He is far younger than me.. what to do?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy at a dance party, there was instant alchemy…like fire desire between us flowing.
I feel like my libido is off for several weeks and I immediately felt intense desire.
We also had an instant mental connection, we stopped dancing and had conversations for hours during this evening. Had a lot of fun too!
I was surprised by his maturity as he is way younger than me … he is 20 ans I’m 33.
I don’t know what to do.. should I allow myself to have something with him if the occasion is presenting?
I’m confused because everything was so natural when we were talking it’s like we knew each other for months…
Mans this alchemy wow ! Haha. He even touched me gently…

[crossdressingrihno]

In times like this you just take it slow

He might not be fully developed yet mentally speaking but if you hang out with him and by the time he's 25 or so and you're both still interested in each other then feel free to do whatever you're both adults and he's gotten time to develop as a person and also gotten time to know and understand you and if by the time he's 25 and one or neither of you is no longer interested in each other as a partner then you both dodge a bullet there and there's no harm in no foul everybody wins

[Asker]

Hello! Interesting point of views.
Honestly I found him very mature for his age, he is very open minded, multicultural.
We share a lot of interests in commun and we talked like 3-4 hours in total during the evening. Kind of crazy stuff, there was always something to discuss/debate about. He doesn’t seem superficial at all and this is amazing !

[Asker]

Funny thing also people are often intimidated with me (even people with same age I mean) and he was not so impressed and even tried to seduce me a bit Lool

[crossdressingrihno]

Yeah I get that he might be mature for his age but people can still change a lot within those 5 years

I mean if you want to you can go full send I'm just saying that one or both of you might regret it

However I well in truly do hope that things go well between the two of you

[Asker]

What do you mean by regretting it? For which kind of reason?
To my side it s most by social convenience (I hate sayin that lol)

[crossdressingrihno]

I'm trying to look for a mild example but I'm just not finding any mild ones in my head so I'm just going to go with a drastic one now please forgive me I don't want to ruin your chances and I don't want you to get scared of pursuing a relationship but I just cannot for the life of me come up with a mild reason for why someone would break up because I just have a very dramatic over the top thought process

So anyways for this example we're going to say that 3 years pass why 3 years you may have asked well because that's plenty enough time for someone to change

For the sake of the argument we will say he is a virgin or at least he was and that you were his first and then after 3 years you slowly drift apart because he's changing as a person and for this example I will use the characteristic of being passionate yes passionate but over time right he has grown into his life and has gotten to understand you as well as himself better because of this he is now much calmer and less passionate and maybe you really like that passion about him but that passion is gone and so now your favorite thing about him is gone and then all the special feelings just go away over time because the passion is no longer there

Again I am not saying that he is a passionate person or that he isn't a passionate person and I'm not saying this is absolutely going to happen I'm just saying that this is why you take time you take things slow which is all I'm saying I'm just saying take things slow slow is good slow is very good slow gives time for confirmation to things it lets you understand each other and not make mistakes

[crossdressingrihno]

Anyway I wish the both of you the best and I hope things goes well between the both of you for many years to come

[Anonymous]

My husband is 15 years younger than me and it's the best relationship of my life by far. However, at first I didn't even consider him as a possible romantic partner because of the age gap. However, I'm so super glad I did. Not only did I marry the love of my life but I wouldn't have had the 2 kids we've had together.
With that being said I'm not saying he's necessarily right for you. My husband and I have pretty compatible maturity levels and our goals were compatible. That may not be the same for you and this guy. If you're looking for something long term I'd strongly suggest figuring out how compatible you two are in terms of maturity and life goals, because if you're not it won't work out.
However, if you're not looking for anything serious that's also perfectly fine! You could have a fun fling and maybe bang a few times. If that's what you're looking for than maturity and life goals don't really matter (but using protection matters a lot more)

[Asker]

Wow thank you for you amazing testimony ! 😍 glad you did it !
Of course if I think a bit the blockage easily can come because of social pressure/image we reflect to others…
But honestly when I talk with him I don’t feel ANY age gap. It’s like our souls are perfect match. The physical attraction is crazy he touches me a lot while talking (back, arms…) and I can see the sparks in his eyes lol. But not only : we share kind of crazy mental connection (we can almost finish the other sentence and sometimes we say the same thing at the same time!). I’m mesmerised by his level of maturity for his age. He has deep thoughts and doesn’t seem interested by superficial stuff.
The only difference can come when I think about our daily life of course he is still studying and I’m working… but apart from that we can talk for hours about anything it never stops (he is very talkative and spontaneous I like it haha).

So I think Im gonna dive into this and see what happens 😇

[Opinion Owner]

I'd 100% say go for it! If you don't feel like there's a maturity gap then there's no issue!

[Asker]

We just kissed… and oh my god!! Shivers!! That was so intense

[Opinion Owner]

I'm super happy for you!

[Asker]

Thank you! 😊👀
It’s kind of getting serious.. he is testing me a bit about my expectations lol.

[Opinion Owner]

What do you mean by "he's testing me a bit about my expectations"? How exactly is he 'testing' you?

[Asker]

He asked me ‘random’ random questions about what kind of relation I consider we have.
Also as he often bring me back home (Im in my parents house these times) and he suggested several times to enter and meet my parents. What do you think of this?
It seems he needs to be reassured about us.
Despite his young age, he has been in couple before. He doesn’t seem into light things.

[SphynxUK]

He’s 20. He’s old enough to know what he wants.
I can understand your concerns though. I have been in that situation and I always denied myself a worthy relationship.
Now I’m older, I still have my cut off age, but I would no longer reject someone younger if the connection was special.

[Stevefiveo]

Definitely go for it. Don't worry about the age. When I was 18, I dated a 28 year old and it was great.

[Asker]

Just for fun or more? How was it in your side?

[Stevefiveo]

Mine was more of a friends with benefits situation because I was moving soon. But it might have been more if I didn't have to move.

[Anonymous]

I mean you guys are both legally an adult so go ahead and give it a go!

[bamesjond0069]

I mean its just for sex. So please i hope neither of you want a relationship out of this.

[Asker]

Who knows 😂

[bamesjond0069]

can't work for a relationship so id say everyone knows.

[Asker]

In theory I would agree but sometimes life is surprising! Anyways I ll just enjoy it as it comes.

[Cowboy6666]

If you dont feel comfortable with him then let me tell you I am single too :P

[Asker]

Haha

[Cowboy6666]

Its an offer for you actually ;)

[Asker]

You don’t even know me or what I look haja

[Cowboy6666]

I know thats why I said we should talk in DM and lets see what happens :)

[Wise4myage]

Why not just go for it and see what happens?

[Wise4myage]

It sounds like you have some intense chemistry with this guy.

[Asker]

I guess it’s the age gap? It feels weird. He’s very handsome and nice guy I must say

[Wise4myage]

The gap is not that big in my opinion.

[Asker]

When it’s the girl younger it is not shocking but in the other way It feels strange haha. It a like I’m gonna babysitt’ him haha. I exaggerate but I mean he just entered engineer school as I’m working for several years. But I can say he is very clever and mature for his age Im surprised.

[Asker]

Yes I felt something strange everything was flowing naturally between us immediately and I could feel strong physical attraction too.

[Wise4myage]

Come on, ya gotta go for it. Put the age gap aside and let yourself have some fun.

[Asker]

Yes maybe I ll just let myself go :)

[Wise4myage]

Nice!!

[Asker]

We talked a bit yesterday before to sleep and I noticed we say the same thing at the same time lol

[Wise4myage]

That's good!!

[Asker]

We kissed for the first time…and that was woooow! ✨ indeed such an alchemy : we always say the same thing at the same thing time or say what the other has in mind. Seems like we have a soulmate connection? Strong bond

[Anonymous]

No.

I regularly prefer to do it in a public restroom to clearly show the women how much worth they are for me to enjoy the smell

[Girlygovroom]

Go get him

[CuriousMufuxka]

What's the problem? Be the cougar!

[Asker]

I don’t know if it’s a social blockage but it feels weird haha

[CuriousMufuxka]

Ah, lack of confidence. In due time..

[Jim___Blakes]

Comeon just give a try

[jimmy2]

You go Cougar have fun

[Asker]

👀😂😂

[Asker]

I look like more 26-27 (people say that)

[ImNoOne111]

Love is love

[clemdenim]

Go for it, throw age out, have fun