Why do I get so many rejections?

[spl4sh]

I have already dated around 20 girls (none of them succeeded and I never had a girlfriend obv.), but usually after the first date they either straight up reject, ghost or friendzone me. (Once I managed to go on the third date with a girl before she rejected me). My friends and my teachers say I'm intelligent and I can kinda talk well about most casual topics. The last girl I dated friendzoned me after I tried to embrace her gently. I am mostly understanding, kind and gentle. Do I look unattractive or should I change something?

[PrettyPriya]

I'd really need some more context as to why these relationships went wrong to give meaningful advice. Can you come up with a common reason for some/most of them? That would then be my guess as to why the problems.

It is also entirely possible that you just haven't met the right girl. Even if you dated 100 girls, you still may have not found Miss Perfect. That is totally normal, especially at your age. Don't give up or get down on yourself.

I always advise getting involved in local activity clubs that interest you. You will then meet likeminded girls that will be easy to approach and talk to. Plus, you already will share a common interest.

[LazerBean]

It's either something you're doing or something about your personality is off-putting. I mean maybe it's just a coincidence that all 20 girls immediately decided they didn't want to be with you anymore after the first date, but probably not. It may have something to do with "gently embracing" a girl after the first date, which is really weird.

[spl4sh]

I see thank you. Do you know any ways I can improve my personality? I mean i socialize a lot and also have hobbies, but you made me think and probably there might be a problem with my charisma and the way i communicate.

[LazerBean]

Honestly it might be nothing about your personality and just that you get touchy too early. It could also be that the girls you go for just aren't looking for the type of relationship that they think you are. Also the only thing you talk about is yourself or if you come off as arrogant that can be a problem.

[EllaNella]

it's probably something you're doing or saying. i don't think you're ugly and it can't be a coincidence that 20 girls want to meet up with you once but not twice. are you socially awkward?

[spl4sh]

I was but I kind of recovered from 4 years of depression and suicidal toughts. I changed a lot during last summer but I dont know what's going on. I kind of starting to lose hope.

[EllaNella]

i absolutely understand you. i struggled with depression as well in the past and it very much changes your social behavior. maybe try to watch how you act and how they react to it, that way you can find out if it's something you do or say

[random_girl95]

I think you just didn't found the right person yet.

[Anonymous]

I don't know why. You're handsome, I love your eyes!!
Probably you pick the wrong girls? I really don't know.