I’m really pissed at this guy for not following through and just keeping me on his hook. I feel like I’m not attractive enough. How can I cope?

[KateIsSexy1996]

He asked for my availability Sunday for this week and I told him Tuesday or Wednesday work but then he made up some excuse about how he didn’t reply because his mom called or something. Never mentioned it again about meeting up. Also we met in person Sunday and I don’t know if he just wasn’t attracted to me physically (even though I’m told by most people that I’m gorgeous) but he stopped flirting and complimenting anything physical after that. Everything seems just friendly.
I was texting with him earlier and he asked me my plans this weekend and I told him and then I asked his and he said he has dinner plans on Saturday night but then nothing else planned as usual. I have a feeling it’s a date.
Whatever, it’s just one guy. But somehow it signifies to me that somewhere I’m falling short. Is he not attracted to me?

[Fireguy17]

Everyone has a different idea of what they find attractive in a person.
It can be any little thing, with no real reason as to why.
For some it is the inner beauty is way more important than how you look physically.
Don't let it bother you, it is only 1 person.

[KateIsSexy1996]

He said this:
Alright, where to begin. Hmm. I’m not sure what the “this” is that you’re referring to in how you perceive you’re being treated. You said you could do Tuesday or Wednesday and I couldn’t, and looking back at the text I could’ve been more explicit in regards to my schedule this week. I apologize but it was not my intention to string you along, this has just been a stressful week and it’s simply a case of schedules not aligning. I think you’re an attractive, smart woman but I think it’s best for me if we do not explore this relationship as anything more than friends/acquaintances. I wish you the best of luck, Kate. Take care.

[Fireguy17]

It just sounds like he is just not into you.
It happens.
I don't know him at all, but I'm thinking he seems kind of smug and arrogant.
Just how he worded his reply.

[KateIsSexy1996]

@Fireguy17 he told me I’m not that skinny by the way. I’m 120 and 5’8” I also told him about a model casting I have and he said NOTHING about it. Anytime I bring up something about my physically he has no comment.

[James899]

Ask him nd clarify. Don't take any decisions just by ur thoughts.

[KateIsSexy1996]

He said this:
Alright, where to begin. Hmm. I’m not sure what the “this” is that you’re referring to in how you perceive you’re being treated. You said you could do Tuesday or Wednesday and I couldn’t, and looking back at the text I could’ve been more explicit in regards to my schedule this week. I apologize but it was not my intention to string you along, this has just been a stressful week and it’s simply a case of schedules not aligning. I think you’re an attractive, smart woman but I think it’s best for me if we do not explore this relationship as anything more than friends/acquaintances. I wish you the best of luck, Kate. Take care.

[KateIsSexy1996]

@James899 ^

[PrettyPriya]

Well, if you haven't even gone out with him yet, impossible to tell if he is or isn't attracted to you. Even if he has a date, you aren't exclusive so shouldn't be a big deal.

Give him a chance to go out with you and get a feel from there.

[KateIsSexy1996]

Well we met on bumble and he was talking with me a ton and complimented me off the hook and seemed attentive at first. We go to the same gym so I saw him Sunday. He’s seen me in person already so he has a feel. But isn’t taking initiative to do anything.
I know we’re not exclusive. I’m just not sure why I am experiencing this.

[PrettyPriya]

@kateissexy1996 Oh, I wasn't aware you have already had some interaction. Sounds like he doesn't know what he wants and subsequently how to handle the situation like an adult.

[KateIsSexy1996]

by the way he’s 43 and a divorcee and I’m 25

[PrettyPriya]

@kateissexy1996 Age has nothing to do with the ability to act mature. Doesn't seem like he is. To lead someone on like he seems to be doing is what I would call immature.

Wonder why he is divorced, right?

[KateIsSexy1996]

@PrettyPriya he said this in response to me wondering what’s going on:
Alright, where to begin. Hmm. I’m not sure what the “this” is that you’re referring to in how you perceive you’re being treated. You said you could do Tuesday or Wednesday and I couldn’t, and looking back at the text I could’ve been more explicit in regards to my schedule this week. I apologize but it was not my intention to string you along, this has just been a stressful week and it’s simply a case of schedules not aligning. I think you’re an attractive, smart woman but I think it’s best for me if we do not explore this relationship as anything more than friends/acquaintances. I wish you the best of luck, Kate. Take care.

[PrettyPriya]

@kateissexy1996

Ok, so maybe that is true. Let's just ask ourselves one question though. If he was so interested and found you such a great woman (not saying you aren't) then do you think he would have sent that message or be dying to find a date that worked?

My point is that if he didn't explain that it was stressful and needed another week, then how were you supposed to know and not feel like you were being strung along? Your thoughts?

[KateIsSexy1996]

What do you think based off of his message? How are you translating his garble? Haha.
I just told him something along the lines of no thanks.

[PrettyPriya]

@kateissexy1996 I am translating it as him using it as an excuse to cut ties and in the worst way. He actually seems to try to hint that "in light of what you have said" he doesn't want to take it any further. Thus, he is placing the blame on you.

[KateIsSexy1996]

So he’s just not attracted to me then? Because when we first started talking he told me I was sexy and beautiful, hot, etc. Now he’s just taking no interest in my physically and we met once in person.

[PrettyPriya]

@kateissexy1996 I wouldn't say that at all. I have to wonder if a better offer came along. I guess we can speculate all night but I'd just let that one go. No sense in trying to salvage it after that message.

I doubt very much it has to do with your looks, intelligence or otherwise.

[KateIsSexy1996]

No. I just don’t understand why guys do this to me.

[PrettyPriya]

@kateissexy1996 Who knows why this one did? As I mentioned, we can speculate all we want. Only he knows. Don't let it get you down. We are the same age. I just recently found my "one".

[KateIsSexy1996]

I have a feeling I will never find someone. It’s okay though. Every guy I talk to is an asshole.

[PrettyPriya]

@kateissexy1996 Can't think like that though. I waited patiently for two years before I met my fiancé. Two years! I just didn't want to get involved with the wrong guy. Give it some time. You'll find him or he will find you. 😊

[KateIsSexy1996]

Sorry to pry, but so basically you’re saying that he is not attracted to me in any way or physically? Like I didn’t even say anything super mean, I was just being assertive and he gave up that fast.

[PrettyPriya]

@kateissexy1996 I don't really know. Perhaps he is seeing more than one girl and decided you being assertive wasn't worth his time. It may have absolutely zero to do with your looks. Impossible to say.

[KateIsSexy1996]

@PrettyPriya he told me I’m not that skinny by the way. I’m 120 and 5’8” I also told him about a model casting I have and he said NOTHING about it. Anytime I bring up something about my physically he has no comment.

[PrettyPriya]

@kateissexy1996 You don't sound out of shape at all with those measurements. I haven't a clue why he never said anything. It is entirely possible you just weren't his type. Beauty is subjective after all.

[KateIsSexy1996]

@PrettyPriya I see him liking girls’ photos on Instagram. They’re really attractive but our bodies are comparable. They’re just tan and blond. I’m pale and a redhead.

[KateIsSexy1996]

@PrettyPriya and he saw my pics. I look just like them. We met on bumble.

[PrettyPriya]

@kateissexy1996 I really don't know what to tell you. Again, we are just guessing at it. No one will ever know.

[Anonymous]

You could ask him and if he says no, then you'll have your answer.

[KateIsSexy1996]

I just texted him asking about what happened with the plans not following through, him just texting me, and then I just said I deserve better than this. I don't know, I didn’t go insane and start calling him names. But I do want to assert myself.

[KateIsSexy1996]

He hasn’t replied and he typically does sooner.

[Opinion Owner]

Well good, then it's on him. You can probably find a guy that's more interested. This one seems to be going nowhere.

[KateIsSexy1996]

Yeah it’s hurtful. But whatever he’s a dick anyway. Maybe found someone like easier or something I don't know.

[KateIsSexy1996]

I asked him if he’s just not attracted to me and he hasn’t replied at all. I think I have my answer?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe he's interested in someone else because if you're like you described, why wouldn't he want to date you? I would.

[KateIsSexy1996]

He said this by the way:
Alright, where to begin. Hmm. I’m not sure what the “this” is that you’re referring to in how you perceive you’re being treated. You said you could do Tuesday or Wednesday and I couldn’t, and looking back at the text I could’ve been more explicit in regards to my schedule this week. I apologize but it was not my intention to string you along, this has just been a stressful week and it’s simply a case of schedules not aligning. I think you’re an attractive, smart woman but I think it’s best for me if we do not explore this relationship as anything more than friends/acquaintances. I wish you the best of luck, Kate. Take care.

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like he wants to keep a possibility of sex without anything else. There are guys who would be interested in actually dating you for sure.

[KateIsSexy1996]

Why did he never compliment my looks, but I saw him liking other girls pics on Instagram? Our body types are similar, but they’re just tan and blond. I’m pale and a redhead.

[KateIsSexy1996]

After we met in person (even tho I look like my pics and have been told that) he stopped saying anything about me physically?

[Opinion Owner]

If he's a player, it's his game to ignore you, make you all bothered wondering why you can't get his attention. Women fall for that from players, they ignore and don't give af, then the women want them more.

[Anonymous]

Just move on, there are millions of virgin men out there who will do more for you than this guy ever will anyways

[In_Trance]

Block him and move on