't bother with men on that level. You'll always as a female, as a woman, as a female born, be at a man's mercy. You never know when you're loved. You never know when you are pleasing to him, wanted, etc. They change as we do. But it's clear that again, he wanted you sexually, got you, now your not that excitable anymore. And again, I am only laying it out for your striaght. Not judging you, but warning you, guard yourself. This is why you get married also. But be watchful about who you get married to. Relationships, not even a marriage should be like this. But in a relationship, your not supposed to behaving sex or doing this anyway. And that is another reason why you don't because people who had sex with different people can end up like this also, and the next thing you know, you're affected by it because now you are active. And you start to believe and your sexuality is shaped by these toxic sexual experiences.

[lolitababy123]

Yh he says he s not seeing someone else.

[btbc92]

@lolitababy123 If he is not seeing somebody else, then what is his problem? Again, you shouldn't be having sex before marriage. But if he is not stable-minded for a relationship, then he shouldn't be taken advantage of you like that. Why did he pursue you if this is how he is going to treat you as if it is your fault? He has a lot of explaining to do otherwise, you decide if you want to stay with that.

[lolitababy123]

I rejected himbecause of his lifestyle years ago now he s arms length but he still calls me baby

[btbc92]

And like I said. You should have just left his guy alone. Regardless of what his lifestyle was like years ago, why do you think you behaving the way he's behaving? I already explained this before. It's the guy really cared at all about you he wouldn't have done what he did in the first place. Now you're being treated as if you're not worth it to him. If you want to stay in that kind of relationship that's on you parrot is bad enough what was done was done. But if you want to stay stuck with him because you feel like you have nobody else that's now on you. You need to learn to love you as a person. Because that guy cannot give you what you want and need. Until you decide to get out of that relationship is just going to continue to be a continuous thing.

[lolitababy123]

Why do u think he cannot givemewhatoneed

[btbc92]

@lolitababy123 Is he doing that now? Like I said, your choice if you want to stay or not.

[rienna888]

If he doesn’t give you that, the basics, you should dump him cuz he sounds like he’s bored and he sucks as a boyfriend

[slatyb]

Have you asked him? Why is he still your boyfriend?

[Wise4myage]

Get rid of him and find a new boyfriend.

[Asker]

U think he doesnot like me

[Wise4myage]

Yes I do. But ask him,.

[Asker]

U thinl he does

[Wise4myage]

That's what his actions say.

[Asker]

That he does or doesn't?

[Wise4myage]

He doesn't.

[Pterodon]

Why haven’t you dumped him?

[ChiTown33]

Sounds like a keeper

[es20490446e]

Why?