Am I too old already to have very little experience with women? How many partners or body count are you supposed to get at 26 nearing 27?

[poneglyphs]

Like is a turn off knowing the person you're dating doesn't know anything beside what people tell him or other people experiences?

That could be just me because I am an older virgin. 🥺

[Shamalien]

Honestly man at this point just go out and fuck something. It’s not gunna be perfect the first time but at least it will give you some confidence and who knows, you might really like her. Truth is that for men, and particularly men, if you have no experience, you aren’t attractive to women. So go out and get some

women will lie about this by the way so listen to your boys on this one

[MoodyJazz]

Lol 2 out of 3 guys I've been together with were virgins. It's not a determinant for me but yes it's reasonable that some women might not like that

[poneglyphs]

Uhh, I would if I knew anyone to fuck

[Shamalien]

@MoodyJazz you might be what we call a “sweeper” XD

[Shamalien]

Apps. Don’t underestimate a good photo. Shave, dress well, look confident, convince yourself that these women want you. If your life is a mess, fix that first, get good pay, your own place, and depending on where you live a car (I don’t have one cause im in a big city but women like a car)

[poneglyphs]

Hmm well, dating apps don't work for me. I don't have enough money for my own place, don't have a car yet, and do have an okay job

[Shamalien]

Move your career forward and get to the point where you can afford your own place. A basement suite is fine. Even roomies is better than living with parents. Make dating apps work for you

[poneglyphs]

How, do I make dating apps work for me?

[Shamalien]

Good photos with filters. Women do this all the time so you gotta get on their cheating ass level to win the game. Find your angle and experiment. Girls take literally hours to upload a single photo. Gotta play to their superficial standards. Oh, and when talking to em, act like you don’t give a damn whether they are interested in you or not. You’ve got tons of options, why should you pick her? That’s the mindset. Your virginal desperation will send them running for the hills

[poneglyphs]

Oh, well you can rate my photos if you want? I hardly talk to women on dating apps cuz most just ghost me or leave me on read

[Shamalien]

Yeah thats the experience of literally every guy, gotta get a thicker skin to that

[Shamalien]

Pm me your photos I’ll help ya

[poneglyphs]

@Shamalien hey, I can't message you because you have your settings to followers only

[Shamalien]

Changed it

[MoodyJazz]

How about you fuck off? Did your mama not teach you common courtesy or was she a 'sweeper woman'? HAHA

[Shamalien]

@MoodyJazz excuse me but I’m trying to help a young man here, can you buzz off?

[exitseven]

Life is like a marathon. You are only competing with yourself. Just try to be the best version of yourself and try to meet as many people as you can.

[BarryLiverstone]

Sadly the asker is borderline incel and I’ve tried to challenge him before to stop complaining

[exitseven]

@BarryLiverstone He is not. I hate those labels. Everyone is different.

[BarryLiverstone]

In this case the label is meant to describe his attitude. If you don’t like the label what I meant is we can encourage him to be the best person he is and decide to make a change but he will not. He is expecting others to feel sorry for him and give him what he wants. He isn’t willing to work hard and go get it. I’m being honest because you can search his question history for over a year and see he’s not interacted in self improvement or setting personal goals.

[poneglyphs]

@BarryLiverstone what kind of self improvement would you like to see? I have no idea what you mean by that? Like, do yu want to see a post of how happy or grateful I have been about my life

[BarryLiverstone]

That would be a start. Reflecting on your life and being grateful for the things you have vs others shows humility. Other things I would like to see are you joining a gym and working out to improve your body confidence. Also see you learning a brand new hobby to master it and bring a sense of accomplishment. And would like to see you make 10 new friends with girls in 2022; actual friendships.

[exitseven]

@BarryLiverstone I don't want to gang up on this kid but you are right. He also needs to get his drivers license. He is not a stupid kid maybe lacks confidence.

[BarryLiverstone]

Agreed. Hope he understands we are not ganging up on him rather the opposite. Apathy and ignoring him would be negative. Us giving energy towards challenging him is positive. Anyway have a nice day and my expectations is he will not change much in 2022. Hope he proves me wrong.

[poneglyphs]

@BarryLiverstone don't test me I might do it out of spite and so, I can finally get real dates and have problems with those lol

I am working out more than I was in the past but I gotta focus more on my diet because I have been drinking and eating a lot recently, especially soda 😅

[exitseven]

@poneglyphs The reason is not important , it is the results. And yes, spite can be a great motivator.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[RealMarek]

Different women have different preferences. Some want experienced men. There are plenty who are more than glad to find someone who does not have so many women in his past.

Now, try to put yourself in the shoes of a woman who would be happy to have a man who is inexperienced. What kind of man is she apt to be looking for? One who doesn’t have a plan to find steady work, is unsure of himself, is so worried about whether he will ever have sex that he wonders if he should get a prostitute? That sort of undermines all of the good qualities the man has because it seems rather desperate, and most women hate desperation.

It’s not the fact that you are a virgin that is off-putting to women. It’s all the worrying about it and the worrying about what women think that is a red flag to women. You seem like a nice guy with a good sense of humor. A lot of women appreciate that if it is combined with confidence, because a man like that is likely to be a good partner and lover. You really need to get to the point to where you believe you would date a man like you if you were a woman. So do all you can to get there. Go pick up marketable skills, keep working out (good job for doing that, by the way), make sure you’re dressing well when you socialize, enjoy your friends. Stop worrying about what women think and just be yourself, but make the most you can out of your potential. You don’t have to have everything completely sorted out, you just need to find your path and to follow it. Once you are more satisfied with your life you will find women who are drawn to you.

[all_hayl]

Sigh.
Dude, you’ve been OVERLY influenced by society. Society (which happens to be made up of selfish, irresponsible idiots) says to sleep around and have fun doing so. Why are you so concerned about your “count”. Live your freaking life and stop comparing yourself with everyone else.

[Payton12]

Honestly 90% of girls will not care. As long as you are genuinely a good guy, that tries, she will not care how many people you’ve slept with. If anything it’s 100x worse to be with a guy that’s been with a bunch of girls, I never trust them.

[NathanDavis]

you are too old to be depending on others... that is the root of the issue in here

solve that

also... erase the concept of "body count" from your mind, entirely... that is the turn off

[MoodyJazz]

Well, I'm female and has fucked 3 people in my life, all of which were in a relationship.

If you're embarrassed about it, you can always say 'I'm saving myself for my wife because I want her to be a virgin and it wouldn't be fair if she was one and I've fucked someone else.' I've heard that excuse/reason irl

[poneglyphs]

But, I'm not waiting for marriage. I just have bad luck with women so there's no point in lying to them

[MoodyJazz]

You're not getting me breh, it's just a thing people say.

[Avicenna]

You’re senselessly worrying. Focus on becoming the person you want to be.

[BarryLiverstone]

Haven’t you figured out that this type of thinking is a turn off to girls? You are not projecting confidence therefore your body count will stay low because you haven’t learned to love yourself

[poneglyphs]

Does loving yourself really matter? You can to that all you want it's not going to make a difference?

When, I was younger I loved myself a lot but nothing ever changed?

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes it matters. Put yourself in their shoes.. imagine being with a girl who doesn’t love herself and no matter what complains she’s not good enough. Eventually you will get tired of her complaining.

Yes, you must love yourself first and understand why you bring value to others. You don’t find girls to feel happy; you feel happy with yourself and girls sense that and become attracted to that emotion

[Shamalien]

@BarryLiverstone facts

[moviedude714]

I would feel tempted to go to an escort or sex worker before 30 but to each their own, that's always going to be a controversial topic of discussion

[poneglyphs]

Maybe dude but don't really know how that would fix that void in my heart or help me with my high sex drive?

Also, kinda of a waste because I know that she would want only for my money, and also I will be horny all over again in a day. Soo... :^/

[moviedude714]

Well I like to feel it's better than no sex at all

[moviedude714]

It's always going to vary, depends on the guy or man, I've heard it has ended up being positive experience for a lot of guys out there, gave them the feeling of what sex is like and improve their self-esteem

[poneglyphs]

Hmm, maybe but that would be like a last resort.

[Year3000]

I am 25 and in a relationship but body count is less than 200. I don’t know the number but I can tell you it’s less than two hundred at least.

[poneglyphs]

damm dude haven't you tried going to the negative's pretty cool :)

[Year3000]

Hun? Not being negative about anything.

[poneglyphs]

no, I was making a joke. As in have you tried your body count to go in the negatives.

[zagor]

There is no one right number. If you believe him, Wilt Chamberlain was well into 4 digits by then. Others are at 0, willingly or otherwise.

[Dragonpurple]

At your age, I had been with 1 woman, keep trying.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Not that high but more than zero

[poneglyphs]

So, 0.1 got you

Jk

[Gwenhwyfar]

Probably one or two long term partners would be ideal by that age but being a virgin is cool too.

[poneglyphs]

Oh, okay. I just feel a little bit left behind and feel nervous about it 😖😖😖

[EaterPeter]

It depends on where you live

[Year3000]

Yeah I would say the in the UK, and New York, 10+ is the norm. In India, and Indonesia, 1 or 2 would be the norm for a guy over 25.

[poneglyphs]

@EaterPeter live in the Chicago suburbs

[Year3000]

@poneglyphs Illinois can get rural past and Chicago isn’t known to be some party type of city like NYC or Vegas. I would say 5-10 about the same as the rest of the country.

[poneglyphs]

@Year3000 yeah, that is what I have been seeing to that they aren't a lot of parties.

[IHateBeingaMan]

wasn't until like close to 28 for me

[disgustingweebtrash]

Its over