What do you find attractive but other people don’t?

[Ali_roller23]

I just wanna know what unique things you guys find attractive for example I find dad bods and scars perfect

[JustNotherHuman34]

A woman with big feet.


Of course there are men out there who are partial towards feet, and I’m kinda one of them. But over the years, I’ve started to see that it’s more than just partialism. There are implications regarding women with larger feet, and I think that’s what makes a woman having them attractive to me.


Typically, women with large feet are taller, and I prefer taller women; even taller than me is fine (I’m 5’11” or 180cm). Of course, I know a lot of taller women prefer not to date men shorter than them (and some may not care as much), and that’s totally understandable. Though, I did court a woman who was 6’3” in college for a couple months, and one who’s 6’0” a few years ago. But I digress.


In addition, my subconscious attraction results in a feeling of equality and comfort. While I know that this is all based on stereotypes and definitely not true of all women with big feet, as I stated, they’re usually taller. If a woman with whom I’m involved is close to my height (and/or taller), then I feel more comfortable being myself around her. Personally, I’m a massive hugger and play-fighter (touch is my love language). Keep in mind that I’m also 230 lbs. and played football through college. If a woman is closer to my height, then I won’t feel like a giant ogre and fear that might hurt or squish her on accident! Yea, some may read this and think that it’s really taller women I’m after and not so much the big feet, and that’s an understandable assessment. However, I’ll say that if a woman has big feet, then height usually doesn’t matter to me (also doesn’t matter to me if a tall woman doesn’t have big feet). I’m just explaining my subconscious thought-process behind this attraction, which again, is based on stereotypes. The short version? Big feet -> Tall woman -> Can play with her. But again, I digress.


Aside from physical attraction, women with larger feet are more relatable to me. I have large and wide feet myself. It’s tough to find wide shoes in the stores around me. Depending on the shoe, I can wear anything from US men’s 13-15 (most of my shoes are 14). I started wearing 13 when I was 13 years-old, and it was hard finding shoes that wouldn’t get me laughed at in middle school (with generic or bargain brand names). Kids and even teachers also used to say I had boats for shoes or flipper/clown feet! So, women with larger feet can understand my struggle. Of course, their struggle is usually way more real than mine since, because of the target market for most women’s shoe designers and the types of shoes they make, I’m aware that good-looking women’s shoes that come in larger sizes can be insanely difficult to find. Sometimes they have to get them custom-made, and I’ve had to toe (no pun intended) that line before myself. More so, regarding women, I know that society doesn’t necessarily associate big feet with being feminine, which is unfortunate and the two don’t correlate at all (says the dude bringing up stereotypes). But lo and behold, I digress once more.


Anyway, if a woman can relate to me on a subject that’s affected me my whole life (even if her struggle is way worse), that’s just another way for us to connect, discuss things, and use it as building block for relationship with a strong foundation, even if the relationship ends up being just a friendship. That’s really what’s most important to me. So, the older I got, the more I started to accept that this is something that is a plus for me regarding a woman’s physical features and something to which I do pay attention. Does it affect whether I pursue someone? Absolutely not, as that’s purely physically and has nothing to do with their personality. We can relate on a million different levels aside from that, of course.


But if a woman has big feet, taller or not, she’ll definitely have my attention!

[MCheetah]

Physically, I find height on a woman attractive. I may be short (181 cm), but a woman who's between 6'0" to 6'5" (183 cm to 196 cm) drives me WILD! It's so sexy to see a powerful, curvy woman that size! Not just tall, but curvy and thick as well. I know many men prefer petite flat-chested women 5'6" and under, but not me!

At 6'4", I liked Ellen's "Before" look much better!

6'1" Lauren has the boobs and height to match!

As far as personality goes, I find insecurity in women to be a turn-on! It means she's grounded in reality and knows she has flaws. One of my biggest turn-offs is arrogance/confidence/conceit. I can't STAND people with a high opinion of themselves! I know just about 99.9% of all women like confidence in a partner, but I'm one guy who does not!

[rocksongwriter]

Although I disagree with you about curves, I'm with you on the height part. Tall women are so attractive!

[htmndg183]

Tall women are gorgeous.

[Msputiton]

It's hard to define.
But we have these beauty standards.

But i like someone who doesn't always fit that.
They have a very unique and different look that makes them standout, and a lot of people find these flaws ugly. Like a chin that looks unique. Lips that aren't shaped perfect.

It's usually 1 or 2 things that stand out that usually doesn't look close to what others.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I think the “dad bod” on guys is super attractive… Not the beer gut look though.
I’m not into the super define abs and chiseled chest…


I love this:

[cookiecrusher]

Hear that guys, suck it in😅

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

@cookiecrusher Yes sir! I looked back and realized that 3 girls downvoted this 🤣

[cookiecrusher]

Maybe some of them were still thinking too soft. 🙃

I have found that a bear with a light sixpack look works best.😅
You know, big arms, chest, back and trained legs. Trimmed hair. But nothing too big.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

@cookiecrusher That look is sexy too… Gahh😍

[cookiecrusher]

Thanks😅

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Crow's feet. They accentuate a person's smile! Never understood why those are something to dislike and try to avoid/erase at all costs.

[OmegaSTC]

Agreed! Adorable

[aWes0MeNeSs]

@OmegaSTC Yes! I was surprised when I found out they're considered "undesirable" (though the beauty industry has a way of doing that to every natural feature anymore, it seems like). I've always found them cute and my favorite photos of myself are the ones in which they're visible! 🤣

[OmegaSTC]

They remind me of Robin Williams. Such a good smile. Or Derek shepherd. It’s just like soothing you know?

[aWes0MeNeSs]

@OmegaSTC Yes, I totally agree!

[jennifer_bloom]

I find emotional men and sensitive men to be attractive

[lucas262]

You need to specify that one.

[DaveJord]

Like women with a nice ass and defined waist line... can be skinny or thick, curvey or thin, round, shapely, full or tight..., but not flat or flabby, and has to have a some type of figure or waist line. Waist line can be high, slim, trim or settle... but its go to be there without rolls.

But it all starts with how pretty she is, if she has a pretty face then we guys will be more forgiving of the body... but if heh as a totally kicking body then we will be more forgiving of the looks.

After that iI look at the hair. She has to have clean and well kept hair, because a women who takes care of her hair takes care of her hair pays attention to the hygiene in other areas that men find important.

After that it becomes about personality and the sex.

[Kate090]

I honestly don’t care what lustfull men want in a girl physical appearance wise. I get healthy for me, look nice for and so I can feel better about myself, it’s funny how men think we work on our physical appearance for them lol

[DaveJord]

@Kate090 No I hope you do it for yourself, but men dig it.

[dodobord]

Op is asking what you find attractive that others don't. Your answer is about as basic as you could get. That is like, the standard.

[Birdlegs]

@Kate090 I don’t wanna be mean but nobody asked. He just answered the given question

[DaveJord]

@Birdlegs IKR, what do like, that other don't... well I laid out what like any idiot could assume no matter what one person likes someone else doesn't, or likes the opposite.

[DaveJord]

@dodobord Thanks for the response... definitely value added.

[Diodoro]

Girls who pursued an athletic pursuit in a competitive environment and really lived that life. Even if it was just highschool/college. Whatever.

I find that attractive. Says a lot about you and it's something if a girls tells me about is a big win whether she knows it or not. Could be general sports. Dancing. Something physical.

I appreciate other pursuits if a girl was mercilessly focused on to the same degree. It's more about that trait. But if it wasn't sports basically no girl ever has it.

[Moose304]

What I find attractive is inner beauty. Things like watching a girl handle a stressful situation and remain a lady. I don't place much emphasis on the outward physical. As long as she does NOT smoke, does NOT have bad BO, does NOT have visible tats, and does NOT have meth teeth, and does NOT use profanity every other word. Right now I guess would be a good time to add I'm OK with her being a bit overweight. I am not speaking about her being obese. I see an Attorney some, we have spoken about this. Her idea weight is around 130 pounds. She hovers between 130 to 145. This does not bother me. The thing is if someone does not respect themselves enough to maintain a healthy lifestyle why should I give a damn about them? I don't fat shame, that's mean. I just ignore them. Oh by the way, I feel the same about men. I am not close to obese men.

[ALewis30]

I always find women who are odd, eccentric, funny and mis-understood attractive.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Hmmm... That depends on what others find attractive.
But, a tongue piercing is quite hot.
And piercings, maybe rings, necklaces, and such (depending on style).
Tattoos as well.

Those are top of my head of what others might not find attractive that I do.

[t-8900]

I like caramel and brown skin tones. I love jet black hair. I prefer brown eyes over green or blue. I'm the only white guy in my circle that likes darker features like that. The rest of the guys froth at the mouth for super pale girls with blonde or red hair and blue or green eyes. I did a survey on hair here and I'm like the only guy that gets turned tf on by ponytails apparently.

[Tranquility_Lady]

I like you i like how you like brown eyes over green or blue

[t-8900]

Well ty. Yeah I love brown eyes for sure. ☺️

[InventorofWarp]

"Older woman body". That is, a woman 40+ with like a bit of a tummy and firm tits so everything moves just right.
I also think tattoos are super sexy obviously or I wouldn't have so many.
Tall women. Being over 6'5 this is a given.
Being called a good boy or sweet or angel, I guess I have sort of an innocence kink. Likely 'cause I'm still a virgin. Which is funny 'cause something I love in it would be becoming the opposite of this for her in bed.

[CheeseMonster]

I have a thing for "odd" voices? Like higher pitched and distinct. Jordan Peterson. Charlie Day. Donald Duck. You know... uh
I did not grow up watching Donald, actually. I'm not sure where it came from. One of my childrens pastors did have a high/distinct voice, so maybe he started it?

[MsTaniaUncensored]

Virginity. Am I weird or nah? XD The best time to teach a man to be an amazing lover is when he's a clean slate in my opinion anyways.

[cookiecrusher]

I know a few guys who would love to meet a woman like you.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Lol well look no further for i am here 🤡

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I would like to learn to tie the ropes or however that saying goes

[KianaCuppycakes]

I always wondered why this would be weird? Players, STDs, and crazy exes are what I am always afraid of

[AbruvAvgMatt]

That fact that you are willing to teach someone would probably place you more desirable than most women. It's fun when partners try and discover how they mold together.

If someone expects you to automatically know all their kinks and turn ons without communicating, they generally get ghosted or turn into a one night stand at most.

[Raphaëlle]

I really like hair for some reason. It's one of the first things you see and remember. I usually remember hairstyle/hair colour better than eye colour. It could also be when I like switching up hair colours myself.

[OmegaSTC]

Just head hair? Anywhere else?

[NHI2017]

Tall girls,
skinny girls
Small boobs and small butt

I think its hot if a girl is a bit of a slut too.


The more she sleeps around the better she is in bed. And this is a fact

[MannyFrs]

yeah but the more partners she's had in the past the more likely it is that she will cheat on you

[NHI2017]

@MannyFrs thats a myth,

Theirs a difference between a girl that just wants to have fun,
And a girl thats actually a bad person,

Guys that have insecurity issues, Usually say that. Automatically assume the worst

[MannyFrs]

lol ok i have no insecurity issues mr psychiatrist what else can you tell me about myself that is false?

[NHI2017]

@MannyFrs

Lmaoo. You need more fiber in your diet

[Shortman70]

I like a woman that's not afraid of worms or fish. Yet easily slips into a dress or sexy lingerie. Not afraid to get shit on her boots, then put high heels on and go on a date. Tough yet tender.

[icelolly]

Men who are themselves and aren't afraid to stick to their stance even if it's unpopular or not conventionally 'cool'.

[tessarae29]

Men who seek to glorify God, who are confident in their line of work, those who genuinely seek to help others.

[Anonymous]

I find good mothers to be extremely attractive. Like if I’m dating a single mom and I see her being a good mother to her kid (s). It lets me know that if we were to ever have more kids she’d be a great attentive mom. It lets me know she’s a nurturer. I take note of that and keep it in the back of my head.

[that-one-dud3]

I like this one !

[petitedollbabee]

I’m the same, dad bods and scars are super sexy to me. Aswell as men who smoke 🥰

[Aelleden]

The tip of their little nose moving when they talk, it's so freaking cute it gets me everytime. Also a girl belly and back, it's the sexiest part of their body in my opinion head excluded

[CasaNorba]

confidence!

I really can't stand a hot woman bitching about how she needs to lose weight and get in shape. while most men will just rush into them and disregard their lack of confidence. I wonder how they put up hearing them bitching