Hi big tangent sorry, here’s the story: I had a crush on this girl I worked with for a few years, I admit it eventually, and turns out she had one on me.
We been on a few dates which went fantastically. We’ve been to each other’s houses met families, she really just said hi to mine.
I visited hers and got stuck there after a lockdown was announced (Her family wouldn't let me leave at first, but I missed my family, thought this was really a stressful thing for us, and left after a week…yes I’m dumb should’ve went home far sooner)
We’ve been talking over texts but I’ve just started thinking about small things;
She doesn’t reply fast, ever (she never has). She’s not busy; we’re in a lockdown so its not work and she doesn’t study.
While there she leaned away from a kiss, I think I played it off, acting as if I was going for her forehead.
(We’ve only kissed twice before)
She also got shocked when we were cuddling and my leg touched her butt, she turned and looked instantly, when she realized it was my leg she didn’t care.
She recently just left me on read on a normal, slightly flirty, conversation. Which has killed me inside.
We’ve been dating for a few months now, and she still hasn't initiated a kiss. She would initiate cuddles, and would sometimes sit on my lap. It doesn't seem she wants me to be more physically intimate. I haven't dated anyone before so I have no clue, I'm am afraid of being more physical; I don't want her to be uncomfortable. (I mean doing things like 'making out', 'feeling her', 'groping', 'getting frisky' etc.)
I keep going back and fourth every few days thinking either:
“were okay I’m overthinking”
or
“She’s lost Interest in me”/ “She shouldn’t be making me feel this way, should I stop dating her”
I don’t know if I’m being anxious and maybe just have some issues I need to sort out, or if my paranoia is justified and if she really has lost interest, or if I’ve ruined things by not moving at the right pace, and being to cowardly.
We been on a few dates which went fantastically. We’ve been to each other’s houses met families, she really just said hi to mine.
I visited hers and got stuck there after a lockdown was announced (Her family wouldn't let me leave at first, but I missed my family, thought this was really a stressful thing for us, and left after a week…yes I’m dumb should’ve went home far sooner)
We’ve been talking over texts but I’ve just started thinking about small things;
She doesn’t reply fast, ever (she never has). She’s not busy; we’re in a lockdown so its not work and she doesn’t study.
While there she leaned away from a kiss, I think I played it off, acting as if I was going for her forehead.
(We’ve only kissed twice before)
She also got shocked when we were cuddling and my leg touched her butt, she turned and looked instantly, when she realized it was my leg she didn’t care.
She recently just left me on read on a normal, slightly flirty, conversation. Which has killed me inside.
We’ve been dating for a few months now, and she still hasn't initiated a kiss. She would initiate cuddles, and would sometimes sit on my lap. It doesn't seem she wants me to be more physically intimate. I haven't dated anyone before so I have no clue, I'm am afraid of being more physical; I don't want her to be uncomfortable. (I mean doing things like 'making out', 'feeling her', 'groping', 'getting frisky' etc.)
I keep going back and fourth every few days thinking either:
“were okay I’m overthinking”
or
“She’s lost Interest in me”/ “She shouldn’t be making me feel this way, should I stop dating her”
I don’t know if I’m being anxious and maybe just have some issues I need to sort out, or if my paranoia is justified and if she really has lost interest, or if I’ve ruined things by not moving at the right pace, and being to cowardly.
