In love with someone else?

[Anonymous]

I‘ve been with my boyfriend for 3 months but since one month ago, I don‘t really feel like he‘s the one.. I‘m not happy. He‘s a great guy but I don‘t feel love or admiration. A few days ago, I studied for a test with a boy who‘s in my class. He‘s really sweet and I can‘t stop thinking about him. I feel so bad and guilty. what should I do?

[AncientWisdom]

You must be careful as a female. You evolved to be hypergamous this has become a problem in modern western society. If you have no connection then be honest tell him that and bounce. However I feel like your just doing what many young women do with the help of their friends who she tells everything to and their opinion is usually “ oh girl you young find the one you deserve it “ “you deserve better he’s no good” “ he looks weird to me how you messing with him” etc I can go on and on. This can be a trap for young women. Often those very same females want your dude so they act like they don’t like him and say derogatory remarks to encourage you to get out of the way. Sometimes we are overwhelmed by our chemistry and damn just gotta have that particular person who gets the motor humming so to speak. In any case in this modern western society be careful and know your worth.

[slatyb]

End it with the current guy. You aren’t feeling it. It’s going to end sooner or later,, and sooner is better. Maybe you can get together with your new interest, maybe not. Even if you can’t, you will be free to meet someone more compatible.

[Anonymous]

tell about it to your boyfriend first, and be honest with him, and end it with him then Ig.
even if this other guy doesn't like you back, you should end it with your boyfriend first just in case he does, he would get an opportunity to be with you knowing you're single again

[PrettyPriya]

No, you need to be honest with your boyfriend though. 3 months seems long but isn’t. Things didn’t work out or click. That happens.

Bets break it off now, especially if you are having feelings for someone else. Good luck!

[Asker]

thank you! I just thought that maybe the right thing to do is to fight for my relationship. but if I don‘t feel a comnection, there‘s no point in doing that, right?

[PrettyPriya]

No point at all if you aren’t invested. This happens. You can’t win them all. It is why we get to know people.

Once we do, you make a choice. The choice for you seems clear to me.

[Jamie05rhs]

First you need to address the root of the issue. Can you list the reasons for us why you are not currently satisfied with your boyfriend?

[Asker]

to be honest, I don‘t feel excited about seeing him, in fact I don‘t care if we spend time together or not.. often I‘d rather do something else. I also don‘t feel like kissing him or holding hands etc..

[Jamie05rhs]

How did he become your boyfriend in the first place?

[rod23]

Go with your heart?