Girls, Would you date a guy with autism?

[GreenGold1992]

He has high-functioning Asperger's and is clearly socially awkward, but is capable of taking care of himself and living independently.

[Bgurl2_0]

I have dated a guy with Autism. But, because his mom had babied him SO MUCH and used his hemophilia condition as an excuse not to work or do stuff around the house, there wasn't any equality in the relationship. He also needed me to be on call with him 24/7 and tried to move fast on the sexual part of our relationship. One time I suggested that we would only video chat when I was at home and he began to hyperventilate, cry, and even puked to make me feel bad for suggesting that to him. Now, I have a mild intellectual disability and sometimes putting my foot down is a hard thing to do. I finally decided to end things when my friends from college were telling me that I had changed and I wasn't even involved in conversations because of him. Plus, they saw that I wasn't happy being on call with him anymore because he hardly paid attention to me. We barely talked while we were on call and he was always focused on his games, giving me the excuse that it helps calm him down. And while I encourage people doing things to calm them down, I found it quite disrespectful that he did that while we were on call and hardly paid attention.

BUT! Just because I had a bad experience with someone who had Autism, doesn't mean that other people will. My story is to help people understand that it doesn't matter what disability you got, everyone's capable of being loving and respectful in a relationship or being evil and manipulative in a relationship. But since I dated someone with Autism, I will say that yes I would, but I'm currently in a loving relationship with someone right now that isn't Autistic, he just has a few learning disabilities is all. Even though my answer wasn't just a straight yes or no answer, I hope it helped! :)

[Bgurl2_0]

I made an error. I meant to say that: he also needed to be on call with me 24/7. Lol. :P

[GreenGold1992]

Wow, that is a messed up story, but it does help. Sounds like he was very selfish.

[Bgurl2_0]

He was selfish. But like I said, not all people who date someone with Autism experience the same thing. A lot of times, people with autism don't get social queues and have a hard time communicating with people. That's why it can be a bit more difficult to date someone with autism, but, as long as the person who is dating the person with autism is understanding and patient, things can work out. But my situation didn't work out and I should've known it wouldn't because he had a track record of girls cheating on him and I wondered why they did and it was probably because they didn't wanna hurt his feelings and say they wanted to break up with him. But I had morals and am always the person that cuts to the chase and just tells people like it is and with a bit of help from my college friends and my college therapist, I had the courage to break up with him. I'm now in a much healthier and happier relationship with somebody who understands my mild intellectual disability and is very patient with me.

But again, not all people are going to have a bad apple in a relationship. People with autism can be very sweet and kind. They're just very literal and have no filter when it comes to saying things. But again, if the person is willing to understand and be patient, things can work out.

[GreenGold1992]

You said it all

[Anonymous]

I have and because of that experience I wouldn’t do it again. This man would be absolutely terrible to me and blame it on his autism every time.

[GreenGold1992]

You do realize not all people with autism are like that, right?

[Opinion Owner]

I would hope not, but that experience was so negative that I wouldn’t even risk going through it again.

[GreenGold1992]

Understandable

[BlacklightShade]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/bgV26ol51UM

Yes.

[BlacklightShade]

Autism has such a large spectrum, so my decision would have to be based on where the person is on that spectrum.

[GreenGold1992]

Maybe so high on the spectrum, that you wouldn't know by looking at him without him or someone telling you beforehand?

[BlacklightShade]

Sure. Knowing when someone is autistic helps to understand them.

[19magic]

I'll be friends with one but I can't handle that again my little bro and several cousins are all autistic and funnily enough I'm working for autism charity atm but for a life partner I can't do it.

[GreenGold1992]

Understandable and ironic

[laraWM]

Yes of course. Why not? I'm not excluding anyone before meeting at least once

[doopayo]

Sure, I have a couple family members on the spectrum plus a few friends.

[menina]

I guess I wouldn't. I would be afraid of hurting him and I wouldn't know how to deal with his condition.

[tatianamay]

If both of us had good chemistry, then yes

[Pinky_what_why]

Yes I would, depending on the vibe

[MoonStalker]

If I loved him.

[omgjassy]

Yeah, if I liked him