Why do people go out with you but then start treating you bad after you went on a date with them?

[Anonymous]

[DaveJord]

Because they emotional unstable, immature or very insecure and thinks it better to treat you bad before you hurt them or use it as a way to condition you to be submissive to them.

If this is happening to you, run from this person. Do not date anyone that does this to you. Please listen to me and take this advice seriously, don't think you can fix or handle a person like this. Your not the problem... its not for you to fix.

[Asker]

Thank you dating is hard because people. are superficial both men and women. When people leave you they feel like they can do better anyway

[DaveJord]

Only way to get better at dating is to practice at it. Rejection is just part of the game, so don't get too emotional about it. Nothing brings out a person's insecurities more than dating... so in that way its a process of self discover.

It takes time. But stay optimistic and every time you get knocked off that horse, get right back on it knowing that you learned something and your better and stronger for it

But what your asking here has nothing to do about you... you recognized it early so dump this jerk and move on. You'll filter them out quicker, and easier with practice... before you know it you'll start finding quality people if your patient and proactive. And no matter how good you are, it takes two... and even two great people together don't always vibe.. But take everything as a learning experience and learn and improve.

[mark000h]

I don't know. Why do they even bother showing up if they're planning on being rude? Some people are just self centered and thoughtless or oblivious to others feelings I guess.

[Iron_Man]

Maybe you’re doing something totally different to make them feel that you’re obnoxious or something

[Asker]

That happens all the time that people act rude and childish if they dont like you why dont they just stay home because when i do ot to people i get in trouble.

[Iron_Man]

But the thing is it’s confusing they obviously like your looks so they say let’s go out on a date. It must be some type of a personality or maybe it’s the politics you agree with something totally different from them

[Asker]

Most people have options or just want sex but it is still rude to waste someone's time and treat them like crap just so you will leave them alone because when i be rude to someone for no reason than they aren't going yo tolerate it.

[Iron_Man]

True

[Anonymous]

Maybe they saw something they didn’t like about you

[Asker]

They didn't like you from the beginning.

[Opinion Owner]

I was talking about you, maybe you come off different in person

[Asker]

That is an excuse that makes no sense it is only ok for men to act like whores. It is an excuse for them to get sex and leave. They already didn't like you from the beginning.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe for some so that isn’t your fault but if it keeps happening then it’s something you are doing and don’t realize it

[Asker]

Superficial dating

[DaveJord]

She's right, a real gentleman would saw something they didn't like and politely ended the relationship.

Just because you see something you don't like doesn't mean you treat someone like dirt. It just makes it harder for all the other great guys out there who do really know how to treat a women to find someone not scared, damaged and beat up by jerks.

[Asker]

@DaveJord i mean they can just ghost you and never speak to you again it becomes disrespectful when you use someone as a roaster and keep you around for ego.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m not speaking for all guys, I guess he was a player, just saying what might have happened, it’s not something I would do, I’m not a player just trying to get sex then leave, I always stick around if it gets to that point, why waste both our time

[Wild_princess]

Probably they are taking you as granted...

[jahaims]

People don't know how to interact anymore