If you were single during the lockdowns have you been catching up?

[lilyanony1]

I was single for nearly 3 years.
I have been dating. Via online apps.
And so far met two men.
And another in person.
One has stuck around.
Although it's still early days I am enjoying the time we spend together.

[NathanDavis]

yes, I was... and practically, we've been out of lockdown for many months now but no, I have not have felt the "need" to go out and catch-up... as I really don't go around dating people anyway

in due time, I'll just meet someone and then we'll see how it goes... no rush for me, lol

[lilyanony1]

I thought you were in a relationship you know...
My bad!
I'm only dating because I feel ready to move on from my ex and find someone decent

[NathanDavis]

yes, that is great... if you're ready and feel ready, moving on is a very good thing to do

[lilyanony1]

😊 He's lovely.
It's triggered some areas of insecurity.
For example when my ex was a little busy and quiet I didn't know if we were OK.
Sometimes he'd snap at me.
And say unkind things when we spoke.
Leaving me wondering why he was dating me.
I panic everytime there's a little quietness and assume he's no longer interested.
So far he messages me in a really pleasant way, and seems especially happy to hear from me.

[NathanDavis]

I can understand that... why it could seem that way

but maybe it would be a good idea if you talk a bit and get to know each other a bit better, especially if you message each other on the phone, for example...

it could seem to many that I spend a lot of time here at G@G (which is true lmao) and that maybe I do have a lot of free time, but that's not so accurate because in fact... while I do come back to G@G quite often during the day, I do work on my regular job, which is mostly office stuff during the later days of the hours, and I also have two other side jobs which I need to take care off (most of it is also office related) and on top of that, I have house stuff to do, regular stuff to do, family coming over sometimes, some friends... so I cannot always respond back right away to people here, I just come and go a lot and sometimes I am way busier than others, so...

maybe he has a similar life style, maybe you two... maybe, when or if, he goes more quiet, he is just a bit busy with something, could be work, studies, family, friends, hobbies... and at the same time he feels comfortable and confident that you would understand or, that you would not mind it, or see it "normal"

so... maybe have a talk with him? about what other times he has going on, what are his interests and stuff, or it could just be more about his personality or being less talkative in general, maybe he's about moods too?

[lilyanony1]

He's busy.
I just really like him.
My ex was just as "busy" but he didn't fit me into his schedule to do things with... He spared me an hour for a leg over.
I hated that.

[NathanDavis]

just try your best to focus on the present, not the past...

this guy, is not your boyfriend... just focus on making it work the best you can by the way you want it

[menina]

I was single way before the pandemic and I'm still single. And no, I haven't been catching up because I can't be in a relationship right now, even though I would like to find love.
The closest I had from catching up was an interesting moment with a man I never thought I would be attracted to. But then nothing happened and it's all fine.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

I was single before, during, and will continue to be after. I'm not looking for a relationship. Actually couldn't care less about that right now.

[Anonymous]

I've been just more or less communicating with a few girls through social media so that's about it

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for Most Helpful Guy :)

[Massageman]

I'm married - I still need to catch up, just not with dating. :- )