Ladies what do you do to get a guys attention to let them know that you’re interested? Vice versa for the gentleman?

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noamazia · Accepted Answer

among my friends, i am the one that has a talent to miss signals. there are legends about my stupidity. for example:
i used to work as a teenager with a girl that was around my age and was living on my way to work. so i would driver her to and from work, during that time we would talk and most times she sayed, keep driving a bit more, its fun. one day i arrived early so she told me to come up and wait in the living room. then we chatted, during that time she asked me how many times i masturbate and told me how much she does and what makes her excited... fast forward till after our shift. we arrived at her home, and just kept talking for another 45 minutes in the car, and at some point when i was talking, she cut me off saying "you know you have nice skin" while rubbing my forearm. i said "thank you" and continued as if nothing happened... i feel sorry for her and how blind i was.

but since then i got just a tad bit better so most signals i notice should work on everyone. so things i noticed:
a girl just put her hand on my shoulder (leaning on me) and leaning forward just staring at my lips.
everyone going home and the girl says she will stay a bit more and immediately afterwards asked if i gonna stay as well.
placing a hand on my thigh.

there might be a few more that i can't remember or still deny that those were signals

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

I try to start some kind of conversation. Because I´m not good at flirting I avoid making any comments and conversations that could be understood as flirting.
I take time getting to know person because I don´t fall in love quickly, I never fell head over heels in love.
I need at least a couple conversations to get to know if I´m interested in a woman or not.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Accepted Answer

I usually get touchy. Not inappropriately, but I usually touch their arms, try and fix their hair, etc. Small things like that.
I’m not a touchy person to those I don’t know or like, so I seem kinda cold to people lol, but when I’m interested, I try to be more physical with them.

lrina · Accepted Answer

it's best to just ask directly if you have the courage too. lots of people aren't good at taking signals and signaling may just confuse both you and the other person more. being direct is best in my opinion.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

For me, I get a guy's attention (or attempt to) by spending time with him and showing him attention. Such as listening to him, hanging out with him, eating together... basically show him I'm interested in getting to know him better.

Of course even then that's not guaranteed to work. If he's not interested in me or wants anything more than a friendship, it's a moot point.
Yes, speaking from experience. I've done all that and then some, only for a guy to just want friendship. It happens.

humpbackjack · Answer

Before I was married I was pretty straight forward when getting a girls number I’d just introduce myself and say something like, so check this out I think you are like way hot you wanna hang out or whatever or whatever to be honest this was close to 35 years ago and I was a long haired tattooed surfer kid that was on my own at a pretty young age and wasn’t afraid to talk to girls I never really had a problem getting girls hell more than once me and some homeboys would be walking or hanging out on the strand (the beach) and some chicks would drive by at 10 mph and they’d cat call us and half ass duck or whatever and I’d just either get a phone number or usually just jump in man those were the good old days I got to know a lot of girls back before I got trapped I mean married. To answer your question I wasn’t looking to have a relationship just to have fun and I was straight up about my intentions from the beginning it was a different time back then

dustybiker · Answer

I once went up to someone I felt strongly about and asked if they were in a relationship. When told no then asked if I could kiss him. There was about ten or so hours in each others presence (unrelating) before that, but that was the random and magic moment. The look on his face was pretty priceless.

Anonymous · Answer

I literally just be myself and flirt. Now, that’s if im doing it for fun.

When it comes to a guy I’m actually attracted to and interested in I feel like I’m very obvious because even though I get really shy and sort of “freeze” whenever I come across them , I get really red and start laughing , my hands start shaking and I’m a whole mess lol and usually I’ll just look at him and I think he would for sure catch on. Lmao I’m sorry I’m no big help but 😅 LMAO that’s just how I am with guys I like. Now, if they approach me, then that’s a whole other story.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Find reasons/excuses to talk to him. Occasionally make eye contact. Ask if he wants to go grab a cup of coffee or something from the cafe (although i dont drink coffee and hardly eat sweets)

jordieloid · Answer

I laugh more easily at the jokes a guy makes when I'm interested in him. But not my normal laugh lmao I make sure it sounds cute and soft like a giggle, you'll see a difference from hearing me laugh at my friends' jokes and at my crush's jokes
I also smile more easily

Sometimes a guy I like may make me too shy though, so I usually avoid eye-contact because I'm nervous. I don't do this on purpose so it's not to let him know that I'm into him, it simply happens, but just so you know thay *some* girls do this.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

I like to be friends with the person i am interested in. I like to know them and work on out relationship as friends and whwn it gets well and most things seems working fine, i tell her how lovely all this time was we spent together. If she says yes, that is good. If she says (i need to think about it) i give her space. And if she says no, we atill friends.

DianaWest · Answer

most gentlemen's methods of flirting nowadays are usually one of two: keeping their head glued to their phones like ostriches, staring at the sky, and occasionally looking at you once in a while with a neutral expression expecting that you'd wink and lick your lips to subtly hint your interest. the second method: yo baby, what's shaking?

RawIronhide · Answer

Such a good question, (sigh) it's hard, I mean obviously you could ask but it's not always a good time. I definitely am obvious though lol. I look more and try not to at the same time. I don't want to be rude but I'm interested so I'll be looking at your lips or tryna catch a peek at ur body tbh. Sometimes a wink or a cheeky smile that's about as far as I go, I rarely go for a touch or anything, either I'll ask or chicken out and better luck next time.😂

IveGotNoName · Answer

Well I apparently do nothing my boyfriend tells me. He didn't kiss me until 2 months into us starting to be interested in a more romantic sense and talking more (we had known each other for 2 years prior to that), because he was scared of me rejecting him😂, even when he was planning on doing it he still wasn't sure

dontgetafemalecanine · Answer

I always have a question extending from this topic. What's the chance (based on your experience) of you successfully begin a relationship with the guy or girl you were interested from the street, work, client (not usually), high school, uni campus and attracted?

We human beings are beings who judge by visuals and the way other people portrayed themselves (30 seconds) as first impression before verbal communication. In theory, We can have a crush to anywho pretty much anytime anywhere.

Sophxoxo · Answer

Ask them how I look when I try out a new makeup routine, hair, clothes etc. I would say I compliment them more, but I don't know since I try to compliment everyone a bunch, don’t know if it’s exclusive to them.

Avicenna · Answer

I've always been very good at picking up on interest from women (or girls before I turned 18), but I usually just have a great, friendly convo, smile a lot, compliment her a bit and get her number (or more rarely, social media), then am sure to follow up.

Dargil · Answer

I'm a little iffy about the first move. SJW and Feminism hold me off. But I have gotten: "Maybe we can have coffee together some time soon". That is the equivalent of a Victorian girl dropping her hanky for me at a cotillion. It is a green light to pick it up and go ahead.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

The most assertive thing I can think of, walk up to him and talk to him. See how he is doing and if he would be interested in going out on a date with me.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

I'll wink if I'm into someone I make it quite obvious lol. I'm not shy about who I am into or why about letting them know. I come in strong only certain people can handle me and that's okay

Kriss46 · Answer

I once gave a girl a bag of ginger cookies, she asked what that was, i answered “feeling”, some other day i would be doing random stuff like pulling her leg and saying “come play with me” while she sat on the sofa, i would also carry her backpack to her class for her.
Those memories kinda hunt me now and i wish i never interacted with girls, so im just gonna lock myself in my dark room as i have been for years now.

TheBiggestBelieber · Answer

Ok, we normally try to act funky and agree with stuff and just be supportive.
We make her feel like yea, This guy always talks nicely, understands me and well is worthy enough to date me :p

*Advisory - Do this only if you are actually in love, or you might ruin her life :(((

Explorer91 · Answer

Nothing major.
im just available. As in.
if he wants to catch up, I’m down. If he wants to chat on phone. I’m down.
basically I don’t say I like him with words but with actions I make it easy for him to set up a date.

Tamales3 · Answer

Smile at him, laugh together, a little shy eye contact, playing with my hair while speaking to him or accidently „brushing“ against him when he walks by.

Jacadia · Answer

This is the old fashion way, long before internet. If its in a coffee shop drop your wallet once your beside him and behind down to pick it up!

Anonymous · Answer

This is a rough one for me because I am not so good in social situations🙈. First, I'd try to relax for a minute before the approach.  So I'd say: "Hey I am Dennis. How is your day been going?".

melanieeeB · Answer

I talk to them and be flirty and touchy, but honestly most of the time I don't need to do much to get attention lol

rabbitzzz · Answer

You stay near them, try to be friends, talk about sexy stuff etc.

AviatorTom · Answer

Eye contact, not necessarily staring at her, but make eye contact to let her know you are interested.

Dinklex3 · Answer

I don't know. I usually just go up and talk to them.

Heartache0405 · Answer

I don’t do anything. Because I’ve been done looking for a relationshit 7 years ago

supercutebutt · Answer

Revealing a shiny, freshly-lubed butt in a blanket gloryhole setting has worked at getting a gentleman's attention... well, for me at least.

SenseiSeptred · Answer

I be a shining example to not be normal since such a word doesn't exist in actuality and practice. That is my everyday life going from daily ritual to daily ritual that can also include sparring matches that are never done in anger.

chulo1992 · Answer

Since I've gotten older, my flirt and pickup game has declined massively. In my 20s & 30s, I had so many women, seems like a different woman every weekend and to tell you the truth, I don't know how I did it.

AdithyaR · Answer

I never let them know. There's no way they'd be interested in me so it's better for me try and get over the feelings silently.

Juxtapose · Answer

I tell them how I feel straight up. It has had a 0% success rate and I have to rely on other people asking me out so that shows how good my method is I guess.

DaThinka · Answer

Nothing at all. If u fancey a girl she will never know. Unless I tell her in Facebook years later

Kitty_V · Answer

You just have to smile at guys and say hello. It really doesn’t take that much to get a guy’s attention especially if he’s attracted to you.

Anonymous · Answer

A short skirt, a low cut short and squeezing my boobs together with my arms pretty much always works as a short busty girl.

BaldAvenger · Answer

In the event I find a woman that attracts me to the point where I feel I need to get her attention, I let her know that she has my attention and I'd like to get to know her better.

Alyssa_11 · Answer

I look at the guy until I catch his eye, giggle, hold eye contact and then walk away.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do I get the feeling that women making the first move or asking a guy out will never become normalized

Medhat-M · Answer

I just look at them and they start acting all girly and bubbly and it's on haha..

whosnumber1 · Answer

I wear my balls out jeans

krin_m · Answer

Let her show that I want to and enjoy spending time with her. Be genuinely interested in finding out what she likes and overall be g=be happy to be with her and be nice!

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

I say hello. Usually they notice me. Being 6’7” and all.

Anonymous · Answer

Look at a man like your can’t stop looking. Blushing

Anonymous · Answer

notice how all the female responses are basically having decent human behavior behavior that can be viewed as platonic.

Anonymous · Answer

All a woman needs to do to get a guys attention is to show off her body, boobs, butt, etc. And plus a woman shouldn't be the one to ask him out, the guy should be the one to make the first move.

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

as always, women are going to be passive and subtle about it

dragoblack · Answer

Showing interest in her as a person and wanting to know more about her

Zygum · Answer

I make eye contact with girl and give her smile and wait her response

DangItBobby · Answer

I go up to them say hey baby, nah I’m kidding. Just go up to them say hello

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

I like it when a bitch flashes me some nipple. That gets my attention, and she usually gets my dick.

Anonymous · Answer

I always look right into her eyes and start talking, they seem to get the hint, lol

sensible27 · Answer

When you like them maybe they'll know.. : )

LaceyS · Answer

Smile

FakeNIK · Answer

Usually just talk & smile

msc545 · Answer

I might glance at them.

t_time · Answer

Ask him to hangout

Slim57 · Answer

Exist. Ask me out or don't, don't care

robocop666 · Answer

when women want your attention they LOOK AT YOU

jimmy2 · Answer

Smile like her does it

Babygirl_S · Answer

I smile.

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