What do you do if you get rejected by someone?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I think it depends partly on what they do. I try not to take it personal, even when they MAKE it a personal attack.

I try to forgive (not forget) when they're mean about it. "Oh well. Figured it couldn't hurt to ask." or "Just thought I'd give it a go." "You win some, ya lose some." I try to be diplomatic. When I get shot down in a respectful way (that's really unusual) - No hard feelings. Internally, I'm like "Wow, that was actually kind of nice how she said no. She actually treated me like a person. That's rare! That was cool."

When they ARE cruel about it... Who knows why she was nasty? Maybe she's just lost a friend (no excuse, but still), maybe her pet hedgehog died... maybe that stick up her butt accidentally got further lodged up in there... or maybe she's just a raging b*tch, and I've dodged a bullet."

If I start to wonder why (doesn't happen all the time, but sometimes, as a part of my "processing"..." Who knows why? I don't need to come up with an answer. Not my business. I wish her well."

Lately when it's been rude, if I'm not still kind of shocked into silence, then I say "You know, ya could have just said no, instead of trying to go for the jugular like that." "If the roles had been reversed, I would have at least been respectful about saying no." I don't do that very often, but I'm becoming less willing to put up with her being way out of line and way too enraged/triggered over a simple, respectful invite to coffee.

Then I go home, try not to think about it. Try to move on.

[ohshee]

You smile ss your walking away talking to yourself saying every cuss word there is known under your breath and telling her to stop looking at your ass why are you walking away and then you keep telling yourself it's okay chill out relax it's just not meant to be it's not a big deal even though your face is beet-red but depending on who you already get over very quickly and most times it's really good for you because you do grow from it even though you just like it it would be something good come from it you just don't know what it is that moment LMAO

[Anonymous]

Being rejected is more than just moving on, it’s about improving yourself in the process too, especially if someone experiences rejection on constant basis.


I’m considered attractive. I can pull attraction of men but that doesn't mean I don’t experience rejection. And that’s cause I’m not fully content with where I’m at in life to invite another person in on this journey with me just yet. Because I’ve wasted too much time on just “moving on to the next” rather than focusing on myself and what I should be doing.

[WonderBell99]

Uh I don’t know how to put this in a non creepy way, but I usually get obsessed with things/people I’m interested in. It’s just a phase and no, I’m not a creepy stalker. It’s just a profound romantic infatuation. I push through and just deal with it. Binge Netflix and try to take your mind off them. I console myself and just suck it up. I’ve been rejected twice and eh it sucked, but I got over it. I listened to a bunch of Taylor Swift songs on repeat, ate ice cream and got over it.

[Genie23]

You move on. If it helps you, think it's their loss. Not yours.

[Armourdillo]

If you're rejected I thought you need to work on yourself. It's not their loss, it's a lack of confidence and self worth on your end. That's what men get told anyway

[Valso]

There was a time when it would bother me but not anymore. Nowadays I don't care about romantic relationships, all I care about is finding one more sex partner. So I ask women "Do you wanna skip the bullshit and fuck?". 15-20% of all I asked say "yes". If they say "no", I simply move on to the next.
With guys it's usually a lot easier, I don't even have to ask. Either they "hand" me, or I "hand" them (means touching the private parts or the ass), the message is clear and we move on to the next "action chapter". :)

[sassy1433]

Lol move on. Nothing u can do to change things. And you cannot force someone to like u. There’s millions of people out there. Yes it hurts to be rejected, but try not to let that person know it got to u, don’t give them that satisfaction. Cause they say, after sadness comes anger. Just learn from the experience and live your life.

[Squaresquirrel]

What I did was asking them to stay friends. After a little time. Turned out to be a big mistake.
The second time, I did nothing, we just swept it under the rug, and continued hanging out. He was a friend before, and stayed a friend after.
What I do is depend on the person who rejects me and how and what's our relationship like.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I appreciate their honesty.
If not for the rejection, I would have some kind of hope that they would accept me. But now, since it is clear, I would leave them.

I was rejected by a girl I liked very very much, and that was the reaction. First I said thank you to her and then the above paragraph.

[DizzyDesii]

I sigh because it took a lot of courage to state how i felt. But then i remind myself there are so many more hotties out there to take a risk with 😍😝

[Cathy7734]

I've been in a relationship where he was only interested in what I had to offer, not in me. I mistook his interest as interest in me. When he no longer needed or wanted what I had to offer he broke it off with me. Sometimes they do it in a dysfunctional way, such as verbally attacking you.

I cry, eat lots of ice cream, and write in my journal. I try to reconnected with that person but they don't respond. It's hard to let go of someone you have feelings for.

[meetkitty123]

It stings a little but so what shake it off and move on. Just wasn't meant to be. Means no need to waste any more time on the wrong person. It means more time to find a better match. Thank them and keep going... They save you some valuable time.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't happen. You have to ask someone out to reject you and I don't do that.
But in the past it largely depended on the infatuation. My best advice is ask them out fairly quickly. It'll hurt less if you haven't developed any real connection with them. I mean cause then it's just your pride getting hurt and that's not that big of a deal. So someone doesn't like you. Not everyone in life is going to.

[Tina19]

Understand that different people have different priorities when it comes to relationship some just simply don't believe in love so not to take it personally or feel worthless or get your ego in between

[ThebestIndian]

Nice booster

[Clsr2thedge]

I'd probably want to know why. Chances are that I'm not what they were interested in and that's ok because everyone is different and everyone has different preferences.

[goosebump4444]

First of cry out in locked room as much I want.. Then think bad things about that specific person from whom I got rejected like:who do he/she think is... I can get much better than them.. Because Theirs 7billions peeps (aprox.) on earth.
Lastly with time passed by get moved on~
& then again try to propose someone else.. If again get rejected... Then above mention process so on continue 🍃

[Ghen30]

Well, if I were still in middle school and high school, possibly college, I'd cry. Anymore, I shrug it off. Just another day.

[Kaneki05]

Die inside, obsess about them for some length of time then hopefully get over them feeling like I never will but eventually I do.

[Cherry234]

I move on. I don't take it personally. I don't expect everyone to be attracted to me. I'm pretty used to rejection by now.

[Bluemax]

"Oh, OK."

Then die a little inside. 😉

[DaveJord]

I think thank you, glad you were honest about it and I move on to the next person.

[Moose304]

Make a phone call and have a date within an hour. Then later on especially if I am in that mood I will offer a toast to idiocy!

[glennos89]

Accept it and move on or try again on a later moment

[Msputiton]

I think if i was ever rejected. I would move on.
I would look at it as it was never meant to be