Female 20 here. started talking to this guy nearly a year ago (age 22). He told my friend he was interested in me so I decided to message him. He was always so sweet to me and affectionate and I thought “yay its finally happening for me!” He was always very reserved however and I am quite an over thinker and open so I took this to heart.
Anyway, it was so good over summer we talked everyday, I gave him my virginity because he seemed so serious about me. He was always there for me. He has only been in one serious relationship before me.
Anyway things were going so well and I fell so hard for him. But then he started getting more distant than he was before, replies were getting drier and he wasn’t asking me to go out anymore. I would mention things like “we should go out again soon” and he was like “yeah I really wanna see you” but never followed through.
Finally I confronted him about this, I calmly and kindly asked if everthing was okay and I just wanted to know where I stood because I really liked him and was getting the vibe he didn’t feel the same. He said everything was fine and he was sorry he didn’t make more time for me. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and gave it a go again. But then a couple of weeks later he just stopped replying, nothing said, just randomly out of nowhere.
I decided I wasn’t chasing this time and we haven’t spoken since (5 months now) except he wished me an all too casual ‘merry Christmas’ and said ‘hello’ once when we saw eachother in a bar.
It’s eating me up inside I feel so sad and it’s worse knowing that he doesn’t care at all. Does anyone have any advice on getting over this, I've had no closure I don’t know what I was to him whether I was a rebound a passing phase.
He was never the ‘**** boy’ type, he never pressured me into anything sexual. I just feel so confused, why would he say he was interested in me then just run. Why could he not have the balls to just say he didn’t want a relationship rather than just ghost me.
Anyway, it was so good over summer we talked everyday, I gave him my virginity because he seemed so serious about me. He was always there for me. He has only been in one serious relationship before me.
Anyway things were going so well and I fell so hard for him. But then he started getting more distant than he was before, replies were getting drier and he wasn’t asking me to go out anymore. I would mention things like “we should go out again soon” and he was like “yeah I really wanna see you” but never followed through.
Finally I confronted him about this, I calmly and kindly asked if everthing was okay and I just wanted to know where I stood because I really liked him and was getting the vibe he didn’t feel the same. He said everything was fine and he was sorry he didn’t make more time for me. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and gave it a go again. But then a couple of weeks later he just stopped replying, nothing said, just randomly out of nowhere.
I decided I wasn’t chasing this time and we haven’t spoken since (5 months now) except he wished me an all too casual ‘merry Christmas’ and said ‘hello’ once when we saw eachother in a bar.
It’s eating me up inside I feel so sad and it’s worse knowing that he doesn’t care at all. Does anyone have any advice on getting over this, I've had no closure I don’t know what I was to him whether I was a rebound a passing phase.
He was never the ‘**** boy’ type, he never pressured me into anything sexual. I just feel so confused, why would he say he was interested in me then just run. Why could he not have the balls to just say he didn’t want a relationship rather than just ghost me.
