If you are chubby and struggling to get dates, is it a good idea to try to get a date on a chubby chaser dating site?

[Anonymous]

Yes, it is a good idea.

No, it's a bad idea.

[Anonymous]

You know what you will find in websites made for "not typical people"? You will find perverts who will use your insecurities to take advantage of you.
If your chubby, invest time and effort to get in shape with one purpose - to be healthy, not to be liked by others ;)
When you do that, you will be proud of your success and you will attract people with your self-esteem.
You will still attract perverts and idiots of course, but you will have the guts to say "No" to them and this is the most important thing ;)

[Opinion Owner]

You're* :D

[Beautyforeverybody]

No, please don’t do that. The partner you find on such sites will only fetishize you and not love you. They will not help you with anything , they will only push you to the darkness. The minute you want to lose weight and get healthier, they will dump you and replace you with somebody bigger.

https://youtu.be/-LEl_-Ool8k

[Asker]

Interesting video, thanks for sharing it.
Tho I assume not everyone's like that. All groups have weird outliers, that get the most attention for simply being pretty extreme.

[TruthBringer]

If you go on dating apps/sites, you will find plenty of dudes who are willing to date you, despite your weight. The best thing to do is to prioritize your health and lose weight. You'll not only doing your self-esteem and your health a favor, but you'll also increase your attractiveness in the eyes of men. Especially men who themselves are in shape. No guy in his right mind who happens to take his health and fitness seriously will get with a woman who doesn't share those sentiments.

[sage2021]

@TruthBringer As everyone knows, there are some skinny guys that love chubby and even obese women. I know a guy who is 5'8" 160 pounds and his wife weighs 330 pounds and he loves her very much. They still have sex too. He just rolls her on her side and away they go. Even the porn he watches has obese women in them. He is a Mama's boy, maybe that has something to do with it.

[TruthBringer]

@sage2021 Some are indeed into it, others just settle because women who are in shape are "out of their league". I mean you can put yourself out there and you will attract those who are into it, or you can work on your weight and thank yourself later for that.

[silvermoon84]

As a chubby girl myself (who has lost a lot of weight and is still losing), this is a great answer. It’s honest and succinct but at the same time doesn’t body shame.

To answer the OP’s question, I wouldn’t. Some guys are into plus sized women and that’s great, but I found when I was dating before the weight loss that a lot of guys I met were fetishizing me or only talking to me because they figured I was fat and therefore was desperate enough to put up with verbal abuse.

[ShadezMcgee]

There are guys that like women who are chubby to a degree and I am one of them, but chubby chasing websites? Now that just sounds like it is being fetishized.

Women with that body type pictured have no issue with getting men because there are plenty of men that like that. If they are having problems it is probably a personality issue.

[ohshee]

Well first of all I would know that I was chubby because I would just a minute it and I think well looking I would start walking 30 minutes a day for 30 days knowing that at the end of the 30 days my body will have toned up so much and I will look so good but I'm going to turn a negative into a positive by doing something about it since I know it

[MCheetah]

No, it's not a good idea. Go onto Feabie. com and tell me if those people there aren't freaks (and I don't mean their looks or weight). Being overweight isn't something that needs to be treated as a lifestyle. I'm overweight myself, but no matter what I do, it never comes off.

[TruthBringer]

"Being overweight isn't something that needs to be treated as a lifestyle."
This exactly!

[ohboyohboy76]

It sounds good, a place where you can find people who will love you for you. But I don't think that's actually what's happening for the guys who sign up for sites like that. Impression I've been given is that guys there range from annoying to terrifying.

[MemeSupreme]

i feel like you shouldn't go on a app where you're gonna get fetishized. by the way, i don't mean guys that like chubby girls have a fetish, but if they ONLY go after chubby girls or any certain body type really. they might not even really like you for you

[ImJustSomeGuyLol]

Please don't do that, find it in within you to motivate and challenge yourself. Your dating pool is likely to open up more considerably when you lose weight.
Statistically, both men and women are attracted to people who are in shape/slender/workout regularly.

So the best thing you can do is position yourself as one of these things. When you do go down this road, you'll find yourself more confident in you and your abilities, which is a good thing 😊

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Nope. Because chubby chasers are people that fetishize chubbier woman and a relationship based off a fetish is never gonna be healthy or long term in my opinion. He won't like you for who you are. He'll be mostly concerned with how you look.

[lucas262]

Iv lost a Lotta weight and out om lots of muscle, I think I get more looks and offers but I still seem unable to go from point a to b with women.

I could look really really good on the outside but inside I have a lot of anxiety and inexperience that makes me constantly doubt myself

[FictionalCharacter]

I tried a ‘chubby chaser’ site. Apparently, I wasn’t big enough to land a guy or even have a suitable profile.

[Asker]

huh... that honestly sounds pretty weird 😅
If you are fine with it could you tell me your height and weight, just so I could get an idea of what's isn't big enough" for those type of sites.

[FictionalCharacter]

I’m 5’1 and 165 lbs (so my digital weight scale says 😒). But guys have told me I’m not fat or chubby. Just thick. And I wear size 12 jeans and M/L/XL shirts 👚.

[Asker]

What the hell 🤣
What site was that? Like purely basing it on your height / weight it seems like you are medically obese, and even that is not "fat or chubby"?

[FictionalCharacter]

It depends on the body shape. Like these women

www.google.com/imgres

[Asker]

Fair enough, but even these examples look fat.

[FictionalCharacter]

.🤷🏻‍♀️.

[Citizenkirk]

Maybe spending time with people of the same intellectual interest as you might be a better option for your self esteem situation.

[Avicenna]

I think it makes sense to use multiple ways to meet someone, so why not, unless the site is a mess and yields bad results.

[VikingWarLord]

Just lose the weight, it's not good for your health to have all that weight, especially on your heart and JOINTS walking around all the time being that heavy

[fonduegirl]

Site sounds shady asf.

How about asking your friends to set you up or colleagues or parties? It's less risky in my opinion.

[Adam1978]

No it's better to lose it. If that's what in your way.

[jaybee281]

You know what the better idea is I'm not going to spell it out..

[Flower7]

Yes, that’s a very good idea for someone who’s chubby!

[Subarugirl]

unless you are okay with being fetishized I would say no...

[Seangreen]

Well if you're chubby and you want to find people that don't have a problem dating someone who is Chubby yeah that might be a good idea

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Just drink ice. It actually does work. It literally made my loss of weight noticeable in I think about 3 months,

[Asker]

um... thanks tho I wasn't asking for weight loss advice

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Oh, my bad. It sounded like that a wee bit

[Asker]

Well nah, the topic of the question is clearly not that.
Also could you please give an answer to the actual question? I didn't just put random letters in the title, that's an actual sentence / question, so no need to make assumptions of a super secret true question about weight loss.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I think dating sites overall are nearly Dragon Ball Evolution bad

[Guardian45]

I'm all in favor of as many avenues as possible. Expand your chances! "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take." ~ Wayne Gretzky

[Joker_]

It would be a better idea to lose some weight, fatty

[Asker]

And it would be a good idea for you to get a life.

[Joker_]

Yeah, but notice how your idea doesn't negate the one I suggested. Also take notice of the fact that my idea would actually help you, yet you are weirdly resistant to it. Perhaps it is because you will perpetually be a chubby chungus

[Joker_]

Big Chungus ⁣⁣⁣ ↗

[PeterSmith1983]

I am sure men will like you regardless I would use normal date sites

[Asker]

that "and struggling to get dates" in the title says otherwise

[PeterSmith1983]

Your not the person in the picture right an actual picture would help

[Asker]

why? the question isn't about my looks, it's about the usage of chubby chaser dating sites

[PeterSmith1983]

Okay

[bamesjond0069]

You should go to the gym and not even think about men until you lose the weight.

[Soyyo9]

No because they will only use you. Some men prey on plus sized women for sex.

[Stevefiveo]

Yeah, then you can find someone they appreciates you.

[pizzalovershouse]

Cuz its personality that attracts people to each other

[jahaims]

Losing weight seems to be a more logical answer to your problem

[Anonymous]

Dating site are generally a waste of time I think (all of them), but it's worth a shot.

[Opinion Owner]

If so though verify relationship goals with them though. For a lot of guys on that site, I would think this might be more of a fetish, which COULD (may not) mean they aren't looking for anything serious. So I think that would definitely need to be talked about.

[jerdanro]

I'm chubby and I'm sure that makes it harder for me, but I don't want to go on Tinder Big &Tall.

[Northernmost84]

Stay away

guys there are just looking for a girl to fuck then leave

[AkshiJanjua]

I like chubby girls but not obese. I don't it's a good a idea though people will fetishize you

[Chthou95]

You're a girl. You go on those sites, you'll have men hitting you up to date you. Go for it

[Anonymous]

Couldn't hurt. Plus that's certainly easier than--you know--losing some freaking weight!

[Anonymous]

Not really, their are guys out their like me who prefer that body type

[Sorue]

I think the best is to try any dating site

[Asker]

I already tried okcupid for example.

[Sorue]

Keep trying them! because people come and go, mr right might show up when you decide to leave so stay active on all of them

[TheFlak38]

you're FAT. not chubby

[Asker]

What makes you think that?

[Jamie05rhs]

Don't know. But I think that girl is pretty.

[jasco]

Honestly just get back in shape

[Fromdusktilldawn]

No dating sites are trash

[Wise4myage]

Only if the idea appeals to you.

[JohnK123]

I wouldn’t mind lmao I wanna date someone haha

[007kingifrit]

if that's what you want sure

[EaterPeter]

Depends on how she feels about it.

[curiosi_tea]

many are enablers

[20yearsolder]

Why not

[anylolone]

Try another chubby.

[Anonymous]

Whales R Us

[Opinion Owner]

Go to the sea and find a whale

[Anonymous]

Hell yes, why not?