How do men decide which women they want to date or have a relationship with?

[Anonymous]

What factors do you go off of when asking a woman out or during the courting stage? What determines your compatibility?

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+1 y

How much do looks play a part? Do you choose the hottest one you’re talking to?

[EmbraceThePain]

What I’ve seen/heard


Casual sex (hookup, ONS, friends with benefits, etc.)
-The bar is rather low
•Usually these are women that men have some attraction to or some hard-on for.


It can literally be anything, such as a woman looking nice in some leggings.


Or


A man is just uber horny and will have sex with the nearest woman to him.


These women are not quality women.
These are women to forget.
Not to brag about or talk positively about to your family
Whores, sluts, etc.


You do what you have to do and then have little to no contact with these women.




Relationships
•Quality women. Everything you’d value in a good friend+ more.


•Makes good decisions (drug-wise, sexually, morally, etc)
•Keeps fit and healthy
•Wants to improve herself and has goals she’s set
•Considerate and understanding, willing to talk things out even when things get REALLY tough.


Etc.


You can see the difference right? One is used to relieve whatever horniness a man may have for a week, a day, a night, etc.


Another is a soul mate, life partner, etc. You give everything for such a woman/person.

[Asker]

I’m confused all the time because I’m objectively very attractive and relationship material/have qualities most men are looking for in a wide, but I just haven’t found my person yet. Sometimes I get impatient but I think they’re worth the wait.

[EmbraceThePain]

So, you can’t just wait.

You need to put yourself out there and initiate some stuff.

You’re man is out there, but it’s near impossible to find if you wait.

Go out with friends
Don’t take yourself too seriously
Talk to men that you like and/or find interesting

The men will make it obvious they like you sometimes

Or

You can make it close to obvious and they’ll piggyback on that sign.

It’s not too hard in my opinion.

[Asker]

There’s a guy I really like right now, weird that I get the ick from everyone else but him. It’s not good because we barely know each other LOL but he’s complimented me a couple times and called me gorgeous and that I have pretty hair. I don't know, it’s important that the person you’re with really appreciates you and what they see.

[EmbraceThePain]

So, if he’s saying that to you then he does like you I’m nearly certain of it.

You just have to return the signs and see what’s up.

I wouldn’t be that bold toward a woman, unless I really liked her and wanted to see her reaction OR

I received some pretty clear signs and want to return those signs.

[Asker]

He seemed into me but started kinda avoiding me cuz I was so shy and couldn’t return the signals. One day I just looked at him and smiled though from a distance and he stopped in his tracks then walked past me.
Tbh I think every day what it’s be like to talk to him and have an actual conversation.

[Anonymous]

You think all guys are the same? Let alone the same person at every stage of their life?
I'd be lying if I said looks didn't matter at all (so would women). But she doesn't have to be a beauty queen. She just has to possess something that attracts the guy and that's not always physical. I used to find Kristen Schaal attractive and she's not conventionally attractive I'd say. But she's funny, and humor goes a long way with me.
Another thing that hooks me is when as I said they have personality. But they take interest with me. Honestly where a lot of women fail is they parade themselves like a dessert. It's all about building their ego and trying to make me interested. When they'd accomplish more just by showing their a good human being

[Lionman95]

A key factor is the way a woman responds in conversations either on text or in real life. A woman that shows a clear interest in me and my life has higher chances of me wanting to be in a relationship than if she just lets me iniate contact every time answering my texts only with a word or an emoji.
Because open communication is important to me I put worth in the way she reacts and try to figure what she thinks about me.

[megabamse]

That all depends on ones preference. Everyone is different. For me i do always first start with the looks, if their looks and style gets me interested. Then i get to know them, how their personality is like, are they stabil, emotional intelligence, funny, intelligent, worldly, creativ and so on. What their Focus in life is.

[Gangactivities911]

Age is a massive thing for me. I refuse to start a serious relationship with a girl over 21. How physically attractive they are to me. If they’re less physically attractive than me I really wanna just say no tbh. and if I feel like our personalities are compatible. and if I feel like they won’t cheat or hurt me. That’s it really.

[bamesjond0069]

Relationship has to be hot enough or hotter. For me id say 7 or better, without makeup!!! No big girls. can't weigh more than like 125lbs max no exceptions.

Hookup. Hot enough to make my dick hard and not be embarrassing if anyone saw us together. 5 or better just as i meet her so in makeup or not. Lol 😅 hey two 5s equal a 10 sooooo.

Relationship has slept with 3 men or less and none were hookups.

Hookup anyone who slept around more than that is obviously down for casual sex so i just want the casual sex too.

[Asker]

And what do you bring to the table? 😂

[bamesjond0069]

a lot. Six pack, multimillionaire, funny asf, big ass dick...

[Asker]

Just sounds like something I’ve heard from alpha make podcast parodies

[TheSpaceGnome]

She has to share my hobbies, interests, views, and personality, while being 100% female, and also looking in a way that I find physically attractive.

[soe11]

√ compatibility
√ play part together
√ slim attractive sexy smart
√ Intelligent and exhibitionist

[noohair]

It is my understanding that guys develop their personal tastes for women in childhood. Women probably do too. So it is the subconscious mind that is driving this.

[JustiReno]

Similar world view, interests, and long term goals. Being “chill” with the person.

[JustiReno]

in regards to your update, they do matter: I met my girlfriend online and hit her up cuz her pics. Her caption was “where is my sugar daddy 😂” I asked her to be my girlfriend because I fell in love with her voice and personality. To sum it up, guys fuck girls based on looks, have relationships with women based on personality

[rabbitzzz]

Looks. Clothing style. Does she respect me. Does she love me. Does she spend time with me etc.

[CloudMassacre]

I talk to one person at a time and if I feel safe and comfortable with them, they’re the one

[Anonymous]

Her body count.
How fast she has fucked people in the past.
Her body is a factor. If she looks like she will get dumpy after getting comfortable, NOPE.

[Cowboy6666]

First thing is look but permanent thing for me is personality and compatibility with her

[Anonymous]

I know what I want and if the girl isn't what I'm looking for, I'll find out after getting to know her.

[Anonymous]

If she is a virgin waiting for marriage. And has a pretty face. And doesn't want pets.

[PL2022]

1st body
2nd personality

[Wunjo1]

I don’t know Whoever sparked my interest.