What is a good way to admit your feeling for someone when anxious?

[TexasRed95]

There is a girl I like and I know she is single. I'm extremely shy and we were talking today. I started to get sick to my stomach at the thought of asking her out and just didn't. By then end of it all I was shaking because I was so freaked out. At just thinking of asking her out. I don't know how to overcome this at all.

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+1 y

It isn't rejection that freaks me out. I don't know why I react the way I do. It's like my body is rejecting what my brain wants to do. I signed up for therapy because this has been an issue as long as I can remember.

[Guy13]

If she is talking she’s interested. Memorize 3 jokes. Record yourself so you don’t startle yourself. Tell jokes…if you make them laugh then you’re good. Here’s your starter joke. Yesterday, I was at the pet store and I had to got to bathroom…and there was a caged bird 🦅 and a cat…And the bird (parrot voice) said, “ Pardon me if I litter.” Birds 💩 outside the cage…

learn two more but don’t shoot your wad on one encounter. She’s going to want another one during uncomfortable quiet time during date…

[TexasRed95]

That joke makes no sense in the slightest.

[Guy13]

Dude, that joke and others like it has gotten laid at clubs and pubs. Animal jokes are without sexual content. Whatever, don’t use it.

[TexasRed95]

Sorry I'm not saying the advice is bad because it isn't. I just don't understand that punchline at all.

[mobiusforniner]

Go for it man. If she rejects you, that's okay- from experience, I'd rather tell her what I'm feeling and be rejected than go my whole life and wonder if I should have said something but didn't.

Plan something funny to say. It removes the awkwardness. My first time approaching a girl was in a college library. I wrote down "I like you, what's your name?" in a paper plane and threw it to her.

That relationship lasted four years and ended painfully, but I don't regret any bit of it.

[becee23love]

Go for it I know it can be hard but us girls try to figure out guys but sometimes it's very hard to know if the guy is really into you time goes fast and you don't want to miss your shot just take a few deep breaths and ask her out 🙂

[Anonymous]

There is no reason for her to say yes... until you give her a reason to want to spend time with you. This is where flirting, teasing, emotional connection and building sexual attraction comes in. Your anxiety comes from being outcome dependent. Have fun with it, get to know her... you don't even know if she's worth asking out...

[VV3ZZY]

Do it. Face your fears "head on" it's far better to be embarrassed for trying, than to not do it and regret it. But keep in mind she may just see you as a friend or something. And you gotta just accept it and move on.

[In_Trance]

Have a drink first