I cabt go out in dates cause if body dysmorphia but I want to should I go for it?

[Indiepop123]

Im 25.

[DJB72]

Every single person on earth has issues with a part or two of their bodies. Unless a psychiatrist has diagnosed dysmorphophia don't assume you have it.

Seriously.

Everyone hates part of their bodies. For me it's my belly. I still had a "fat" gut after 3 months in a coma that left me emaciated - apart from my gut. Turned out it's a problem with my spine and it'll probably never go. Doesn't mean I don't hate it.

Try to see yourself through the other person's eyes. If they look at you and get turned on, accept it!

[Indiepop123]

Well i was diagnosed and have body dysmorphia, but thank you i’ll try to do that except what is modt important in life is what you think of yourself and accepting and being at peace with oneself. Basically loving yourself. Thats what i want ti achive.

[DJB72]

Overcoming any issue is either a problem or an opportunity, depending on your perspective.

That's not meant to minimise your diagnosis. It sounds like a cliche but there's truth in it.

A fresh perspective is always the place to start. Find a way to change your paradigm. You're absolutely right that what you think of yourself and finding a place of peace in your heart is critical. Body dysmorphia and dysmorphobia are serious conditions and you won't overcome it overnight. If you expect to you'll end up setting yourself up for failure and more serious conditions. The dysmorphia can be a fore-runner to anorexia, bulimia and other eating disorders.

I was fortunate. When I did finally hit bottom and attempt suicide it had nothing to do with my feelings about my body. I'll tell you about it if you want but I'd rather not do details outside of a DM.

Dating is hard work if you DON'T have dysmorphia. Find friends you trust. Listen to what they tell you. Talk bluntly to them. Be honest with them about what your fears are and listen to what they say about theirs.

Alternatively, if you want a stranger to talk to you're welcome to message me.

[Honesttguy]

Work on your body dysmorphia thing first, overcome that. Sounds like fear of criticism, expose yourself to society judgments and be okey with it. Build resistance and u good to go.
Cus u can have 1bad date and u will be fuked for long time, u go in battle without training u will get knocked out.
What to expect well bad dates for most part, prep for worst then if its better its winning from there.

[Indiepop123]

Thank you😊

[PositiveNote]

I would like to encourage you to go out with guys. I also would suggest that you find guys in the medical profession. I think they will tend to be able to focus out physical abnormalities. Some guys would just not know how to deal with it, but don't despair. There are plenty who can handle someone out of the ordinary.

[Indiepop123]

Okay i will try, thank you:)

[mark000h]

Of course you should. Get counseling and live life. Meaningful relationships.

[Indiepop123]

Yeah that’s what i want but i feel too ugly to live. I’ve been really sick mentally and haven’t left the house for a month

[mark000h]

That's bad, yeah get some counseling if you can. I'm quite sure you're not ugly, you just see yourself like that, hence the need for counseling. Then rejoin the living 😛

[crmoore]

You should do 1 of 2 things. Just go out and do it, or if you can change the thing that bothers you, change it and then go out

[Indiepop123]

Okay:)

[crmoore]

No problem, best of luck!

[Massageman]

Sure. There's probably something about him that HE doesn't like too.

[Indiepop123]

True

[jahaims]

You shouldn't start a relationship if you aren't where you need to be in life. Seek therapy

[Indiepop123]

True, and i am doing that , thank you ❤️❤️

[bowenw]

You should try. Can your doctor prescribe medication or therapy to help you deal with the condition?

[Indiepop123]

Okay i eill, and well yesh i’m on medication 😊 aldo therapy once a week

[bowenw]

That's excellent! I have faith that you can do it.

[Jamie05rhs]

I think you could give it a try.

[Indiepop123]

Okay

[Jamie05rhs]

@Indiepop123 :)

[Deku2009]

Yeah you shouldn’t let that stop you

[Indiepop123]

True

[Berethor]

So you want to date a guy in dark places?

[Indiepop123]

No, what do you mean dark places exactly?

[Berethor]

Dark places, where it's harder to see you. :)

[MrCommodore]

Yes, go for it. Live life to the full

[Indiepop123]

😊❤️

[DaveToo]

Go for it anyway!

[Indiepop123]

Alright 😊🙂

[TheBigGuy9]

English?