Are you currently dating and consider yourself "Marriage Minded"?

[coachTanthony]

[lilyanony1]

I'm single, the longest time I've ever been single since I started dating.

I'm kind of feeling like I might not find someone since I don't find very many people attractive/dateable. I'm not a snob or stuck up, I've just struggled to find someone before and out my all into the wrong one for too long... Also since its all dating sites and I'm not 'current' I don't seem to have what it takes beat the competition. At least to find a husband.
I would need to be earning more than I do, look as fit as jlo and just be everything and anything. And that's just not me.

[melanieeeB]

I stopped dating years ago and well I'm currently for the first time since 2018 really seeing someone but I don't wanna call it dating.
We're having fun, still we did met each others families already, talking everyday and we will see were this goes

I'm not dating ever again and for sure not dating to get married, cause then you will put up with some bullshit. I just wanna have fun and enjoy the person, the journey and see what happens.. if we end up married cool and if not then oh well

[Vikkrram]

If you personally ask me coach i never had a girlfriend till now. And I don't have any experience of girls coz i even didn't have female friends. So for me honestly speaking i just don't want marriage. But i know this ain't gonna happen , i have to.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am currently living with the girlfriend who I started dating last December and I would consider marriage if all is well after two years of a relationship.

[AmandaYVR]

Definitely.
I'm less idealistic than when I was in my twenties.
But I am marriage-minded. Or at least committed relationships-minded. You get the depth that way. Shallow relationships bore me.

[t-8900]

Hypothetical. Do you think a guy in my age bracket could win the affections of a gal in your own?

[AmandaYVR]

@t-8900 Yes. I would say absolutely possible.
See, and by the fact that you call it "win the affections of..." and the rest of your phrasing, shows a certain sensitivity, almost romanticism, or maybe it's respect, or appreciation of love.
I'm against words like 'cougar' etc. I believe love is love. And it can happen anywhere.
And for some others, they don't want love. They want passionate sex and not for it to last indefinitely. That's a kink, more so. Which is also okay, but not my style. I don't know how to feel about that, personally.
Older women have seen things, been through things, and they don't have the same inexperienced eyes that much younger do. I know that many men like younger women because they see them as having 'less baggage'. But the same goes for men. It's no different. Although men seem to prioritize the body, fertility, all that, of course.
And then some of the advantages with older is that they don't play games, they are unafraid to be more demonstrative with the man and shoulder more of the responsibility than a younger girl would who wants to be chased; they know themselves more, they're emotionally mature, likely less debilitating insecurities, or need for acceptance or constant affirmation. They are also stronger, and can take care of a man in some ways, like very comforting emotional strength and support. These don't always apply, of course, but are more likely to be there. So if the guy is younger, but has these similar qualities, it makes for a more even and communicative relationship.
It depends what type of woman you, or someone is interested in. But I have never thought it's a particular turn on, big age differences. For me, it's about personality, and connection. I know that some men like the idea of not having to be so 'in charge', directing the relationship. It feels good to be taken care of, right?

[AmandaYVR]

Connection can happen between all sorts of people. I never lived my life limited by social norms like what age you are 'supposed' to be with. Though maturity is key. (I'm certainly not advocating an older woman being with a guy in his low 20s who's barely an adult. No.) And life experience (this is huge/integral.) Wisdom comes with age, but some are definitely more wise than others.
When I was in my low twenties I was with a man 25 years my senior; for three years. And now that I am older, I can still relate to much younger men, and they to me. (Though I personally have found that they have to be in their late 20s. Younger than that is too young.)
I think these are more social boundaries. They can be pushed past, if you desire. And if she desires.
Some people are special. If you click, you click. Mutual respect, and appreciation, is not something that should be taken for granted. You can build on that.

[t-8900]

I PMed you

[Jamie05rhs]

@AmandaYVR I like your descriptions and comparisons between older women and younger women. I think they're very accurate.

Also, I don't mind being in charge; I just don't enjoy herding cats.

[AmandaYVR]

@Jamie05rhs hahahahaha. I like it. 🐈🤛👍 (I gotta give ya a rare 3 emojis on that comment, lol.)

[Jamie05rhs]

Haha. Thanks, @AmandaYVR.

[corny_cooter581]

Well, im single bjt for now I'm not really interested in marriage. I can't really imagined myself being married to anyone but maybe someday that'll change

[lovedejj_xo]

I’m single …. and from what I see daily it’s slim pickings that I refuse to settle for. In terms of being marriage minded sure…. I’m not going to be in a relationship with you with that not in mind.

[Anonymous]

When I grow up, I'd want to date a man who's loyal, intelligent, caring and kind. I'd not want to date a man who's toxic, or does not want to be in an exclusive relationship. I can live without getting married, but I do like the idea of getting married someday, its not a necessity though. I care about the person I'm with, not about a piece of paper. Marriage provides security and all, but its not exactly a requisite for me to be with a person. If he wants to get married, then hey, that's cool!

[Anonymous]

We are planning and those plans will be beginning to be put into place next year. We have things we need to pay for first before we can afford the wedding. We’ve looked around at where and the cost of things etc getting different ideas. I’ve said I don’t want an engagement until we start booking things as I feel the engagement is empty otherwise but we are very much on the marriage path

[WhoRtheseGuys]

I’m gagging at this question. I may vomit. Can’t answer. Sorry. I tried!!!

[KingofCups]

Why is the older generation so obsessed with marriage, young people don't even know what love feels like and y'all are placing expectations for us to commit to one person for a life time and raise a family. I've seen too many dysfunctional families to believe that it's possible. I honestly hope society can find a more modern solution to raising children and finding love. Tradional Family Values just seem like an delusional outdated practice.

[Starwitch23]

Yeah, I'm not mindlessly looking around. I'm not hooking up or thinking rosily about someone if I don't think we are compatible.

[DarynCarlson]

I already did all that, I had a long successful marriage until it ended.
I was dating, but I've accepted the fact that I am addicted to my ex. I've began the process of planting seeds towards getting her back.

[Dnice1]

Marriage is definitely on my mind, I wanna marry my man ❤❤❤

[NathanDavis]

I'm currently single and not looking

and while I am not in the marriage mindset, that's very possibly the next step, it will be considered for sure, only time will tell... though

[SkyCastle90]

No. I want to say yes or maybe, but one is wishful thinking and the other is wishy-washy. Even though I'm with a wonderful/loyal man, I still need to work on herself both mentally and physically.

[Babygirl_S]

I'm taking a break to improve myself both physically and mentally.

[nowrinklebrain]

I don't want to date or marry people in general, humans are inherently evil and they all have skeletons in their closets.

[Shiningtempest]

I am currently not dating and I don't consider myself "marriage-minded". I don't consider myself marriage-minded because I see it as high-risk, the high reward at best, high-risk, the low reward at worst.

[coachTanthony]

how is it high risk?

[Shiningtempest]

@coachTanthony If the marriage falls apart, there are penalties such as alimony & court battles. Thus, marriage is a high risk.

[coachTanthony]

That happens to dumb people who don't utilize a pre-nup.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Yea and being the hopeless romantic that I am, I always let them know I want something meaningful instead of just sex or just dating, but only if things get accelerated or sex is mentioned.

[cosmicallyinclined]

at this moment no but maybe in the future. although i still wouldn’t want a huge wedding.

[DarkWinterNights]

Not currently dating and marriage offers little redeeming qualities at this time, maybe sometime in the future if things change.

[Ninani]

Nope. I'm currently having casual sex and getting through depression.

[serious]

The answer is No. I am not dating and I never consider myself marriage minded. Never.