Who is more picky in dating, women or men?

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backblueblack22 · Accepted Answer

You would have to live two lives through the exact time era and exact same circumstances to get an honest response this.

To be fair men generally make much faster judgments on visuals. Part of our brains literally shut down when we see a very attractive woman. This is especially true when we are younger. Young women can be like this too but they will get turned off quicker if they notice personality quirks. Men tend to not notice.

However women are always subconsciously “testing” men to see if they are an ideal mate to protect her and potential offspring. Even if she doesn’t want kids it’s part of her DNA. So unfortunately if the guy has an angle on her (she sees he’s gets attention from other women, he’s “funny”, he’s a challenge, he’s mysterious) this will short circuit her own judgment. I’ve seen countless women throw caution to the wind because the guy knows to game her despite being an inferior choice in many other aspects.

In my very biased option its much harder for men in the initial stages. We have to take calculated risks (approaching, getting number, date, first kiss, initiating sex) and women get to pick and choose. However men who know the game can have it easier.

okayk · Accepted Answer

Women because no offense to men... a lot of them don't even try on their appearance whereas a lot of women do. I mean seriously, compare dating profiles and there's a big difference in how men & women present themselves. A lot of you men out there need to get some style, seriously. It could be the very reason you don't have a girlfriend. Kacki shorts, a tshirt with holes, greasy hair, and bad skin is not helping your situation at all.

Coulis · Accepted Answer

Women are more picky in dating but not selective enough when it comes to committing. They are way to permissive and turn blind eyes to red flags when a man is able to make them feel a certain way.

Men cast a wider net in dating but are very picky when it comes to comitting.

Finchie40 · Answer

Women by far , it doesn’t take much to please a man , but takes a shit ton to please a women lol women have a way bigger selection to choose from then men do , especially if she is beautiful , so for her to be set on 1 guy is a long shot , but once she is set on 1 guy that guy should be smart and do what he has to do the keep her or she will just move onto the next. But if she shows any signs of being a player and easily moves her attention over to some other guy , then the guy she is seeing will lose interest and just let her go , Bottom line no one wants to be treated as a convenience

Too_Honest · Answer

Equal overall... But men more so based on my experience. Women just want the bare minimum nowadays, all you gotta do is be a decent human being. And occasionally there’s the picky one who needs someone over 6 feet. With men, they have a whole list of requirements like their weight, their face, their ability to be cook, their fertility, their shape, etc. Literally the other day I told a girl I wouldn’t ever sexually assault someone and she instantly was gawking over it. It’s the fucking obvious and bare minimum. However a few months ago, my friend was approached by this smoking hot girl, but her ass wasn't round so he rejected her.

We’re young and in college though so maybe that’s why, most of us are dumb 😂😂😂

MCheetah · Answer

Women literally want perfect men nowadays. Men typically just want a woman who isn't a bitch, looks cute, and treats them nicely. Any woman could get a man, if she wanted to. Women just hold out for perfection and will dismiss 95% of the population for the top 5% of males. (Hypergamy.) Femcels don't exist, for a reason, unless you mean feminists.

rjroy3 · Answer

Girls for sure. That's why so many girls have their varying check lists. Most guys pretty much have the same boxes to check.

It's more common for a guy to overlook a couple things if a girl checks off a few bare minimums. While it's more common for a girl to pass on guys that meet the bare minimum for seemingly silly reasons.

Like not texting back "fast enough". Largely because in their mind they didn't HAVE TO talk to you and that you should feel lucky they are. Big egos.

In general there are simply more thirsty guys than thirsty girls and more girls with a skewed sense or what is actually settling for them.

FatherJack · Answer

Women , simple biology , as the female has the greatest initial reproductive role & risk. Also women have far more options than men do , a combination of more human males than females , combined with most single women being single by choice , and happily staying man free. Most women are sick of male attention. I don't date , as don't want to , after the marriage I endured , much prefer to stay single. Also , as a single dad , I stand NO chance in the sausage fest " dating market " anyway.

sagevalentineee · Answer

I would say women - most women think they're more attractive then they actually are, so most women are attracted to men who are perhaps slightly 'out of their league'. Sorry it's just a fact that you'll end up long term dating people who are on your level. A statistic from a dating website says that the top 80% of all women are most attracted to the top 10% of men. Where as male stats showed them being more level.

Katebfun · Answer

I'll have to agree with most of the people on this thread and that's women. Because ultimately even if we don't consciously know it we need to choose a mate who will be sufficient enough to procreate with even if we don't have children with a man. A woman has a lot more to risk as well. Women invest a lot of money in order to look good be slim and attract men. It's not easy being s woman. So biologically speaking women are designed to be more picker because we have more to lose.

Lionman95 · Answer

I think women both are getting pickier with every new generation. At the moment I feel like girls are pickier because they often times lean back and make me feel like that they have become as shallow as guys are. So I don´t think there is much of a difference right now.

Floppy2112 · Answer

Women just have to exist, so they have the option to be more picky. I don't think it's a real question on who is more picky. Women are. Any female who is average looking or higher has been fending off dick since 12 years old. Most men are not desirable. And the men who are, are seldom picky about it. They have the options to be more picky, but the same girls who are average looking or better will likely get banged by one of these dudes sooner or later.
I know women complain about double standards and all that crap, but its you women who decide to all sleep with these same guys. Every guy you are legit attracted to, is attractive to all your friends too. The chances are high that most of you, all sleep with the same rotation of men and have them in common, even if you view your friends as competition.

Kaamraj · Answer

No doubt women, because at younger age they have far higher sexual mean value (SMV) than guys comparable to their own age, so they have choices. Vast majority of men do not have the same choices until and unless they make something of themselves and that usually takes time.

sage2021 · Answer

Definitely the men are more picky. Not all men though. My guy isn't picky at all. I wish he was. It might make him seem like he has SOME standards, but not him. The one's that are picky are actually micro-picky. One wrong thing he doesn't like and you're going home! I don't like egotistical guys because they make me feel like he's got me under a damn microscope. Who needs that?

tuvwxyz · Answer

Women up to 35, after 35 men as women often get desperate with their one resource that gave them leverage dwindling, while many have underdeveloped other areas that would allow for any stand-out features of attractiveness after this age to get free attention from

Anonymous · Answer

We are more picky absolutely! Some guys will be happy with a girl if she looks good and thats it. We girls care about personality, honesty, looks and more. A sexy face or hot body would be enough for mostly girls but for guys a pretty face sometimes could be enough.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

I'm still single because of how picky I am lol. Overall though from my experience with people I'd say women are more picky then guys. Mainly because they usually have lots of guys going after them so it's easy to be picky and pick one that she likes best out of the lot. When guys it's the opposite, going for women hoping she will respond and want us.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Women expect: Height, Fitness, Car, home, and Successful work ethic.

Men: Beauty, compliance, Peace

What women want, takes hard work for a man.
What men want is technally physically and mentally healthy women.

dillbill561 · Answer

Men are more picky and here is the simple reason. Women typically all go for the same thing in a man and don’t have much decision in the matters. While for a man there is a sort of competitive resentment towards the evil practices. Ultimately men don’t go that route and usually do all the approaching and decision making in who they start a good family with. This is the natural and traditional method.

DWornock · Answer

Typically women are pickier since they can fuck someone out of their league so they tend to chase after the best that will fuck them and reject guys within their league that would marry them. And, if it is a one-night stand, the difference is not even close.
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HawkPerception · Answer

I think the obvious answer is women. They have all the power in dating nowadays. Especially in online dating.

I also have pretty high standards for a girl, which is why I doubt I'll find a girl for me.

Tonita91996 · Answer

Men are because they have unrealistic expectation on what to settle for in a woman. They want a supermodel looking chick with a nice body and nobody is going to look like what is on the tv. It is dating as a while is superficial that is why i stop dating. It gives me a headache

Jlegacy · Answer

It is not women or men but me. I mean with everything I have heard, read or watched... love is not something you dive into without protection. You've got to have some form of insurance. And you have to be selective about whom you give yourself to both for the aesthetics, the metaphysical, the financial and the future of the investment.

UncleJessieRabbit · Answer

I think women have "learned" to be more picky than men.
People say that you can't generalize women's preferences and standards--but there is truth to it because a lot of different women do put not as realistic standards such as being 6' or more in dating profiles. So it represents enough of them to make that generalisation. And I hear people say at the same time that this is the most open-minded time in history. I say hmmmm.

Anonymous · Answer

If you took a sample of dates in a population (say a university campus) and you added up the number of unique men involved in those dates and did the same for the women, I guess you could say that women are relatively more picky if there's a smaller number of unique men than unique women in those dates, and vice versa otherwise. I haven't conducted the experiment, but I'd hazard a guess that it would find that women are slightly pickier, though the difference wouldn't be huge.

Anonymous · Answer

Women/girls. Y’all have more options. But sometimes being picky will sometimes bite you in the ass. Let’s be honest most girls want a guy who’s 6ft4, big dick, and 9 out of 10, rich and is an asshole to her and others. A girl will then say, maybe that guy who was 5’10, decent looking, good job, funny, caring and 7/10 on the looks scale is someone I should have chosen.

Anonymous · Answer

They'll never admit the reason for it but women are pickier. 1 guy can theoretically be the father of tens of thousands of children within a few years. The basis of attraction is purely sexual, not financial, not their popularity, JUST their sexual value.

So, in history women have taken advantage of the fact that a single hot dude can be the father of 10s of kids a year. A woman can only mother 1 at a time. Meaning women have other uses for the 99.99% of guys they dont want to fuck, but as far as a fuck buddy goes, women are pickier.

Justneedtokno · Answer

Women. We have to live up to being a certain standard. We have to make sure that we’re not just out there being ho or looked at as being one. There’s so many things against women that is hard to even put ourselves out there

XavierSteele · Answer

I truly think men are. Most of them have unrealistic expectations of what they want. For example a 300 lb guy with pimples, no job, and body odor thinking all women should bow to him. Versus a woman who will date someone if they believe they have something between each other.
It's no wonder there are countless saps on dating apps crying about women not wanting to talk to them.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

The amount of individuals who will take everyone just for the sake to obtain sex is higher among men. In this topic have some men no class and self-respect. lol

Grond21 · Answer

Based on polling, these days it is women. But I believe that is a sign of our times, not necessarily an intrinsic factor. I don't know who is naturally more picky

Interstate · Answer

It really depends on who has the higher expectations and is more by-the-book. Sometimes it is Men, and other times it is Women.

ohshee · Answer

I think it depends on the individual and I honestly think both are very picky are least I would hope there I know I am

Truthist1 · Answer

Women because they can be. In any given year, women get asked out by plenty of men if they are reasonably attractive women. Women hardly ever ask men out so men are much less choosy as sex is top of mind and men have far fewer options.

dragoblack · Answer

I would say women... granted i have seen a lot of picky men too, but the reason I say women is, guys are dime a dozen for them, with many blowing up their inboxes on a daily (many of them with unsolicited dick pics and super thirsty guys)

m33lad · Answer

It’s not exactly black and white anytime guys act like girls the girls start going for the hot guys and acting picky anywhere man start acting like manly man the girls don’t give a shit about looks within reason of course.

Of course in the human species men aren’t designed to be beautiful.

Tomisalami7 · Answer

Women as they dictate societal norms, relationships, sexual encounters, consumer markets etc. Only thing females dont control men over is reigns of government. Everyones there to help women and children but if you're a man you're to take life on alone. Fuck we too were once young, we are only human you bitches

Anonymous · Answer

Both can be for sure, but I think generally speaking women are. And look at more as well when choosing a guy. Example his job might matter (or if he's employed even or not), where maybe that won't matter to a guy. Or not as much.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

In general i will say womans. But from your question (who? woman or man?) ME. So many things i expect from my posible girlfriend.

rienna888 · Answer

Yeah, I think women are more picky because i'm ugly (its okay you don't have to say i'm not) yet I can find boyfriends and most girls I know can get boyfriends. But many of my close guy friends get rejected by almost every girl they date or like.

Dude_777 · Answer

Whoever has more available options to explore are picky.  Could be either of these. Supply demand gap basically.

pinkster · Answer

Men i would suggest but not them all but hands up men

Grubhub · Answer

Women because they more white washed. A woman loves a white man more than the white woman. Women especially in Asian and Latin ethnicities know that white man has all the power in the world and overall think white is pretty is black is ugly. That’s how it is when you go overseas. Back in Asia the women would ask the white girl “ can I touch your hair it’s so beautiful “ they’d probably look at a black woman the opposite

Alejandro3000 · Answer

Men because we have to approach and so she's got to look really good. Those that say women take their looks for granted.

amaguqe · Answer

Is this question really genuine? Females in the entire animal kingdom are the picky ones, while men are just trying to seed their genome as much as possible

SenseiSeptred · Answer

I suppose that I am in the minority of being quite picky about what type of woman that I would date. There are a lot of women that I would never ask on a date.

Aquariusmystery · Answer

Women. Men get with who they can, women get with who they want.

ImaFitDiva · Answer

females. they want a tall dark handsome, bad boy, street guy, confident, saves me when I'm falling off a cliff, I won't do any cooking I'm too good for that. but dare he want a girl with a hard work ethic and the world collapses

Somegirl408 · Answer

i actually dont know, i like to think im not picky but maybe people would say i am.

worldscolide · Answer

I would assume women.. Women rarely have to deal with rejection, where as men it's what we get 99% of the time.

lovesummerA7 · Answer

Women are…. they feel a need (at times) to do nothing better then piss and moan about damn near
EVERYTHING on Gods blue Earth. 🤨 Guys are happy with a 1/2 way tight pussy - fresh breath along
well washed hole in one. Anything above that is pure luck and a draw of cards.

Anonymous · Answer

Women of course. Guys have one qualification. Be hot.

Chloeangel18 · Answer

I think definitely women in my opinion im really picky for some reason. Are maybe thats just me.

ARealHonestHuman · Answer

everyone, we all come with preferrence and expectations

Gustav1 · Answer

I haven't looked into men's dating behavior but I'd guess women are more picky as I have more experience with dating them.

Anonymous · Answer

Women may be more picky 😅

Noahcepticeye · Answer

Women lol because that's the way they're supposed to be.

NerdDG · Answer

Women. Especially women. They doesn’t want me because I am fucking skinny. Guess they are all picky

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

I say women all the way because let’s face it guys will date any girl with nice tits, a nice ass & a taco between her legs.

joy768 · Answer

Women are for sure, ,, women a lot of the time are picking a man who is going to be boyfriend material, , father-husband...

convo_king89 · Answer

usually the girl, cuz the guys gotta do the work to impress.

imfreeze95 · Answer

Women. Most men if a woman is attractive and can fog a mirror it’s probably a done deal. Cheers

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I would say women are more picky. Men are just happy to have a woman they can get steady sex with.

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