Is it possible to work out with a really nerdy guy?

[Anonymous]

he's 28 into pokemon, dragon ball Z, anime and into many other things

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+1 y

The question doesn't mean working out in general I was referring to like will I get along in a relationship

[crossdressingrihno]

Yeah totally

It's about time and effort for the most part

It doesn't matter what the one thing you both have in common is it could literally be that you both like to sweep floors okay and you can turn that into a romantic relationship somehow

And yes I'm going to use sweeping floors as an example because I want to prove that at least theoretically it can be done especially since I literally did it with sitting around and talking

So let's say you meet this guy he's kind of cute and you're sweeping the floor and then the guy starts sweeping the floor and you're both like wow where's both sweeping the floor so you start a conversation about sweeping the floor it goes over pretty well there's not really much there I mean you both like sweeping the floor and you both enjoyed talking about sweeping the floor while you were sleeping the floor so you just both talk about sweeping the floor some more and slowly over time you talk about other things that aren't sweeping the floor and you find that the guy you've been talking to is pretty cool he likes sweeping the floor you like sweeping the floor and he's introduced you to some new things that you like so you talk about other things and you're learning more about each other but man sweeping the floors awesome so you continue talking about sweeping the floor as well as your new interests so that you've both developed overtime well what's fast forward about six or seven months you've been sweeping the floor for a while and talking all these conversations have gradually become more diverse and you're learning a lot about each other and while sweeping the floor is still something you both do frequently you're now sharing time with each other outside of sweeping the floor because you've both developed common interests from shared conversations and experiences
Neither of you are exactly the same person you used to be when you first met but that's okay because you're developing romantic feelings for each other since you spend so much time together talking about all your new interests and not only that but your happy memories with this person you've met 6 months ago means you know they're a potential romantic partner though the feelings aren't super strong yet we're going to have to fast forward another 6 months so now it's been a year

Now after a year you both hang out all the time you both developed tons of new hobbies together and have actually started going out together now you both share hobbies together even if you don't like his hobby or he doesn't like your hobby you still do the hobbies together and while you don't exactly enjoy the hobbies themselves you've begun to enjoy the person you're spending time with so it makes the hobby worth doing anyways so by this point you've started to develop even more hobbies and interests as well as strengthening your connection with each other you can see that while you're not exactly on the path to marriage quite yet this is definitely a relationship that could go somewhere special so you continue to hang out with each other and I'll say 3 years later we're going to have a 3 year time skip

You have both been enjoying each other's company for 4 years you've done a lot together you have memories and bonds that just aren't going to be broken so now you're planning on getting married because your relationship has developed a lot and you have both developed a lot as people it's no longer just about sweeping the floor which you both like to do sometimes and sometimes sweep the floor and reminisce about the good old days before you two were a couple and joke about all the time you've spent together it's nice and wholesome and you're both happy the end

[crossdressingrihno]

The reason this theoretical scenario works is because when you spend enough time with each other your personalities are going to change that's just a part of life you never remain being the same person like completely

[crossdressingrihno]

And the more time you spend with someone the more influence they have over your personality and your emotions

[crossdressingrihno]

So naturally you're going to start developing similar hobbies over time it might take a long time but it'll happen

[crossdressingrihno]

And while not always these hobbies could develop into romantic interest

[TheLoneTerran]

Yeah. I've got some exceptionally nerdy friends friends that have husbands who aren't much into 'nerdy' stuff. But they show interest in each others hobbies and do things that both are interested in. Usually at least one will got on discord or text and she'll talk 'nerd' stuff with us. One has nearly a library's worth of manga, another is big into Warhammer 40k, another into video games, big emphasis on Animal Crossing and games like Hoi4, Stellaris, 4X, Diablo, etc.

So it can work if you guys are still compatible and willing to put in some work.

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

It's not impossible if you're into him then you are into one, but he also has to have boundaries in which there's time for you so that you're not either insecure, jealous, or angry at the fact that he doesn't spend time with you and is more infatuated with anime or Dragon Ball Z figurines

[DonkeyDan]

As long as he can put the games down for long enough to spend quality time with you, then yeah I don't see why not.

[exitseven]

I was sort of nerdy. This was before computers and video games. I built radio sets and I had a telescope. I was in college and I still managed to find a girlfriend. She had a ham radio license.

[slatyb]

It is if he's into you and can turn off the video games and go to work or whatever it is that he does.

[Staximus]

Nerds generally don't like working out. They are usually weak soy boys. Maybe you should go to the gym if want to find a guy who works out.

[Asker]

No I meant would I get along with him since he's into all the pokemon and amine stuff

[Staximus]

All that pokeyman, dragon ballsack, anigay crap is for kids

[Staximus]

Sounds like he still thinks he's 10 years old, tell him to grow up already and find some adult interests

[Asker]

Yeah I wonder if he would like me since I'm not into that stuff

[clampfan101]

I’m really nerdy, but if my girlfriend wants us to head to the gym together I’ll be happy to do so.
(First I need a girlfriend, though…)

[clampfan101]

Update: Yes. Nerdy people are often very kind.

[Asker]

I'm hoping he likes me cause I'm not a nerd

[clampfan101]

I’m fine with my girlfriend not being a nerd as long as she’s fine with me being one. lol

[Hairylegs222]

So you aren't nerdy I assume? You could support his interests as he should support yours too. Not everyone is going to be into all the same things.

[EaterPeter]

I don't know you must speak with him away from games about daily chores and other things, is his gaming under control, what does under control mean to you,

[Jamie05rhs]

I think it probably depends whether that's the only stuff he's into or whether he's into other things as well.

[whiskeyontherocks]

I’m a nerdy athlete once it becomes part of his routine he’ll never stop

[Asker]

I know but will he like me since I'm not into that stuff

[whiskeyontherocks]

Are you annoyed by it? If not than you’re thinking to hard. Just enjoy your self.

[IsoUser]

Can I just actually ask you a question not growing up in the 90's WTF is a dragon ball Z? LMFAO

[Paul09]

Yes very possible. Tell him to train with you until his power level is over 9000!

[IMuser]

It's impossible *smashes my scouter in the ground*

[IMuser]

Before a nerd, he is a guy

[Asker]

I know it will be intersting to see if he would like me since I'm not the nerd type

[IMuser]

Well as long as you don't shame him for his interests (rather show some curiosity), don't be too attention seeking and give him private time for his interests, you would be fine

[Berethor]

Only if his power level is over 9000. :)

[Yucy_Gluttony]

If he enjoys that activity I would say so!

[Yucy_Gluttony]

O OOPS to get along all you have to do is be interested in his hobby! You can bond with him through his hobby! Ask him to recommend you something! Maybe you can watch it together! Anime and chill ;)

[Blackcupcake]

why would it not be possible

[In_Trance]

You lost me at 28 and into Pokemon

[Asker]

Is it a bit weird?

[In_Trance]

Fuck ya

[Asker]

I'll need to see how nerdy he will go maybe it won't work since I'm not into that stuff

[In_Trance]

good luck

[xazo54]

Does he have normal life other than his hobbies?>

[Wise4myage]

Why wouldn't it be? Just ask him.

[User_69]

Pokemon and Dragon Ball is best haha :D

[Slim57]

If you have to ask probably not

[jahaims]

Duh.