Why does it become "awkward" after you confessed your feelings to someone?

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It happened to me before, when I was in middle school. I was insanely shy and that was so freakin' hard for me to keep the "normal" relationship I had with that person before (my crush usually were in my group of friends). Now that I'm a sophomore in college, it seems to be different. I stayed friends with my ex and, even though it didn't last, the "awkwardness" was less overbearing. Then last month, I confessed to my crush and things are still the same. We still talk the same and he said that he still wants to hang out.
What do you guys think? I know that there's a considerable amount of time between middle school and college and I sure did mature a lot, but how do you explain that?

existing_not_living · Accepted Answer

I've actually been pretty mature about that whole situation. If someone knows I like them, then I don't care so much. Like, I wouldn't tell them, but if they somehow found out, I would still want to remain friends. I've had multiple guy friends who confessed their feelings towards me and while I didn't return them, I still wanted to remain friends. I didn't make it awkward because I still cared for them and even if they liked me I wouldn't want to lose our friendship. To me, as long as they don't make it awkward, then neither will I. I liked a guy once and he found out after I asked him out (this was when I was in the 6th grade) and even after that he still talked to me like nothing happened which I appreciated. I'm in my last year of high school and throughout it I've had many situations like that, but I kept my friendship with the people.

I think it becomes awkward because when the feelings are not returned, then you don't know what to do anymore. You feel like if you say something to that person, they may think you are only saying it because you like them. It makes it harder to maintain that friendship because the person you like doesn't want to hurt your feelings and you are afraid to lose them so you tiptoe around different subjects. That's what makes it awkward to me. Luckily, I've never been put in that bad of a situation so I haven't had to deal with that awkwardness.

Darkfairie17 · Accepted Answer

I think the only time it would be awkward would be if the person didn't feel the same way. But even then, who cares? Why make the person who just spilled their heart out feel terrible about it?

I think when you are younger, it's more of a big thing to express your feelings for the other person. Kids like to tease each other about liking someone. So i think that has a part in it.

DragonRose · Accepted Answer

I think it's always awkward when Somone you like knows you like them. It's kinda like the telling them. Ya I'd do Ya! Well I feel that way any ways. If that makes any sense to you.😅

JustinCaseUDontKnow · Accepted Answer

It could be good and than again maybe nothing will come out of it
really hard to say , Yes things are different but unless you make a move
or he makes a move than nothing will happen and you gotta ask yourself
if this is something you want do for sure , Remember this is college now
not middle school you might get into something good than it can turn out
to be just a friendship only with nothing serious ever coming out of it ,

PSIHEPA · Accepted Answer

Because you put yourself out there and that person did'nt harbor you're notion correctly and did not cradle it to sleep. What they did do though is leave you hanging and awkward so they could bask in the sediment of being wanted.

Metlahaed · Answer

It's pretty simple. You've shown your hand face up, so you become vulnerable. That "awkwardness," is a result of trying to keep your composure despite the blatant fact that it is your feelings on the line. Your hand is laid out on the table, but you are still trying to bluff.

This has varying degrees of experience, of course, and there are other contributing factors such as your perception of self, his reaction to you, your friends reactions, and so on.

simplegal123 · Answer

Because we show them our true vulnerable self... it's either make or break situation... so it's awkward for the one who expresses and also a little to one to who it is expressed

nileve · Answer

in my opinion is not awkwardness what we feel but disappointment
when we expose ourselves and the other person doesn't cherish our emotions towards them it hurts
our emotions are the most value able and strongest thing we have to offer

rosegarden · Answer

Don't be ashamed of your feelings. I have confessed before and it wasn't awkward after even when they didn't want me lol. I just don't want to lose the friendship at least

youknowitt · Answer

It's usually awkward when you see their expression and it's not what you expect.

ixi10 · Answer

Because you're more mature now! And the people you're into are more mature. Everyone involved is able to process these things better

Anonymous · Answer

I think the awkwardness is caused by the constant thought of things are never going to be the same again.

SIGguy · Answer

Because I've expressed my feelings to girls and they laughed in my face, and when they express flattery, it's totally unexpected. That's why.

MarkTwain · Answer

Communication is key... no doubt and a sign of maturity. It's only awkward because, he probably either he didn't understand, don't know what to do, or does not want to do anything.

orphan · Answer

because feelings are the lone purity within the deceptive mind of an evolved human.

Hollywood-Glam · Answer

Because expressing feelings is something most of us get shy from.

Anonymous · Answer

its only awkward if you make it!

Anonymous · Answer

Its a phenomenon common to awkward people

Anonymous · Answer

Because you become vulnerable

LordZero · Answer

Girls are too scary.

Anonymous · Answer

Hell if I know?

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