Is it acceptable to call someone out for playing games?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been seeing each other for 2 months. Last week she ghosted me most the week and this week I invited her on a date. She waited a whole 24 hrs to respond and said she was too busy for a date, and didn’t even offer to reschedule.

This really got on my nerves and I feel disrespected. I want to call her out and set my boundaries. I don’t really care if she leaves because I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t respect me.

Call her out and set your boundaries

Don’t

Updates

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Her snapscore would go up even though she doesn’t respond. She’s blatantly ignoring me

[Little_Bumblebee]

Call her out. If you don't feel like you're treated properly, then say so.

But also, not everybody has the time to answer right away.
I do understand that you would like for her to be quicker on the draw when texting instead of feeling neglected. And as if you're not important.
Talk with her about it.

[Asker]

Nobody is “busy” enough to ignore someone they’re dating for days

[Asker]

The only reason I say days is because I sent another message. It might’ve been forever if I hadn’t

[Little_Bumblebee]

I don't know about her life, so I cannot say.
Either way, talk to her about it.

[Asker]

Her snapscore would go up even when she doesn’t respond. She’s blatantly ignoring me

[Little_Bumblebee]

Then talk. To. Her. About. It.

[Asker]

I think she’s just trying to get rid of me because I indirectly treat her like shit. She drives 2 hrs to see me whenever I want, and I’ve never done the same. I never even called her, asked if she got home safe, sent a good morning text, mentioned a relationship or have even held her hand. But we always have a lot of fun together

[Little_Bumblebee]

Well if you treat her like crap like that, then I get why she's not texting you back fast. Don't be a little shit.

[Asker]

Is that even considered to be treating her like shit? I’m really fun and good to her in person

[Little_Bumblebee]

You're showing you don't really care about her and you're not invested in the relationship.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think she’s interested in you anymore, “she didn’t even offer to reschedule” that’s bc she doesn’t want to go on a date with you. Just say what you gotta say one last time then move on.

[Shizunk]

Just stop responding. Let her make an effort now, or let it end end. No need to argue with someone about not being available enough.

[Asker]

She made the most effort. She drove 2 hrs to see me whenever I wanted. I never drove to her

[Shizunk]

Well then my gut says you may be overreacting. Makes sense to bring it up, but I dont see how forcing it to the point of letting it escalate to an argument helps you. As in, make a request and let her know it's important, but "I don't care if she leaves me" is not exactly a productive state of mind to be in while doing that negotiation about boundaries. Unless you seriously don't value neither her nor two months of your time.

[ChiPaPa]

End it. Dump her.