Why do I want to cry when I think about him?

[Anonymous]

Hello everyone:) I’ll get straight into it. I’ve been talking to this guy and he’s amazing. I was talking to a guy before him and that guy would treat me awful. Long story short, I was his side chick and I didn’t know:( Basically when I started talking to this new guy I was amazed at how kind he was and how much he genuinely cared for me. And whenever I think about it I want to cry. Well not that I want to cry, I actually cry. Is this normal? Should I be worried? Am I getting attached too fast?

[Anonymous]

The urge to cry can be brought on by a range of emotions, from happiness to fear, even a combination of both. I don’t know if you keep a journal, but if you don’t then maybe it’s worth considering, to help you sort your thoughts. As for if you should be concerned or not, I think the bigger question here is if you are truly ready for a relationship. Based on what you’ve listed (which isn’t very much so take this with a grain of salt) there’s no cause for concern from him. However, you can still be harboring emotional baggage that if left unaddressed, you will carry from one relationship to to the next. That baggage can show itself in different ways, like trust issues, insecurities, creating obstacles in your mind that aren’t there, and etc. A lot of times we think we are ready to receive love when in reality it’s just loneliness, and we aren’t quite ready to be a good partner to anyone yet because we haven’t fully healed from past hurt. So if you are genuinely ready to date, then you must rid yourself of that baggage and step into this NEW situation giving this guy a clean slate. Of course I’m not suggesting to ignore clear red flags and things of that nature, but don’t make him pay for what someone else did in any way, shape, or form.🙏

[sheikalana]

Nothing to worry about. He's just so good to you that's it's hard to believe especially after what you've been through. You deserve all that love and caring enjoy and be grateful that he's come into your life.

[888theGreat]

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