What are your standards/criteria for a romantic partner?

[Almost_Incel]

Mine:
1. No previous first love or romantic bonds, especially from youth

2. At least averagely attractive (she does not have to be a super model of course; a 5 or 6 will do)

3. Willing to pursue marriage and kids as an end goal (considers marriage and a family one day)

4. Loyal

5. Can fall in love and consumate a relationship (not aromantic or asexual)

... those are the big 5 for me

Otherwise, I am not that particular. I can find women of pretty much all races and ethnicities attractive, although, I am not into black women in general. I've hit on plenty of Asian and Hispanic girls in my lifetime. I've hit on Tom boys, girly girls, and nerdy girls too. Really, as a Christian myself, I should be seeking other Christian girls, but I don't set a hard deal breaker on it (as guilty as I feel saying that).

Updates

1 y

Very strong preferences, but not deal breakers, include an interest in anal play (even if it is just a finger in her ass) and an innie... but again, but not mandatory

[MCheetah]

Ten Simple Rules To Dating MCheetah

1. Don't be a man.
2. Don't dress and act like a man (or a butch lesbian).
3. Don't be a feminist/woke.
4. Don't be queer/gay.
5. Don't be a mean or abusive person.
6. Don't be anything that's not monogamous.
7. Don't be slutty (this includes OnlyFans and risqué social media pics).
8. Don't be extremely mentally ill (this includes woke crap, like "non binary" and made-up pronouns).
9. Don't be Islamic, a Scientologist, or into any other cults.
10. Don't be a drug user, smoker, or alcoholic.

There are other things I could list, but they are flexible and not dealbreakers like these top ten. For example, "don't have kids" could be up here too.

Some bonuses, but definitely not required:

Bonus 1: Be tall (at least 5'9" barefoot).
Bonus 2: Be curvy/plus sized (big boobs, thick thighs, wide hips, etc).
Bonus 3: Be between the ages of 23 and 30.
Bonus 4: Be positive or a nice person.
Bonus 5: Be nerdy/geeky.
Bonus 6: Have a good sense of humor.

[Effably]

I think some of yours are worrying and contradictory. You can have any standard you want so do not think I am blaming you for them, but wanting a willingness to engage and commit while also asking that they are essentially new to the dating scene is a tall order when you're past 18 - and one that is perhaps more vested in your own history than theirs.

Anyhow for my own criteria?

1. Intrigues me.
2. Attractive to me.
3. No major unexplained red flags.

That's probably it for consideration. To go from there to actual partner things need to click, emotions have to happen and so on. Of course I could generalise what it takes to meet those but it wouldn't be something I strictly ask for.

[Almost_Incel]

I don't expect anyone to consider a marriage, despite the age, immediately. What I am saying is that I wouldn't want a woman that is against marriage and never wants to have kids.

[Effably]

I think most people want a family and lasting relationship at some point. You wanting it is absolutely no issue! Perfectly reasonable!

My comment was in regards to wanting someone happy to consummate things but also wholly inexperienced. Someone who falls for and loves you without much baggage while also never having done so before. Of course they exist. But most of us have had someone meaningful to us before and it does not change the meaning a new person can hold.

[slxt_hxle69]

I love guys who will pin me down and stretch me out no matter how much it hurts me

[Staximus]

You need to get rid of #1, you're too old now for that to be realistic. Time to live in the real world, buddy

[Almost_Incel]

I found 2 girls like that, sadly, one rejected me and married some other guy just days ago (and of course no longer fits my criteria)