What are your MINIMUM requirements in a potential serious romantic partner?

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I've seen many men on here complain about women's standards so lets see what they say. I'm gonna write my lift after:)

RavVid · Accepted Answer

Did this yesterday for Pinay_ako question. Most of it comes down to being NICE so it should be a given on most things. Should apply in the reverse too though women don't like NICE guys.

We can knock out her career and pay rate immediately cause mostly we don't care and have different mate selection criteria.

1. Comely enough that we want to have sex with her.

2. Family oriented and loyal in the male sense. You have done a deal and you keep to it.

3. Co-operative, non-disputative, non-combative, doesn't go after just what she wants and recognizes that the guy needs to get what he wants too.

4. Reciprocative. another side of point 3 really. In commerce you hand other the cash and get the goods. In relationships there is delayed payment. I do stuff for you and sometime later you do stuff for me. If either party doesn't return the favor there is no relationship.

5. Appreciative. Of what you do and who you are. In one case the 'mother in law' had to tell me because the girl didn't. Would rather have heard that from the girl. Part of points 3 & 4.

6. Non-narcissistic. Does not require worship.

7. Puts out for you. Recognizes sexual relationships requires sexual bonding refreshes frequently and puts out even if she doesn't feel like it. Also recognizes that men can want sex differently to girls. Classically women want sex to be slow long build ups and seem to need that to orgasm. Sometimes for me it is more like I've got an erection and I want to use it NOW and ejaculate in 3 minutes or less at the peak of my emotional and physical excitement. This the classical perfect female partner who never says no.

8. Remains your sex object. Never comes a lump on the couch you walk around. Dresses in the way you like. Is sexually provocative/flirty with you at times and doesn't become your non-sexual defacto sister.

9. Caring & loving. This should have been nbr 3 probably

10. Fun & happy plus easily consolable. At some point you going to do something wrong and she needs to be consolable. Could say forgiving. Fun & happy is the best indicator of being consolable plus pleasant to be around.

11. Likes men, expects us to be different and is OK with that.

Etoirty · Accepted Answer

There are six requirements I have for a serious relationship
1. Vulnerability - If my partner can't trust me enough to talk to me about the kinds of things she wouldn't talk about on social media or with friends, then I see a problem here.
2. Reliability - If I ask my partner to do something, and they consider the request reasonable, then I expect them to do it. If I can't depend on her, many logistical problems are on their way.
3. Trophies - There have to be skills, achievements, good looks, something. Something that makes me say, "damn, this person is valuable and as such I should treat her as a person of value." If I don't have that, what is going to stop me from disrespecting her or wanting to trade her in?
4. Values - Her and I need to align on any and every point we consider to be deal breakers. This could be kids, where we live, the splitting of responsibilities within the marriage, whatever. Compromise is good, but when it is done with things that are actually important to you, you are asking for a slow killer to enter your relationship.
5. Learning - She has to be interested in learning about me. What I do, where I'm from, what I love, what I hate, and more. If she isn't interested in that, then she is only interested in the "trophies" section above of height, salary, size, what have you. That isn't going to work.
6. Application - She has to remember and apply the things she learns about me. If she serves me a dessert with something I'm very allergic to, then ileven if I don't eat it and no harm no foul, then I have the right to be peeved being that things like that clearly don't matter to her.
All of these things are required because to miss any leaves a gaping hole just waiting to get filled with the both of your insecurities, trauma, and anything bad that will drive you apart. Additionally, all of these things need to go both ways.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Alrighty, here we go. .. Respectful, Sweet, Goofy, Nurturing, Caring, Determined, Talkative, Goofy, Courageous, Kind, Witty, Comforting, Understanding, Decisive, Genuine, Encouraging, Street-Smart, Rarely Sarcastic, Faithful, Cute, Nice Smile, Humble, Poetic, Honest but not Blunt, Dedicated, Close in Age, 5’7-6’2, Lean to Average Body Build, Little to No Facial/Body Hair, Believes in God, Great Listener, Doesn’t Smoke, Hardly Drinks, Lonewolf, Wants Kids, Movie/Music Enthusiast, Enjoys Theme Parks, Fluent in English, Few Sexual Partners (nothing in the double digits), and Isn’t Obsessed with Politics

Guccigabbana18 · Accepted Answer

Good question! Basically the same qualities I'd look for in a friend, plus a few extras.  Trustworthiness Maturity Being a kind/caring person. Hygiene (often overlooked but important) I can spend loads of time with them and not get bored/like a close friend/we click Has goals and dreams that align with or compliment mine. This is not really important in short-term or casual relationships, but is important if I expect to be with them for a long time

Summeroflove · Answer

Look. Everyone is able to have standards. There’s nothing wrong with that. We’re all looking for our soulmate. It’s nothing personal when someone doesn’t want you. It means it isn’t meant to be.

Most of us don’t really know what we’re searching for and who we think we want changes. Sometimes we find ourselves attracted to someone we never would see ourselves liking.

So to tell you the truth. I’ll know it when I see her. She needs to be a Christian. She needs to have good morals and treat me well.

Genie23 · Answer

Mmmm... Honesty Faithful Good at communication Respectful Reliable (if I never need a shoulder to lean on) Takes good care of himself especially his health by avoiding smoking, drugs and all and by and eating healthy and working out few times a week so he can have a healthy long life. Likes to cuddle, lol

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Able to do housework

Loyal

Does not like abusive or non traditional sex

Is healthy enough to live a long life

Appreciates me

Eats nutritious food

Includes me in his mixed gender social events

Is good with affection and idea exchanges

Has things that interest him like culture or religion or politics or charity or environment or nature or psychology or humour or animals

Avicenna · Answer

No kids, no financial problems, mental health or serious physical health problems, good personality, intelligent, fun to be around, at least some similar interests.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I gotta like you first!

molonski2 · Answer

Physical feautures:
Not over weight , toned
Good presentation
Looks after hygiene including dental

Personality/morals:
Working / ambitious ( to a degree , this tends to change with age )
Business owner / major employee
Entrepreneurial qualities / outlook
Investment interests ( ideal )

Financially stable or enhanced

Enjoys active pursuits at least to some degree , gym , walking , swimming , water parks , surfing , golf ( just a combination , it could well be sports I dont like , more about attitude )

Honesty ( a must obviously )

Speach , can speak correctly with correct grammar , does not say " Me and my boyfriend went to the movies " arrrggh , so common.

Healthy lifestyle , non smoking , table manners , knows how to attend an important function , and how to address , when to speak , and certainly must chew with the mouth closed.

All very basic stuff , but the number of people these days who are unable to do the obvious , its crazy , should be far more finishing school , which was the best thing I ever did , you cannot deal with the elite if you cannot be elite yourself.

Steelcore5280 · Answer

For me, it goes like this:

- Is not an avid spender of money and doesn't have a ton of debt. Women who are big spenders and/or have a lit of debt are a red flag.

- Is not a single mother. Personal life experience with them has shown me many red flags.

- Has had less than five sexual partners ij her lifetime. Women who have five or more partners they sleep with have pair bonding problems and are prone to divorcing you far more.

- Has her ego kept in check.

- Isn't the party girl or the "I only have guy friends" kinda girl. Huge red flags if you know what I mean.

- Can also do basic household stuff like I can (ex: cook and clean, etc, I do that stuff all on my own).

- Appreciates feminine gender roles, and doesn't act like a vampire toward garlic when they're mentioned. I don't mind if she wants to be the stay at home wife while I do the breadwinner work.

- Christian, like I am. I was baptized and raised Lutheran, and it's an important foundation to my lifestyle, my beliefs, and my mottos in life.

- Doesn't make impulse decisions based on emotions. These impulse decisions that are largely based on emotion can get you in trouble.

- Cares about her own health, and likes exercise and maintaining a healthy lifestyle, like I do. I wanna live long, and I want a partner who wants that, too.

Those are just a few things for me. I guess I'm asking for too much in the year of 2023 from women, but I don't think I'm being shallow, myself.

Finchie40 · Answer

That she isn’t selfish , she wears my shoes before wearing her own , she knows what it means to be in a committed relationship , , that she stays loyal and loving and respectful , wants to bring happiness into my life, not misery , understands that she can be wrong , not always right, doesn’t hold intimacy and affection over my head like I have to earn it. She isn’t vulnerable to other men trying to get into her pants , wants to be my team partner , not a user. If I find a girl like this , I would so do the same for her without a doubt, but sadly most girl’s today are selfish and think grass is greener on the other side

asphaltrhymes · Answer

Smell nice, shower at least once a day, maybe even twice a day (I shower every day myself). I have good dental hygiene, and I brush twice a day, so I'd like a woman who did also. As much as I shave quite regularly to keep myself looking clean-shaven and refreshed. And I'm not a fan of the sun tan or the fake spray tan either.

And minimal makeup. And the smell like the right sort of perfume, each to their own, but I know straight away scents that I like and scents that make me think "so not to my liking."

That's a few of my fussy picky things 😁

ColHathi · Answer

We'd have to get along together really well obviously. Chemistry is important.

Trust and being able to communicate properly. No lies, manipulation, deception, or little games.

No negative judgement. She can't be judgmental. This last one is probably the hardest to find, I'd imagine, based on what I've seen here on this site.

I don't know if I have any more minimum requirements, but I think these are reasonable. Ironically I also think that I'm gonna end up dying alone because of them, lol.

😫 Oh well.

shades777 · Answer

Optimism reigns supreme even if she had all the qualities I like, an overwhelmingly negative person is destructive to my confidence, peace and identity.

Second would health, or the willingness's to improve. I rather a health petite woman than a obese woman with a great personality.

Third physical beauty, I find a lot of women beautiful so this is a easy requirement, includes height, as long as she's not taler than me.

And lastly Personality, subjective but I'm the type of man that is open to all types of experiences, like salsa dancing, martial arts, making, music, software development, etc.

FreyaRed · Answer

180cm+, fit, blue or green eyes, intelligent (so i don't overwhelm him intellectually), creative, self-sufficient (i have no desire to play substitute for his mommy), realistic (I don't need another fool who thinks he was born under star of fortune while losing instantly everything he gets), strong impulse control, emotionally mature

There is nothing I can't offer by myself, but it's too much.

sunflower00 · Answer

• Basic hygiene (like they have to shower, brush their teeth, wash their hands, etc.)
• A good person (I don’t want to be with someone who is genuinely a bad guy, it wouldn’t work for me at all)
• Independent (I do not want to be a mother to someone, I need them to ALSO know how to cook, clean, pay bills, etc. like basic life stuff. Not to say I wouldn’t be doing these things for them half the time, but I don’t want a partner who is not capable of looking after themselves)

mstbooblover · Answer

For me the most important feature is honesty ! Further requirements are: kindness, intelligence, good will, naughtyness. All time turn offs are stupidity, fanaticism and hypocrisy.

Physically I only have non mandatory preferences, probably well guessed by people checking my profile ;0)

Kylie_M · Answer

Kind, Generous, Caring, (all other positive adjectives go here) Willing to take the lead in talking, making moves, etc because I'm kind of shy and stuff. Well at least at first maybe because I get used to people after a while. Financially stable Good at clear communication

es20490446e · Answer

They are basic, yet I'm still to meet someone who meets them:

- Eager to date me, and spend time to know me.

- Takes care of her health.

- Solves problems like adults. Rather a kind and easygoing attitude.

- Expects and does simple things for her life to get better every day.

- Has pubes.

- I will be able to have babies with her.

- I'm physically attracted to her (this happens with most fertile females anyway).

Anonymous · Answer

Minimum requirements:

Lenght between 0cm and 300cm. not anorexic and not morbidly obese. Honest and can communicate. “Mature” (basically just not acting like a 15yo immature teen). No drugs (alcohol, caffeine, nicotine is fine). Any higher requirements than this is too much.

Anonymous · Answer

To has what it takes to offer more than just passing his genes to the next generation. To be more human, to be more understanding, to be more kinder!!! KINDNESS ladys... it's for free!
And to also decide and ASSERT whether or not to have children and what they can do for society from an early age, typically from your age.

richardcory · Answer

We have to both really enjoy spending time together

We need do enjoy talking about similar things. Not going to be much fun if I want to talk about astrophysics and she like talking about sports

We need to enjoy the same sort of things to do.

Have to be sexually compatible.

Physically- she needs to be healthy, clean, drug- free, non-alcoholic, mentally stable.

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Johnny4473 · Answer

Physically i would say, not obese. Height doesn't really matter that much to me. I should find her reasonably attractive. Open to new experiences (hobbies and interests) and kinks.

Personality wise - Have their priorities straight, must value their word, honorable, ambitious, someone who can challenge me and be honest with me. Loves to learn new things and explore. Have a variegy of interests. Must like dark humor. At least as intelligent as me. Must treat their own parents with respect. Be grateful and humble.

And obviously must share somewhat similar vision for the future.

genericname85 · Answer

not a smoker, no children, "healthy weight" (bit chubby is fine but morbidly obese isn't) and then also it has to be a woman. not by the bullshit definition but by the definition of "having 2 X chromosomes" and a vagina that isn't a surgically mutilated penis.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

she has to be into me and likes to spend time with me shares at least one of my interests doesn't support woke ideology no gold digger ability to have deep talks and be open

weysally · Answer

in any friendship, whether romantic, sexual, or just friends, there has ti be, 1/ Trust, 2/ Attraction. 3/ Confidence  not in this order though, there are more but these are the basic's,

razelove · Answer

Being able to trust them and make babies. I just don't see the point in being serious about a relationship if there isn't a family involved. There have been so many ONS and NSA in my past, why put out more effort unless it's for my kids? Trust is just a basic one, and that goes both ways. Looks too, it's futile either way to push a relationship with someone you don't feel attracted to...

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Has to run on windows 11, 6 core cpu with hyperthreading and 3gb of L4 cache at minimum, and I mean minimum 16 gigs of ram, 4TB of storage and a 30 series gpu affixed to a gen 4 pcie port and an rgb case with water cooling

Oh we were talking about girls?

Lliam · Answer

My minimum for a serious romantic partner would be:
I think she's attractive and sexy.
She loves sex.
We adore, admire and respect each other.
She is monogamous, honest and loyal.
She has a good work ethic and is capable of supporting herself but wants me as a romantic partner.
She's not a consumer-minded ding bat whose image is based on things like expensive jewelry, fancy cars or designer labels.

Gent207-2 · Answer

Personality Commonality Spirituality Shoulder length blond hair, Blue eyes, moon-kissed skin, infectious smile. She doesn't need to be perfect, she just needs to be authentic

Shiningtempest · Answer

@spongebobssocks My minimum requirements in a potential serious romantic partner are not getting my name wrong, no ex-boyfriend, virgin, doesn't tell white lies, shared hobbies, & doesn't have tattoos or piercings.

VikingWarLord · Answer

1. Long hair  2. Big tiits (at least a Full C cup) 3. Skinny (weighs no more than 120 lbs) 4. At least a slightly above average face

libsaretards · Answer

Physically: She must take care of herself and her health.

Spiritually: She MUST be a true follower of Jesus.

Other areas: She must be mature and responsible. She must show respect to those who serve and to her parents (the parents thing is assuming she has loving parents).

boombastik · Answer

That they keep it 💯 with me or say least keep it as real as they can and don't disrespect me. This should've been #1 although you would think it's a given and that is my friends and enemies are off limits cause ain't no coming back from that.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Minimum? She must be a non-obese unmarried biological adult female with interests beyond celebrity gossip.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Respectful, submissive, traditional such as gender roles and loving to becoming a housewife, funny, average built, long hair, modest, have morals and values, knows or ready to learn how to cook delicious meals, have faith in god, believes in a real marriage and that family always comes 1st!

4ngelic · Answer

looks: be at least semi cute, not overweight, not much shorter than me, around my age, decent hygiene personality: nice, fun

Anonymous · Answer

As long she's as crazy about me as I am about her and she actually shows it, that's all I could ever as for

(As for physical appearance, at least be relatively attractive and not fat. I'm not that picky)

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

1- must have a cute face 2- must have a big ass 3- must have boobs that I can titfuck during foreplay 4- must be a nympho in bedroom 5- must be my tag team partner outside the bedroom

Usernamestinks · Answer

Loyalty, mental stability, family background, health, attraction

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Virgin. Attractive. Good personality. (That's it. That's the list.)

Agape93 · Answer

Be disease free  Be good with non exclusivity  Meet my partner (s)  Be loyal  Respect my beliefs

Anonymous · Answer

Have to be slim and only a little shorter than me and of I have to be attracted to them, hopefully they are easy going and affectionate

Nahid1707 · Answer

I’m interested to know where you from and your ethnicity?💜

SunnyRS · Answer

Someone who speaks there mind, well I am not good at understanding people's emotions so sometimes if they don't tell me what they want I don't get it.
So, I want a partner who speaks what's on her mind and is honest with me.

pethouse · Answer

They say opposites attract but I need someone on my level. She can’t be quick to anger

Has to be able to hold her self accountable
Likes to joke around
She’s gotta have hobbies
Likes to work
All I can think of for now.

NathanDavis · Answer

smart, interesting and funny...

Fireguy17 · Answer

Red blooded and have a pulse is a big plus, having somethings in common, a great personality, gregarious, fun to be with, ambitious, can actually make a decision, accepts me for who I am. Can put up with my schedule.

Anonymous · Answer

Like most men,  A low body count. (aka morals and class) Loyalty.  Don’t be fat

Keishio · Answer

I like a woman that cares about her appearance and stays healthy. I like her to be nice to me and if she's self sustainable when she's single that's a huge bonus

nawtee_me · Answer

My standards are that she be just as serious and commuted as I am. If both people are serious about a relationship then they can make it work. And it will take work on both peoples part.

HighValue · Answer

No past of drugs, no contact with any ex, trustworthy/honest with me, fair to me, loyal, not past 30, not fat, has no kids but does want some, doesn't support the modern liberal agendas.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Playful, honest, adventurous, funny, good social skills, creative, clever.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

-Shorter than me -not diabeticly obese -washes their body and brushes their teeth (hygiene) -Not diabolically insane

blissinanarchy1 · Answer

No Onlyfans.  People you slept with before gotta go. Loyalty, honesty, commitment. Being able to disagree without verbal abuse. Got goals, takes care of herself.

boobliker · Answer

and what is the point here? As I never had any minimum requirements when I started dating, now at 67 I would have some as I would want my needs met.

Paulychicagoluv · Answer

Min is definitely non smoker, no kids, independent (just so I know she can handle any possible outcomes in life).

Anonymous · Answer

Hot body  Hot face  Imnie pussy  Low body count

serious · Answer

Minimum requirements? Mine there are a lot of requirement and plenty of deal breakers.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Caring n loving Dominant  No drugs or smoking Well built physique  Should be earning fairly gud money

Unknown29 · Answer

I want her to be sweet, kind, wants kids, believes in God, submissive (but not dumb), cares about her looks (but definitely not overly obsessed), artistic, and FEMININE.

zagor · Answer

Attractive enough to me for me to want to jump her bones (not a real high standard) Reasonably intelligent Pleasant personality Somewhat physically fit and active

krin_m · Answer

Self-confidence, great sense of humor and positive outlook on life!

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