Girls, What makes attracted to guys who are well built? What makes guys with small frames less attractive?

[Kcanon455]

[Anonymous]

It's that a girl doesn't feel protected by a guy she thinks she can beat up. Not that we'd want to beat you up but we view small frames as wimpy. While a built frame gives us the sense that you can take on other men if there ever comes a problem you'd have to handle. This sounds very judgmental and it is, but I think smaller frame guys realize this somewhere along the way when dating because they start working out to bulk up.

[Kcanon455]

Would a small framed guy become more attractive bulked up?

[Opinion Owner]

That depends on what makes the guy view himself as more attractive. What boosts the guy's confidence is what will attract more women.

[Kcanon455]

Now I am a small framed guy but I’ve added 50 lbs of muscle. Even though in my head I think I still look less masculine as long as girls think I could protect them from other men right?

[Kcanon455]

A friend of mine was pro boxer and said women would get real turned on from his boxing experience and it would get him several first dates and sex. It all was short lived cause guy would only use violence unless he had no other option and the girls underestimated him. I know girls like big strong capable men but how many are this sexed by violence? I mean that’s all it took to get this guys foot in the door and had he just been less of a nice guy he could’ve kept the relationships going longer.

[Opinion Owner]

Are you trying to look more masculine because you want the look or is this all about getting girls?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, women are turned on by men who have a fighting or trained to fight background. It's the sense of protection. It sounds like the girls your boxer friend was dating had issues of their own. For some reason, they wanted to see him in action and when he wouldn't they assumed he wasn't really about it. My guess is they found the boxer side of him hot but when he wasn't in action they didn't find him as attractive. What this is is a lack of initial attraction where one specific thing made him attractive to them.
You don't want to bulk up and end up dating a girl where you feel like you have to stay that way for her to stay with you. Sure, you can attract her that way but You need a girl to like you on a deeper level than that. You're boxer friend wasn't the problem, the girls are living in fantasy hot boxer land that doesn't exist.

[Kcanon455]

Hey I like your advice. So really it’s all about protection. Does the woman also usually think the smaller framed guy can’t satisfy her in bed like a bigger guy could even if he had a more dominant personality?

[Opinion Owner]

When it comes to frames yes. A smaller framed guy (assumable) can't protect himself much against other men unless they are smaller or unless he has some kind of trained fighting background. To women, if you look like you can't protect yourself against most men, then you most likely can't protect your woman. This doesn't mean it is true but it is us judging a book by it's cover.

[Opinion Owner]

"Does the woman also usually think the smaller framed guy can’t satisfy her in bed like a bigger guy could even if he had a more dominant personality?"

No. Women don't really think like this. If a woman thinks you cannot satisfy her in bed, it's because she does not have a sexual attraction to you. If we do not have a sexual attraction to you, we are most likely not having sexual thoughts about you. If a woman is not attracted to small framed guys, most likely her natural thoughts have not gone deep enough for a small framed guy to be compared sexually to a bigger framed guy. Women don't typically think of anything sexual concerning guys they're not attracted to... but men confuse this with sleeping with them. Some men think that because a woman slept with them that means she sexually desires him. I'm sorry but no, that's not always the case.

[Kcanon455]

Thanks.

[Opinion Owner]

Sure. I do want to add though. If a woman is into you, she's not worried about your frame. If you're having trouble getting women and you believe it's your frame... it's because you do not like your frame. You need to have confidence in you and women will come.

[Anonymous]

For me as long as he’s not skinnier than I am it’s all good. But guys who are well built (doesn’t have to have abs and stuff) looks more charismatic and dominant in my eyes and that’s what I gravitate towards