What does he wants?

[Anonymous]

So this guys and I have been talking for a while now.. he always say things like he adores me and that he would want me to run fingers through his hair while he rests his head on my lap. He also say things like we just need to take one step ahead to take each others sorrows and problems. Which I couldn’t understand and then some times when I can’t pick up his calls he says that he doesn’t like it when I avoid his calls and that he misses me and was worried about me. These things apart when we flirt he expects me to talk romantically with him. But when I asked him what he wants he said he doesn’t have much demands and he wants what I want and after asking him again that he just wants a vibe which is nowhere to be found and some moment of comfort and peace. I’m not able to understand what he wants one side he wants to do all this relationship stuff but on other he won’t tell me clearly. Could someone please help?

[btbc92]

Sounds like you attracted a guy who is trying to manipulate you into a relationship you shouldn't be in. This person doesn't sound like he is healthy and it's bad enough you feel confused about his behavior. Those different changes you're experiencing with the guy are showing there is something not right. Especially if he can not give you a straight answer. If he sounds like a red flag to you, then it is best you do not get involved. If he doesn't know what he wants, he is only using what you want so he can become a man you want for him to gain something out of. A man should know what he wants as should a woman.

[Asker]

You’re right, I feel confused.
Yes he keep on pushing if there is someone in my life, though I told him a thousand times I don’t. Then he says that I don’t value people in my life and he doesn’t know what to say or do to be that person in my life with whom I can be open to or let my guard down.

[btbc92]

That is not his business. He sounds like a big red flag. There isn't anything confusing then if he is saying stuff like that. That is his way to get you to trust the guy so you end up sleeping witg him. Whatever the case is, do NOT date him or have sex. Please simply leave that guy alone where he's at, and run. Tell him its done, block and delete.

[Asker]

And also that it’s quite a task to handle me. Like wtf am I? A pet?
He told me when he was drunk

[btbc92]

Again, why are you talking to him? It shows he has 0 respect. Don't be around that kind of guy. PERIOD.

[Asker]

Yes. Thank you so much! I will do that.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It sounds to me like he wants full control over you.

[Asker]

Yes he keep on pushing if there is someone in my life, though I told him a thousand times I don’t. Then he says that I don’t value people in my life and he doesn’t know what to say or do to be that person in my life with whom I can be open to or let my guard down. I feel confused.

[Asker]

And also that it’s quite a task to handle me. Like wtf am I? A pet?

[TommyMountainFigure]

You've told us clearly what HE wants, what about you? What do you want?

[Avicenna]

Doesn't sound like he wants a relationship

[Asker]

Then what does he wants?

[In_Trance]

part of the problem is, you're not being clear with what you want

[Iron_Man]

Maybe he wants you

[Asker]

Yes he keep on pushing if there is someone in my life, though I told him a thousand times I don’t. Then he says that I don’t value people in my life and he doesn’t know what to say or do to be that person in my life with whom I can be open to or let my guard down.
But I feel confused.

[Iron_Man]

Take some time off for a while find yourself don’t talk to this guy for a while

[Asker]

Yes I will.
He says that it’s quite a task to handle me. Like wtf am I? A pet?
Thanks by the way!

[Iron_Man]

You are very welcome girl I wish you the best