Is 26 too old to start dating as a woman?

[Anonymous]

So I bet you've heard of Kevin Samuel and he said that as woman age their value goes down. At 22 I'm currently continuing my education from college on to university so I can qualify for the CPA PEP program and won't be graduating till I'm 25 and given that I do pass CPA then I will be 26 at that time. When it cones to my personal life, I'm still working on my weight and attitude, and personality. My mom the other day said that I'm jumping so many guns in my life and is confused and scared as to why I'm being so impulsive but she doesn't know that all this stresses me out. What should I do?

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1 y

I'm desi if that puts things into perspective.

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1 y

I do want children when I settle down.

[Anonymous]

So you’re gonna take relationship advice from a random dude on the internet? A random dude who gives relationship advice to the world without any education to back it up (he was an engineering drop out) and who was divorced not once but TWICE and had one kid who obviously ended up with a broken family. This is who you’re going to take your life advice from? Do research on someone before you life your life according to their so called advice.

And men who talk about sexual market value, the wall, love to be with teens and bash 25 year old women for being ”too old” those are the men you want to spend your life with or what? Because yeah sure then 26 would be too old as they like their ”woman” to be basically a child. I know I wouldn’t want to be with a guy like that even if I was paid to though. Disgusting creeps and losers. Is it too late to start dating at 26 if you don’t want said creeps? No. Normal men want women around their own age, and statistics back that up as most people end up marrying someone close to their age and marriages and relationships with a bigger age gap fail more often than marriages/relationships where the couple are close in age. My older relatives (retirement age and up) are still sometimes being hit on by men when they go outside. A close relative met her fiance at 52 another was like 48 and I know more examples of middle aged people and up who have zero issues finding dates and relationships.

[d3n0939]

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[Asker]

I want kids and I don't want to wait till my eggs become dry and I grandma and I definitely don't want to have kids out of wedlock

[LazerBean]

Not necessarily, but the pool of worthwhile men is definitely smaller and rapidly shrinking as you get older.

[Lliam]

26 is young, sweetie. You're never too old to start dating. But you're missing out.

I actually applaud your goals and efforts. By 26, you're going to be a great catch after getting your degree, getting in shape, and getting to know your personality and attitude better. You'll be a much more mature and desirable person.

At 26, you're going to be as good looking as you were when you were 20, so don't worry about your physical attractiveness.

I don't know what the feck some ass hole like Kevin Samuel means by "value". People who refer to women in such terms are pond scum.

[Truthatanycost]

It's not so much about whether you are too old, but more about owning the decisions that you make and realising there may be potential consequences that may not be beneficial. That's it. Make a decision, own that decision and live with the consequences knowing that you may, or may not get what you want.

[Fa1con]

If you want children you should either consider freezing your eggs or start seriously looking for a partner. Children very much complicate relationships as well as careers and if you want to properly know your partner you will need to spend time with them, potentially to the scale of years. While you're never too old to find happiness with someone, you should very calmly and rationally think about how you prioritize things and what is realistic for you.

[Asker]

tbh it's because my parents refused to allow me to get a job till finished college which led to me gaining weight and not being able to hit the gym plus not having the monetary means to improve on many physically. I have a long way to go to lose weight, lose my glasses, get treatments for hair loss due to stress, and get my driver's license. And here in Canada if you add up what needs to get done to improve myself is about 20-30 grand to be in shape for the dating market. Also, I have a hard time balancing my career and personal life, heck I don't even have friends! I don't know what to do.

[Fa1con]

Take everything step by step. There's plenty of ways to lose weight/get into shape that involve interacting with other people and being social. I am saddened to hear that your parents have set you back somewhat but you can overcome these things with time.

[Asker]

but how long? I'm 22 and if i do the math that time will take me till I'm 26

[Fa1con]

I'm sorry but I dont know the ins and outs of your life nor do I know what kind of time or motivation you have in the day to day or week by week so I cannot fairly say. Besides, lifestyle changes aren't a matter of "how long" they take, they are more of a matter of "how long will I keep doing this?"

[Fireguy17]

continue to follow your plan.
Whom ever that samual guy is doesn't know crap.
No ones value goes down as they get older, I feel it goes up.
You know more the older you get, you tend to be more emotionally stable, financially stable.
You tend to know what you want and aren't afraid to go get it.
This holds true for both mand women.

[Vick2828]

What Kevin Samuels is saying is you need to learn how to balance your career and dating life or pick one. Most women choose a career, and by the time they are 30 to 40, nobody really wants them. Especially really can't have kids around 40, so it makes men push away and go for someone younger.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice!

[Asker]

tbh it's because my parents refused to allow me to get a job till finished college which led to me gaining weight and not being able to hit the gym plus not having the monetary means to improve on many physically. I have a long way to go to lose weight, lose my glasses, get treatments for hair loss due to stress, and get my driver's license. And here in Canada if you add up what needs to get done to improve myself is about 20-30 grand to be in shape for the dating market. Also, I have a hard time balancing my career and personal life, heck I don't even have friends!

[Vick2828]

Sorry to hear that. You will prevail, trust me. Stay focused, and you will obtain the things you desire.

[Asker]

That's hard to say being 22 and where I am. But I had to do it because they told me that they wouldn't pay for my college if I decided to get a job on the side and now, yes I'm currently starting a job as a bookkeeper for the government at minimum wage but I feel on a personal life point I'm stuck.

[zagor]

No 26 is not too late, except in some troglodyte cultures where marriage is arranged at 13; go ahead and prep for your chosen career. And assuming you take care of yourself, don't listen to the doofuses who say "oh your value is down because you're over 25".

[Adam1978]

It's certainly better then waiting even more. You should have been open for dating way earlier than this. You now have very little time to learn how to successfully date and pick guys.

[Asker]

I have been but I haven't gone well for me due to the fact that these men hate the fact I prefer to live with my family and I'm overweight who isn't the prettiest girl you've ever seen.

[Asker]

*it hasn't (spellcheck sorry)

[Adam1978]

Well overweight is something you have control over.

[Berethor]

You can still have children at your age, so it not too late for you yet, but the clock is ticking.

[Asker]

I'm going to assume your desi. I have been dating but where I live is a lot of immigrant indian men and they hate me because I'm a west Indian diaspora who in all aspects due to historical events has a very western style of life and it irritates them! And it's not like I was never taught to be a homemaker but the fact as a western woman my maturity is lower then the average Indian woman. This is my dating pool and yes I prefer to date my own but why indian men are so hard!!!

[Dawty]

22 is still young, so do not become desperate. However be open to dating and do not fool around.

[ProVox]

Well, you're only going to get older, so what's the alternative, becoming a nun or a cat lady? 🤔😆

[Asker]

Lol, but tbh it's because my parents refused to allow me to get a job till finished college which led to me gaining weight and not being able to hit the gym plus not having the monetary means to improve on many physically. I have a long way to go to lose weight, lose my glasses, get treatments for hair loss due to stress, and get my driver's license. And here in Canada if you add up what needs to get done to improve myself is about 20-30 grand to be in shape for the dating market. Also, I have a hard time balancing my career and personal life, heck I don't even have friends!

[ProVox]

You know, I'm not going to tell you all the cliches and normal responses to your weight insecurities most people would reply to this, bc I can emphasize greatly. Due to health problems I've battled weight gain my entire life. I've lost over 100lbs, twice naturally, no drugs or surgery, just hard work and lifestyle changes. So, I know how important it is to YOU to feel and look your best. You're just not the same person until you're comfortable and confident. I can not even describe the different me that came out of my shell the first time I lost 130lbs. It wasn't as bad the second time, just frustrating that my health did it to me again, because I knew I could do it, and a lot of the confidence was still there, the personality didn't go back into my shell, so that helped.
You can do it tho, you just have to want it!! And hey, glasses can be cute and sexy 😏
Best of luck, 💪🏻👊🏻

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No. At 26 you are still young. You can start dating now and get married if you find the right person.

My mom married young and was going to dental school and graduated with two small kids at the time.

[CloudMassacre]

1. Do what makes you happy
2. 26 isn’t too late, 36 isn’t too late, it’s never too late
3. For the Manatee

[Waldoe]

LIVE your Life... do not put it off... you will never get these years back, you do not know when you will die... no one knows...

[Grubhub]

He dead and no it’s not too old. You can find love at 88. Best of luck to find or maintain love

[Asker]

I want kids...

[Grubhub]

Find the right guy for you

[Asker]

tbh it's because my parents refused to allow me to get a job till finished college which led to me gaining weight and not being able to hit the gym plus not having the monetary means to improve on many physically. I have a long way to go to lose weight, lose my glasses, get treatments for hair loss due to stress, and get my driver's license. And here in Canada if you add up what needs to get done to improve myself is about 20-30 grand to be in shape for the dating market. Also, I have a hard time balancing my career and personal life, heck I don't even have friends!

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No age 26 is not too old to start dating

[Staximus]

Why don't you just start now

[Asker]

I have but due to many factors, I've decided to wait till I have my shit together which at this point I do not.

[TheFirstMan]

It's early. Depend what u wanted.

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

Only if you think it's a waste of time to date