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Who is more picky in dating, women or men?

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  • backblueblack22
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    Xper 5 Age: 38
    1 y

    You would have to live two lives through the exact time era and exact same circumstances to get an honest response this.

    To be fair men generally make much faster judgments on visuals. Part of our brains literally shut down when we see a very attractive woman. This is especially true when we are younger. Young women can be like this too but they will get turned off quicker if they notice personality quirks. Men tend to not notice.

    However women are always subconsciously “testing” men to see if they are an ideal mate to protect her and potential offspring. Even if she doesn’t want kids it’s part of her DNA. So unfortunately if the guy has an angle on her (she sees he’s gets attention from other women, he’s “funny”, he’s a challenge, he’s mysterious) this will short circuit her own judgment. I’ve seen countless women throw caution to the wind because the guy knows to game her despite being an inferior choice in many other aspects.

    In my very biased option its much harder for men in the initial stages. We have to take calculated risks (approaching, getting number, date, first kiss, initiating sex) and women get to pick and choose. However men who know the game can have it easier.

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  • okayk
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    Xper 5 Age: 20 , mho 37%
    1 y

    Women because no offense to men... a lot of them don't even try on their appearance whereas a lot of women do. I mean seriously, compare dating profiles and there's a big difference in how men & women present themselves. A lot of you men out there need to get some style, seriously. It could be the very reason you don't have a girlfriend. Kacki shorts, a tshirt with holes, greasy hair, and bad skin is not helping your situation at all.

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    • chris_987
      chris_987
      New 1 y

      Naww where good

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    • Chthou95
      Chthou95
      New 1 y

      Nobody is telling you, you have to. You honestly don't have to do much and guys will still hit you up

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  • Coulis
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    1 y

    Women are more picky in dating but not selective enough when it comes to committing. They are way to permissive and turn blind eyes to red flags when a man is able to make them feel a certain way.

    Men cast a wider net in dating but are very picky when it comes to comitting.

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    • chris_987
      chris_987
      1 y

      I agree, I’ll have sex with any girls but marriage is something else entirely

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    • backblueblack22
      backblueblack22
      1 y

      “ They are way to permissive and turn blind eyes to red flags when a man is able to make them feel a certain way.” Very true.

      This is why some men lie, manipulate and “fake it to you make it”.

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    • Coulis
      Coulis
      1 y

      @backblueblack22 men lie to get in women lie to keep them in.

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    • backblueblack22
      backblueblack22
      1 y

      Very true unfortunately.

      Albeit minor exceptions I’ve never been a real liar. I have a strong conscious and I’m not good at lying anyway. I have lost out on SEVERAL opportunities to get laid.

      The only time I have ever lied is I said I was 5 years younger on a dating app. A very pretty 21 yr old girl went on a date with me and right before sex (she invited me over) I confessed it without her bringing it up. If she would of turned me down I would of accepted it. She forgave me and we did it anyway.

      But anyway as much as I hate being fake it seems almost borderline necessary at times. If that girl knew my true age she most likely would of not gone on a date with me. I did fess up and it worked out great that night. But still what would of happened if she knew off the bat I was 37 at the time vs 32?

      It’s almost like many of these know this guy is full of shit. But the wonderful bs fantasy facade he puts on creates a good “emotion” that supercedes her better judgment. Now he’s got his foot in the door where honest guys (who are better long term options) get shut down right away.

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  • Too_Honest
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    Xper 4 Age: 24 , mho 41%
    1 y

    Equal overall... But men more so based on my experience. Women just want the bare minimum nowadays, all you gotta do is be a decent human being. And occasionally there’s the picky one who needs someone over 6 feet. With men, they have a whole list of requirements like their weight, their face, their ability to be cook, their fertility, their shape, etc. Literally the other day I told a girl I wouldn’t ever sexually assault someone and she instantly was gawking over it. It’s the fucking obvious and bare minimum. However a few months ago, my friend was approached by this smoking hot girl, but her ass wasn't round so he rejected her.

    We’re young and in college though so maybe that’s why, most of us are dumb 😂😂😂

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  • MCheetah
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    Master Age: 36 , mho 45%
    1 y

    Women literally want perfect men nowadays. Men typically just want a woman who isn't a bitch, looks cute, and treats them nicely. Any woman could get a man, if she wanted to. Women just hold out for perfection and will dismiss 95% of the population for the top 5% of males. (Hypergamy.) Femcels don't exist, for a reason, unless you mean feminists.

    Who is more picky in dating, women or men?Who is more picky in dating, women or men?Who is more picky in dating, women or men?
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    • malwins
      malwins
      1 y

      lol a woman has to do NOTHING to look good

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    • malwins
      malwins
      1 y

      i wish

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    • MCheetah
      MCheetah
      1 y

      @malwins
      It's the truth. This is "looking good TO MEN." Women claim all the time they don't put on makeup and dress up for the men. (They do it to spite other women and to one-up them.)

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    • pink_and_inlove
      pink_and_inlove
      1 y

      I never thought about spiting other women before but I don’t know how other women think. For me it’s just become such a habit to wear lipstick all day everyday lol and I dress up sometimes I think me being addicted to lipstick and stuff was passed down by my great grandmother lol she also wore lipstick daily even when she was hanging at home

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  • rjroy3
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    Guru Age: 33
    1 y

    Girls for sure. That's why so many girls have their varying check lists. Most guys pretty much have the same boxes to check.

    It's more common for a guy to overlook a couple things if a girl checks off a few bare minimums. While it's more common for a girl to pass on guys that meet the bare minimum for seemingly silly reasons.

    Like not texting back "fast enough". Largely because in their mind they didn't HAVE TO talk to you and that you should feel lucky they are. Big egos.

    In general there are simply more thirsty guys than thirsty girls and more girls with a skewed sense or what is actually settling for them.

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  • FatherJack
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    1 y
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    Women , simple biology , as the female has the greatest initial reproductive role & risk. Also women have far more options than men do , a combination of more human males than females , combined with most single women being single by choice , and happily staying man free. Most women are sick of male attention. I don't date , as don't want to , after the marriage I endured , much prefer to stay single. Also , as a single dad , I stand NO chance in the sausage fest " dating market " anyway.

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  • Finchie40
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    Guru Age: 45
    1 y
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    Women by far , it doesn’t take much to please a man , but takes a shit ton to please a women lol women have a way bigger selection to choose from then men do , especially if she is beautiful , so for her to be set on 1 guy is a long shot , but once she is set on 1 guy that guy should be smart and do what he has to do the keep her or she will just move onto the next. But if she shows any signs of being a player and easily moves her attention over to some other guy , then the guy she is seeing will lose interest and just let her go , Bottom line no one wants to be treated as a convenience

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    • Lonewolf881
      Lonewolf881
      1 y

      I’ve liked the same guy for years and I’ve never been enough for him. I’ve been rejected by every single guy I had Interest in so in my perspective it’s hard to please a man.

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  • sagevalentineee
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    Xper 6 Age: 21 , mho 58%
    1 y

    I would say women - most women think they're more attractive then they actually are, so most women are attracted to men who are perhaps slightly 'out of their league'. Sorry it's just a fact that you'll end up long term dating people who are on your level. A statistic from a dating website says that the top 80% of all women are most attracted to the top 10% of men. Where as male stats showed them being more level.

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    • Chthou95
      Chthou95
      1 y

      I really wish women would stop saying that men are shallow and only care about looks because that's obviously bullshit

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    • sagevalentineee
      sagevalentineee
      1 y

      Women probably feel that way because looks are more important to men than women. But that's okay there's nothing wrong with it.

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    • Chthou95
      Chthou95
      1 y

      Its not that its more important, its that men are more vocal about what they like and women keep their opinions to themselves. Im saying that women care about looks a lot more than men do but are just less vocal

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    • sagevalentineee
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      1 y

      @Chthou95 Really? I would say men care about looks more than 30% and women care about looks less than 30%. However, women care more about standards in general.

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    • Chthou95
      Chthou95
      1 y

      There's data to show otherwise. I can show you that data proving women' are pickier about looks

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    • sagevalentineee
      sagevalentineee
      1 y

      @Chthou95 Really? I'm surprised - I think my boyfriend is wayyyy pickier than me, every single girl on the street he thinks is ugly. But if you say there's evidence I'm interested to see.

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  • Katebfun
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    Explorer Age: 39 , mho 32%
    1 y

    I'll have to agree with most of the people on this thread and that's women. Because ultimately even if we don't consciously know it we need to choose a mate who will be sufficient enough to procreate with even if we don't have children with a man. A woman has a lot more to risk as well. Women invest a lot of money in order to look good be slim and attract men. It's not easy being s woman. So biologically speaking women are designed to be more picker because we have more to lose.

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    • michael1469
      michael1469
      1 y

      ...
      As you divorce him, take his car, his house, take his kids, his retirement and leave him pennyless... who has more to lose?

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    • Chthou95
      Chthou95
      1 y

      @michael1469 Marriage is a joke. Men shouldn't be getting married

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    • michael1469
      michael1469
      1 y

      Exactly

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  • Kaamraj
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    Xper 7 Age: 33 , mho 31%
    1 y
    327 opinions shared on Dating topic.

    No doubt women, because at younger age they have far higher sexual mean value (SMV) than guys comparable to their own age, so they have choices. Vast majority of men do not have the same choices until and unless they make something of themselves and that usually takes time.

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  • Lionman95
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    Guru Age: 28 , mho 37%
    1 y
    929 opinions shared on Dating topic.

    I think women both are getting pickier with every new generation. At the moment I feel like girls are pickier because they often times lean back and make me feel like that they have become as shallow as guys are. So I don´t think there is much of a difference right now.

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  • Floppy2112
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    Xper 7 Age: 49
    1 y

    Women just have to exist, so they have the option to be more picky. I don't think it's a real question on who is more picky. Women are. Any female who is average looking or higher has been fending off dick since 12 years old. Most men are not desirable. And the men who are, are seldom picky about it. They have the options to be more picky, but the same girls who are average looking or better will likely get banged by one of these dudes sooner or later.
    I know women complain about double standards and all that crap, but its you women who decide to all sleep with these same guys. Every guy you are legit attracted to, is attractive to all your friends too. The chances are high that most of you, all sleep with the same rotation of men and have them in common, even if you view your friends as competition.

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  • sage2021
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    Yoda Age: 68 , mho 48%
    1 y

    Definitely the men are more picky. Not all men though. My guy isn't picky at all. I wish he was. It might make him seem like he has SOME standards, but not him. The one's that are picky are actually micro-picky. One wrong thing he doesn't like and you're going home! I don't like egotistical guys because they make me feel like he's got me under a damn microscope. Who needs that?

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  • tuvwxyz
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    Xper 4 Age: 21 , mho 34%
    1 y

    Women up to 35, after 35 men as women often get desperate with their one resource that gave them leverage dwindling, while many have underdeveloped other areas that would allow for any stand-out features of attractiveness after this age to get free attention from

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  • Anonymous
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    We are more picky absolutely! Some guys will be happy with a girl if she looks good and thats it. We girls care about personality, honesty, looks and more. A sexy face or hot body would be enough for mostly girls but for guys a pretty face sometimes could be enough.

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    • Anonymous
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      *mostly guys

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    • MiriamDoremi
      MiriamDoremi
      1 y

      That's true, women have higher standards/ expectations when they come to men. And men only care of the looks of the women.

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    • Chthou95
      Chthou95
      1 y

      @MiriamDoremi Wrong

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    • MiriamDoremi
      MiriamDoremi
      1 y

      @Chthou95 I mean mostly immature guys.

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    • Chthou95
      Chthou95
      1 y

      @MiriamDoremi Girls care about looks too. It's not gender based

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  • Hairylegs222
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    Xper 7 Age: 36
    1 y

    I'm still single because of how picky I am lol. Overall though from my experience with people I'd say women are more picky then guys. Mainly because they usually have lots of guys going after them so it's easy to be picky and pick one that she likes best out of the lot. When guys it's the opposite, going for women hoping she will respond and want us.

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  • Mofunfour20
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    Explorer Age: 31 , mho 32%
    1 y
    428 opinions shared on Dating topic.

    Women expect: Height, Fitness, Car, home, and Successful work ethic.

    Men: Beauty, compliance, Peace

    What women want, takes hard work for a man.
    What men want is technally physically and mentally healthy women.

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  • dillbill561
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    Xper 3 Age: 31
    1 y

    Men are more picky and here is the simple reason. Women typically all go for the same thing in a man and don’t have much decision in the matters. While for a man there is a sort of competitive resentment towards the evil practices. Ultimately men don’t go that route and usually do all the approaching and decision making in who they start a good family with. This is the natural and traditional method.

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  • DWornock
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    Yoda Age: 30
    1 y
    1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

    Typically women are pickier since they can fuck someone out of their league so they tend to chase after the best that will fuck them and reject guys within their league that would marry them. And, if it is a one-night stand, the difference is not even close.
    https://www.baltimoresun.com/news/bs-xpm-2009-08-12-0908110068-story.html

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  • Jlegacy
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    Xper 6 Age: 35
    1 y

    It is not women or men but me. I mean with everything I have heard, read or watched... love is not something you dive into without protection. You've got to have some form of insurance. And you have to be selective about whom you give yourself to both for the aesthetics, the metaphysical, the financial and the future of the investment.

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  • UncleJessieRabbit
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    Xper 7 Age: 31
    1 y

    I think women have "learned" to be more picky than men.
    People say that you can't generalize women's preferences and standards--but there is truth to it because a lot of different women do put not as realistic standards such as being 6' or more in dating profiles. So it represents enough of them to make that generalisation. And I hear people say at the same time that this is the most open-minded time in history. I say hmmmm.

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  • Tonita91996
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    Yoda Age: 26
    1 y

    Men are because they have unrealistic expectation on what to settle for in a woman. They want a supermodel looking chick with a nice body and nobody is going to look like what is on the tv. It is dating as a while is superficial that is why i stop dating. It gives me a headache

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    • Ryfyle
      Ryfyle
      New 1 y

      Why would anybody want to date someone that high maintenance?

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