Why do girls always want a relationship?

[beastman88]

I just don't give a flying f*** about relationships. They never work, and honestly I don't want to pretend that I'm something I'm not. I just want a casual sexual rendezvous every now and then but it seems that there's always strings attached and women always want a relationship out of me. just frustrating, my heart is ice cold and far out of reach nobody will ever be able to touch it. most relationships end in heart break id rather of not been in a relationship at all if I knew what was going to eventually happen. so why a relationship? why do people feel the need to be in one? baffles me

[Anonymous]

Haha, I feel like that was more of a rant than a question. With your attitude, of course a relationship won't work... But whatever floats your boat. There are women who feel the same way as you do. I don't think it's necessarily a gender thing. I think that some people prefer relationships for a few reasons... In no particular order:

a) They want to trust whomever they're sleeping with, and "know where that's been." If you're not sleeping around, but are consistently with the same person, then your risk of any diseases is much lower.

b) Sex is better with someone you care about. It just is.

c) If you do really care about someone, you don't want to share them.

d) Sure, sometimes relationships end and someone's left heart-broken. But that doesn't mean that you didn't have an amazing time while you were together. And if you don't open up and actually take the time to get close to people, then how are you supposed to know what's best for you when you do find it?

e) People are so proud and excited to be seeing someone they feel is so special that they want to announce it to the world, but giving each other boyfriend/girlfriend titles.

f) You're not going to be that intimate with someone (physically and emotionally) if you barely know them. Sure, you can stick it in whoever you want, but meaningless sex really does get boring after a while. When you connect with someone on other levels, you're going to be happier with the outcome.

g) It's nice to have someone to go to the movies with, etc. instead of being the third wheel when you hang out with your friends and their better halves.

... Etc.

Personally, I enjoy being single. But if the right person comes along, I don't object to taking a chance. Some of my happiest moments have been with people I was dating, and even though those relationships are over, I don't regret them. :)

[beastman88]

i wasn't always like this regardless of what you and others may think. I was able to make my relationship work for a year and 2 months so obviously I did something right. shouldn't make assumptions about people. iam like this because I had a knife put in my back so whatever think whatever the f*** you want really

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't mean that you CAN'T make relationships work, or that you haven't in the past. I'm just curious as to why you're so bitter and dead-set against them. If you were in a relationship for that long, then you obviously didn't hate it for the first 12 months or so. People are going to be d***s, you just have to get over it :/ This wasn't meant to be a personal stab at you. You asked why people like being in a relationship, and I answered you.

[beastman88]

lol you just said I can't make relationships work in your second sentence. iam bitter because I was betrayed. so iam pretty much convinced the human race just wants to f*** each other anyway. its just people go on trying to be noble about it or try to hide it.

[emmabee11]

Girls get attached weather they say they won't or not it's just in our nature during the mating proccess and can't be stopped, it's jsut in our genetic make-up, my friend who used to have a lot of one night stands said a part of her felt attached when she slept with someone, I know what she means because I have had a few flings too, not been like her it just randomly happened and I did feel slightly attached, the attachment level depends on the good of a job you did in bed, there is one guy who I'm friends with and we like each other, we have fooled around a few times, of course he's back in scotland while I moved back to england again and I got really attached to him because he did better than any guy I've messed around with, it was amazing every time. Since we all the child bearers it is just instinctive, of course the more stronger the attachment the more the women feels is right to share their dna with them, it fasinates me how our own bodies have their way of telling who is worthy enough of us. It is not our faults though, it's why most guys only do it with us once then move onto another girl because if were sex buddies it also gives us a chance to get familiar and more comfortable with you.

[jokersgirl]

I don't want one..

[Anonymous]

I feel your pain; it seemed to me that all girls that talked to me for 10-15 minutes thought I was their boyfriend!

It was annoying as hell.

But girls are hardwired that way, and we are hardwired the other way - so the only thing to do, which I did, was to sleep with the ones I wanted to, and made it crystal clear to them that sex was their only option; that they would never get me in a relationship and they would have to take it or leave it. Most of the accepted it.

It's the only alpha thing to do.

[stubbsy]

Because girls want to feel as if they are valued and that the guy they are with is worthy of their talents, if you can't show a girl commitment, then your not going to get much sex, because guys who use women for sex, will end up with a reputation most girls won't touch with a flag pole, so be prepared to end up a very lonely boy, good luck.

[Hidden_P]

That's not true. My best friend right now is having casual sex with no intention and no wanting to be in a relationship with anyone.

Hookers don't want to be with every one of their clients.

Most of the people staring in p*rn are probably not in relationships.

A day to day girl just wants the security and knowing there's someone there to talk to and offload and to meet their needs emotionally.

There are girls out there who don't want it.

Although I will say, is there not even a little part of you that one day, maybe, would like to?

[beastman88]

i don't know really, I just don't believe in love. I believe in attraction that's it really then people just usually get bored of each other and break up. so what's the point in getting hurt?

[Hidden_P]

I think you might find as you get older you think otherwise. But there are girls out there like you :)

[lproxsme]

well you sound like your upset now but eventually you will calm down and realize that relationships aren't that bad... yeah maybe your one of those guys who don't want to do the whole relationship and marriage thing but most people just want to fall in love and do all that stuff. Yeah there are some people who hook up but girls have strong emotions and tend to bond during sex. It is all science based stuff. Anyway I't has to do with having someone to rely on when women have sex were really varnable so we are putting trust in a guy who is doing us lol. We want support and to feel safe these thing come with being in a relationship.

[want2helpout84]

Not all.I had an ons and we parted

[Anonymous]

If you don't want a relationship, then its fine. Just make sure to tell the girl what you want and that you don't have any intention of a relationship. Either you get bitch slapped or you get what you want. But if you don't do it, you would have to put up with a girl who un-fortunally has feelings for you.

Dont need to be such a jerk about it.

If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. You just move on.

Dont need to go all ice cold heart about it.

Youre just wasting your chancing on finding the right girl.

Because guys like you, you make girls be afraid of falling in love.

Enough said.

[beastman88]

not my fault girls fall in "love" personally I think people get love confused with infatuation. there's a big difference

[Prettygurl12]

While men are designed to seek as many sexual partners as possible to better ensure their production of multiple offspring, women are designed to find a partner to aid in the raising and protection of their offspring. Thus why women want a relationship with their sexual partner. It's genetics, my friend.

[beastman88]

meh its all bs really. women are just as much as whores as men are so don't give me that crap

[Prettygurl12]

It's genetics. I swear. Some women chose to ignore that part of them and be whores, yes. But that's the primal reaction for 99% of women: To seek a relationship. Take it or leave it, I give you facts.

[lproxsme]

your right I took a human sexuality class which is based or research and data all real evidence that supports what you said!

[opalhearts]

I think you're completely right. =) Women can be whores, too, as the Question Asker said, but -genetically- and on a far more basic, primal level, it makes sense for me to go impregnate as many women as possible--that way his genes get passed down more frequently. A woman can sleep around to increase her chance of getting impregnated, but her primary goal is to find someone who will care for that baby with her--and that's someone who you're more likely to find in a relationship than casual sex.

[TwistedLogic]

Nonsense! All your figures and statistics are not accurate, 99%?

It is a choice. You are in control of your brain and emotions. Women desire a relationship with the one they are sleeping with because they think it's the right thing to do. They don't want to be called names and they don't want to be viewed/used as sex toys or something.



A LOT of men get attached easily too, so what does that tell us? Of course, we can always find a theoretical study, word it beautifully and hide behind it!

[Prettygurl12]

You, sir, are not a woman. What do you know of the inner-workings of a woman's mentality? Each is entitled to their opinion, and I have stated mine. Take it or leave it.

[LadyStark]

I like having someone there as my closest friend, with whom I can be sexually intimate but also emotionally intimate. Love is a beautiful and powerful thing. Don't close your heart to it. Yes, it can hurt, but all of that pain is worth it when you find the right person.

"Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more."

--Erica Jong

[madiocre]

relationships are difficult they take a lot of work etc .. sometimes though you meet awesome people and that's what they want so it's worth giving up singledom..

When I was single I loved the nos trings attached and it always worked well for me. The trick is to do nothing but sex... as in no movies no nothing meetup have sex leave... my friend doesn't like relationships either but she always has issues and its because she goes out places with her fwb, takes them to parties goes to their parties etc ..

[courtney06]

You sound like me. I feel like relationships never work. I won't even accept getting to know dinner dates anymore. I don't even care for sex right now because the last guy I slept with decided to tell me he has a new girlfriend AFTER he banged me. I don't have anything against people just crave sex but just don't put someone else's health at risk. Deep down I do want a relationship, but I just don't put in the effort anymore. If the right person comes, it will happen naturally.

[beastman88]

i would agree with you. my ex cheated on me, and when she did she came and had sex with me while she was banging this other guy behind my back. made me feel really gross. funny though she made this guy her new boyfriend and I told him that we had sex basically the day after she had sex with her. so what does that make her? dirty filthy f***ing whore, and a thief. he's a thief and an ex con, and apparently there getting married after maybe 2 weeks of knowing each other sometimes I wonder how that panned

[beastman88]

out.

[beastman88]

ah can't type sry slightly intoxicated

[courtney06]

I know how you feel. I feel really disgusted and now I'm really worried for my health. I should have stayed away from him I knew better.

[7gnat]

Sorry Courtney you will find a good man. I hope your health is okay. Not all guys are jerks.

[Izzy2102]

Why do you think you have to pretend to be someone you're not?

As other have said , we're evolutionary required to want relationships. It's not bs it makes a lot of sense if you think about it. Sex could always result in pregnancy for us and contrary to men we can't walk away from it, so we're best of only having sex with someone who would raise a kid with us.

[beastman88]

always trying to be the nice guy and doing the right thing is what I mean, in the end it didn't matter. so what does any of it matter? it wouldn't of even mattered if I treated her like sh*t or not. rather be an a**hole then emotionally invest in anybody ever again

[Cantremember]

Evolution doesn't actually. Society does.

[love2run13]

this is a terrible attitude from the asker, just cuz of one "bad woman" doesn't mean you can't find a better woman and a healthy, long lasting relationship in the future-you should always be the nice guy, assholes are the lowest grade of male who only hurts woman and pushes himself away form the good catches. great relationships with a loyal, good woman is worth so much more than a bunch of meaningless sex flings

[Jackie7]

They don't always want one. From my perspective, I don't want the responsibilities of a relationship but I want to know the person I'm sleeping with isn't sleeping with anyone else (or WANTS to) and thinks I'm a level 12 kind of cool. That's all I want. Why is that so hard to find?

[beastman88]

i wouldn't mind something like that, but still a bit complicated. sounds like you would get emotionally involved with the person.

[Jackie7]

I probably would honestly. I get emotionally involved in most of the things I commit to whether it be work or friends, or even relationships. But the boundaries of a relationship are hard for me. Even though I wouldn't exercise it, I still like to know I have all of my freedom.

[beastman88]

yeah if I was sleeping with you or whoever. I wouldn't sleep with anybody else as long as it was mutual. but it probably wouldn't stop me from thinking about sex with other women. I can't help it really but I also wouldn't act on my feelings.

[Jackie7]

But do you realize that's basically all a relationship is? A relationship doesn't have to lead to marriage. It's just a mutual understanding and promise.

[beastman88]

i wouldn't call it a relationship, more of an understanding between the two

[Frostie]

Maybe they don't work because of you, maybe it isn't that they don't work in general? My parents have a rocky relationship,however they're still together after 25 years, and they don't seem to be leaving any time soon. People in general have their own individual reasons for wanting to be in one,some reasons might be similar to others. All relationships end in grief. Whether its because of death or any other reason. if you don't give a sh*t about people, why are you even asking us this loaded question?

[beastman88]

wow your a f***ing retard

[beastman88]

its stupid ignorant people like you who deserve a a good ass whooping. its well known fact 50% of marriages end in divorce, so why base your life on a coin flip? do your research before you bash people. then again if you saw me in real life you would never utter a word to me

[Frostie]

Lol,i'm the 'retard', yet I'm not asking a loaded question,or using fallacious arguments.

So, because I made a statement about something that is 'obvious' you believe I deserve an 'ass whooping'. So what, 50% of people today often rush into marriage,or get a divorce because of economic reasons, which is also a well known fact. Why stay around with someone who doesn't have a job and can't support a family,which is the main point behind marriage aside from someone you can trust etc.

[Frostie]

Everything in life is the 'flip of a coin'. "miracles" do not happen. That is the small chance of success you have in life, or that very unfortunate event that happens to some people. Like having a plane crash into your house, very unlikely to happen, but it has happened to the very few who are unlucky. We wouldn't be having this conversation because I doubt you have the balls to whine about this in public so everyone can tear you down.

[Frostie]

The fact you lash out in anger like a child throwing a tantrum over not getting his way or agreement is laughable. Sure, an ass whooping, but who doesn't carry a gun these days or some form of weapon? You have no emotional discipline if that is how you behave in public. Either way, it wouldn't matter, society puts those like you, in prison, then you can act like a hard ass as they're turning you into a bitch. Don't act tough.

[beastman88]

your just a f***ing idiot and a small minded child. what I even care what a teenager thinks anyway/ I bet you still live with your parents what the hell do you know about the world anyway? claiming you know me and I hate people. f*** you buddy. I just said I hate relationships not people. so go shove your head in your ass some more. you would need a f***ing gun to take me out you little bitch

[beastman88]

sure as hell don't give a sh*t about you

[Frostie]

I know not to use 'anyway' in every sentence, and that I can hold a decent argument that isn't a fallacy. I believe that states enough. Well if you don't give a sh*t about people, and you see them as merely objects for your use, then either you hate them, or you're very shallow, I gave you benefit of the doubt, It seems I was wrong in doing so. I am 'small minded'? You went on a rant, whining,and I'm the 'small minded child'? "you would need a gun to take me out'. You aren't worth the effort.

[Frostie]

You don't give a sh*t, yet you still reply back, your actions speak louder than your words. Perhaps it'd be more wise to stop running your mouth. Real life experience wouldn't be necessary to address your question that has no signs of being thought out. So far, assumptions, insults, and lots of uncontrolled emotion. Your ego must be really low to go off talking about beating someone you never met up over something as stupid as this. You're pathetic.

[beastman88]

your the dipsh*t who goes on thinking they know anything about me at all. so what if I want sex? who doesn't? I just don't want all the bullsh*t that's attached to it. to claim I don't care about people and stuff words in my mouth is wtf your doing, and I don't f***ing like it. lol if you were on fire and I had a pail of water, id drink the water. that would be much more useful. your the making assumptions right off the hop so flag off son

[beastman88]

i don't have to do anything just keep running your mouth to people like me and you'll get what you deserve but I don't think youd have the balls to talk sh*t to somebody like this in the real world. you'll learn your lesson sooner or later

[Frostie]

Do establish how I am putting words in your mouth when you basically stated you don't want anything to do with someone on the emotional level to the point where you do not give a sh*t about them? That is called 'not caring'. I am not putting words in your mouth, you stated that. I don't care what you would do, I've got common sense. drop and roll :). No assumptions if you agreed with me. I'll get what I deserve,because I'm quoting your dumbass? Difference between talking sh*t,and criticism.

[Frostie]

I guess you only like people who lie to your face and agree with you for the sake of your little ego not taking a hit. I doubt my reality needs to be checked, I'm quit in line with it, and how tough the real world is. So far I have no need to 'assume' who you are, you defined yourself with that rant. I didn't have to assume anything.

[beastman88]

i have lots of people I care about such as family and friends I could care less about establishing a relationship with a girl that claims to "love" me. its all bull sh*t and your f***ing idiot

[Mel549]

Girls don't always want a relationship. There are a decent amount who just want sex and that's it. If you feel that way about relationships, don't have them. I felt that way for two years and all I did was f*** around. Eventually feel like giving one a go, maybe, and then you can. Don't sit there and think that all girls just want a relationship though, because you're misleading yourself.

[dudeman]

this is why lesbian relationships are the largest demographic for relationship to fail. women want a return for their vag becquse they fewl it worth something. two lesbians butting heads becuase they are both giving it up but recieve no benifit man brings to the table, its just in a womens nature

[Anonymous]

I think having a relationship is better than random hook ups because then you have something reliable and steady. Honestly I'm sure if you could find a women that will be with you forever, and really care about you then you'd take that over multiple hook ups.

[beastman88]

nobody can really know if somebody loves them, I thought my ex loved me but I was dead wrong. honestly I care more about myself then anyone else besides my family and a few of my close friends. I want sex that's it, nothing else. that's the only kind of connection I feel like making with women. most women I know in my town are shallow whores anyway

[_marj]

I think... to affirm themselves of where they stand with you. If you have feelings for someone then you want to be able to say that they're yours. If there is no relationship then there aren't really any boundaries to what you are. Another thing is that it distinguishes you from all the other girls. Being called someone's girlfriend means that out of all the females he associates with, you're the most important, and sometimes girls like/want that. If any of that makes sense at all...

[love2run13]

yes-this is how i feel <3

[Quadrophonic73]

And you'll find the guys that are explicitly looking for relationships are considered undesirable. Women have a lot of "interesting" perspectives on all kinds of things. Stay single forever, you are right.

[MissYessi]

Well, obviously you were hurt really bad by the way you typed all this. I understand, I don't want a relationship neither... well not now at least. Goodluck

[beastman88]

def not worth all the trouble. I tried everything to keep her, but got my heart stomped on. nothing mattered in the end. might as well be by yourself and learn to love yourself

[love2run13]

WOW get the fuck over it and find a girl who loves you and will stay with you!

[Anonymous]

For the same reason you want sex - biology. They are programmed to want it, just like you're programmed to want sex.

[Flusher]

I'd say that you haven't met the right one yet. Unexpected things can happen, though. You shouldn't give up hope.

My main point being that you should do what you think is the best. If you now enjoy flings, then why not?

[WoIIie]

Blame that huge dangling meat between your legs. They want more.

[defytraditiongirl]

probably evolution, biology, same why you want one, although you say it, instincts like that can't be overcome really

[Smithkakarot]

That's all well and good. Just don't expect to get "casual sexual rendezvous every now and then" when you're old and wrinkly.

[Anonymous]

It's genetic. When girls have sex, a hormone called oxytocin is released, which causes them to become attached to the other person. And if you were as cold hearted as you make yourself out to be, no girls would be falling in love with you.

[beastman88]

according to your logic, if I had sex with them they would

[Opinion Owner]

I said 'attached', not 'fall in love'. It's in our genetic makeup. Falling in love is different, it's all about the person. And you're right, there is a difference between infatuation and love, and a lot of girls get confused between the two. But if you really want to have no strings attached one night stands, you need to make it very very clear to the girl, and not show any signs of liking her. If you want just sex, that's all you have to do.

[beastman88]

lol love isn't real though

[Anonymous]

You sound like the right kind of guy for hookers.

[beastman88]

if I was to go about doing it id hire a professional escort

[Bleep]

You win this question.