So my coworker tells me that she talks about me a lot so her son said he would like to take me to lunch. I dont see the point of this? Am I missing something? I asked ," just for lunch?" She said ," well that's what he said to me. And he likes to know the people I talk to. I talked about a patient one time so I brought the patient by his place to meet him. It's just for lunch that's it." Apparently he text me ," hey is this so and so?" I seen it but if a number isn't saved its obviously someone I have no interest in talking to. Anyways, my coworker says her son was like ," I text her mom have you heard anything from her, blah blah". I'm confused like what's the point? What am I missing here? We've never met or seen each other
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Let me start off by saying I ignored his previous text saying, " hey is this blank (my name)?" He just text again today saying ," hey this is so and so son."
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Today the mom seemed like she had an attitude this morning since I hadn't text her son. Then she finally started talking all friendly. This is the very reason why I have no plans of dealing with a coworkers son
Coworker claims her son who I have not met wants to take me out for lunch. I dont see the point, so I'm not interested. Am I being fair?
At first I thought “just go, what’s the harm, it’s just lunch” and then I read the part about taking the patient to his place to meet him. This sounds concerning to me and that he has no boundaries to expect his mums patients to drop by and meet them. You have two options here, either keep ignoring the messages but if you do that then you need to think of what you can say when your boss brings it up again or you send a polite response to him that you’d like to keep work and your personal life separate but you appreciate his offer
Exactly, and that's another reason I'm not interested. And he just sounds like a time waster who is trying to size me up to see if I'm someone he wants to be with or interested in. It reminds me of those guys who say," what do you bring to the table?" Like bitch I am the table chiii bye. And my focus is different these days. It's on me and my level up journey. Not some knuckle head
I used to want a mamas boy cause of the whole “he knows how to treat a lady.” But man the mamas boys these days cling to their mom too much and she makes all their decisions and interferes and the relationships and nah i just dont have time for it
Omg!!! That is the truth. That's how I thought until I dated a mommas boy and a sisters boy. Yes his sister had control over his relationships I was done
@DizzyDesii your comment🤣🤣😭😭.. yeah last thing I need is her in my business. Like he'll nah. Imma ignore his ass. if he text again I'm just going to tell him you moms my coworker I don't go out with coworkers family members
Just tell her you are not interested. She is trying to play match maker. You don't have to agree to play. He is probably saying lunch because its a nice easy start because its in the middle of the day, usually no drinking, and its usually short -if its on a weekday especially. So he is trying to make it seem low-risk for you. But if you could care less and are not interested, then just tell her no thanks. She is not the boss of you.
I just don't want to be involved with a coworkers son especially not hers. Because she will be all up in the business. She said he already goes to her now asking what happened why she dont reply. That's too much. Now today seemed like she had an attitude this morning. This is the stuff I don't like
I would tell the mom that you don’t feel comfortable with a lunch date with a coworkers son it’s not worth messing with your money same as not dating a coworker because if it goes bad it can become very uncomfortable at work or could even cost you your job due to drama at work it’s never smart to shit where you eat plus it sounds like a mom desperately trying to get her son married and why can’t he get his own dates just my opinion
You hit the nail on the head!!! I agree I'm definitely not interested in no lunch date with a coworkers son. My thoughts too she wants grandkids and is in a rush to marry him off. On top of that we've never met nor seen each other so I don't get why he keep texting. Seems desperate. I finally responded because I'm going to tell him I'm not interested in a lunch date with a coworkers son. From there he should dissappear
The usual thing you get, is someone saying you should date their son / daughter and then add in the comment of you might be able to sort their life out.
I’ve seen it a few times, even among work colleagues where their son / daughter dates and they make a similar comment.
People do not pimp their kids out unless there is a reason.
That sounds like some kind of obsessive thing. Like he has to do this with all of the people his mom comes into contact with or else he thinks something bad will happen to him or his mom. It sounds like ocd but I’m not a doctor so I don't know. What do you think his problem is? 💀
Girl!!! That's what I'm saying like the mom needs to be clear about wtf is going on. First she said ," oh it's just lunch he just likes to get to know the people I'm around." Then she turns around and says," oh my son is a good guy he's very intelligent has his own place blah blah." Then she says," yeah he kept asking me why you didn't text him back". It's Like wtf is it? Like ate you trying to play matchmaker , is he trying to size me up to see if I'm girlfriend quality ( tf I don't have the time for some negro to determine if I'm Wifey or girlfriend material like nigga is u hubby material? Boy 👋🏾). Or is it just wanting to know who his mother knows but I mean I'm feeling like wtf so u need to meet everyone your momma meet? It all sounds unclear and uninteresting to me. I'm not interested
I can see why this whole situation would be too much lol. Like how does she not get that this comes off as super strange 💀💀💀. He sounds weird to me just bc u said he has done this before and with a patient 😶😐. Super sus. It sounds more like obsession to me but it could just be mom trying to play match maker and being not-so-subtle-kinda-creepy about it lmao. She probably tells him about all the cute women he could potentially be with and he goes “sounds great! Give me her number!”. FLAG❌❌🙅🏾♀️. Either that or she makes it sound like you are looking for someone/ desperate. Bigger flag 🤦🏾♀️. At the end of the day she just wants him out of the house lol. She probably is thinking: “please just take him!!” 💀😂
🤣🤣🤣 girl that's what I feel she is trying to play match maker in a sly way instead of being straight forward. She claims he has his own place and he has a career he's just below a lawyer. But he's not a lawyer so🙄
That’s even worse bc that means he has his own place but is still up under his mom like that ❌❌❌❌❌❌💀 hell no. Maybe frl she just wants him to have more friends 💀 who knows but they can figure that mess out themselves 😂 too many flags
Well see the issue is the mom started out saying he just wants to go for lunch I talk about you. Just lunch nothing else. So I said cool it's football season so I figured I'd have a male friend to bar hop with. Then later on her asking her what happened I didn't respond to his text. Now he texting me again good morning this is so and so. I never met this dude in my life so I don't know why he keep on. It's just weird
Then his mom changed the tune after I said cool bar hop, male friend football. She said oh no he doesn't want to watch football he wants to sit and have lunch with you. Like bruh wtf make up your mind. Wtf are these folks up to. Nah I m not interested
I definitely can see why lol. Such an awkward situation. Next time the mom bring sum up u should be like “sorry I’m not interested” 💀💀💀 I don’t understand why he want to sit down with u and have a one on one/ text u but like you haven’t even met yet or know anything about one another. 🤦🏾♀️Oh man smh. Good luck girl! Update us about how the whole thing ends!
Right, like I've never met the dude in my life nor seen him. So I don't get why he even wants. He sounds desperate. Why keep texting someone u don't even know? Just weird
It sounds like your coworker is trying to set you up with her son to me, maybe just a conclusion but still sounds like an uncomfortable situation, I'd just tell her your not interested.
Mom: "So one of thw women at work was say-" Son: "She single?" Mom: "-that... I think so, why?" Son: "Single women are hot. Gi'me her number." Mom: "Ummm... ok."
Sure. It's your choice of you want to try what sounds like a blind date to me. If your not interested that's okay your not being unfair at all. No reason anyone should think you are either.
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This is called arranged dating and is totally normal. What's shocking is how many people are unaware of what a recommendation and set up is. you're too accustomed to meeting random people "romantically" with no accountability. Hence it's easy to sleep witn them. The idea that this could be a serious relationship opportunity is making you realize how silly you truly are.
This whole situation just sounds dodgy, so I would take steps to make sure your work isn't on the line at any point. This situation sounds crazy enough that I wouldn't be surprised if him and his mom will wait outside the building at some point, trying to get you to do something. Just gives off weird vibes.
Outside the building 🤣.. I prefer a guy who makes a move on his own and not through his mother. Sounds very momma boyish and me and his mom work together. What are we gonna do on lunch breaks , talk about her son? It's just odd. On top of that she said ," oh he just wants to take you out for lunch. When she first said that I said cool it's football season that should be fun hit up a sports bar. So I said yeah sure give him my number because I'm thinking in terms of a cool guy friend bar hop and watch football. But then after she goes no he doesn't want to watch football he just wants to sit and have lunch with you. Well that's what he told me. So it's just unclear and odd
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