Why do girls constantly agree to dates they never intend to go on?

[red324]

This is my fault for wasting my time with this girl, but everytime I setup a date with her she goes silent a day or two before the date and of course we don't go because she doesn't respond back. I just don't understand why a person would constantly waste a person's time like this? She's done it twice now and I tried for a third time today and like she's gone silent on me so obviously I know she's not going to show. This isn't the only one that's done it. I mean what do these girls do just sit at home every night after work with their dog and watch TV?

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This is more a question of why these girls do this, I don't want to be ridiculed on giving her 3 chances.

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I think it's kind like a car salesman. Think of how many cars they show to a person and test drives etc where nobody buys anything.

[ShadezMcgee]

Women do that to not hurt feelings and want to avoid direct confrontations of saying "no". It happens, man. You aren't the only one that's happened to.

What matters is how often you are willing to let women repeat this. Take that behavior as a sign they aren't worth it. When women want to spend time with you, they will move heaven and Earth and scale the fucking Great Wall of China to follow up and meet you on the date and to spend time with you, no questions.

Women who flake constantly or can't be up front with you don't deserve your time and energy. Fuck her, move on and find a woman that will say yes.

[red324]

I've never had that happen. It's always been me having to do the chasing.

[red324]

I thought that's how it's supposed to be.

[ShadezMcgee]

There is a big difference between chasing and pursuing when it comes to women you like.

Chasing: You are putting the woman on a pedestal and coming from a scarcity and desperate mindset. You are overly invested and not letting natural push and pull take place between you and women that you have mutual interest with.

Pursuing: Comes from a healthy mindset of abundance and self confidence to know your worth and that if she chooses not to return investment, you can walk away and be okay with that. The attraction is mutual and the level of work you are putting in is met in turn by her.

Women can smell the difference between these two men likes sharks and blood.

[red324]

Usually all the times I do the laid back approach where I act like I don't care if they leave then that's exactly what happens. I either get accused of not putting in enough effort or they just leave me for some other guy.

[ShadezMcgee]

You still need to show intent. Intent that you ade interested, want to take her out on a date. Direct, decisive, confident and have a plan to show her a good time.

You need to show a balance of laid back and chill to go with confidence and direct intent. If you fail to have it, it will not give you results.