Why am I having much luck offline men and online men?

[Anonymous]

I know what I want from a man so far I can't even find in real life. Waiting is bullshit. That also doesn't work. Yep went every single place near England, town, surburb , city and also tried learning disability groups and clubs with no men. I already fed up with men that I don't want or not interested kept messages over and over again. I had no problem with finding guys in college. Now I always have to have more problems with finding guys that I am interested in or attracted to. I can just talk to you. It also has a learning disability. Yep, I even tried disabled dating sites. Just made a friend that's not texting me anymore. After I said I wasn't interested or attracted. I don't like being single at all. Not chosen to be single.

[DaveJord]

Well online actually online dating work really well for me, but there is an art to it. You have to move it offline in like in the first couple of days, before text and chatting each other to death. I mean if you know in the first day or two that your not interest in this guy then kill the convo, move to the next. I went on 17 dates in three months with 14 different women and I got pretty good at screening profiles and really figuring out what I really needed in a women, despite what I though I wanted.

By the end I was scoring some really good women until I met the one I am with not for last 7 months and she is amazing. So either your expectations are too high, or your coming off as too desperate or you are not really developing your skills at it. Every opportunity is a chance to get better, do self reflection and improve the things you need to improve upon to become the best version of of yourself possible.

[Asker]

Did these things a lot with dating sites avoid guys that have pics of them with girls in their. I already met one guy from a dating site. I didn't go anywhere but friends. Always scan profiles. Not many guys in my town since most of them would prefer to be players or cheaters. I I didn't have much interest since I wasn't interested In one of the guys that I met up with. I had no problems with finding guys in college. Now I am a graduate from college. I met some of my ex boyfriends on Facebook.

[Asker]

In there profile

[DaveJord]

Well to make online dating work, like I said it takes a little time and serious effort. You have to evolve and learn from every experience and be capable of doing honest self reflection inordee to make the right changes about yourself in order to become the best version of yourself.

And of course its easy to find men or women in college, once grow your either at work or home 90% of the time. Which depending where you work, you have less that 10% of a chance to meet a man.

You talk like its just supposed to easy, well its not easy. Takes seriously effort, and a little time. You sound like you do something once and you give up easy or come up with excuses instead of rolling up your sleeves and getting back on the horse.

[Asker]

Already he has sent a message out to two guys on one disabled dating app since fore i. Can't use mainstream dating app but want to use mainstream dating app. I get a lot of attention but it always seems to rude men or men that I am not interested in to begin with.

[DaveJord]

Well that. the problem for women online dating, is that they get far more attention from undesirable men... and lots of guys struggle to get any attention at all.

But you can either drown in it, and complain about how it doesn't work or how hard it is... or you can make it work for you. Mainstream dating apps worked well for me, once I learned the filters, and deal breaker settings and got my shit together. Honestly you sound like you need to relax and get your shit together and put forth a better effort in the right ways.

I have no idea what your expectations are, but the problems your complaining about are not all that uncommon for women in general. So maybe that is discouraging for you, but thats what the process is all about.

[Guy13]

Perhaps you should relocate down South or up in a mountain state/town where they are more serious about family and baby-making within God’s Design…. But who knows what you want as you did not express it.

[Asker]

I can't do ths that since I have a learning disability. My parents will not let me do that on my own.

[Asker]

This.

[Guy13]

Parents sometimes….🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

A lot of time and I can't drive.

[TommyMountainFigure]

You live in the States, but you came to England to find a man? That's a long way to travel for not much luck.

[Asker]

No born in englishly

[Asker]

England

[TommyMountainFigure]

Gotya. Well there are plenty of fellas looking too, so maybe you didn't look in the right places?

[Asker]

I tried every single place in england.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Did ya? I never saw ya lol

[Asker]

I am not interested in you. I don't like guys with long hair.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Humour's wasted on you innit! I assure I have no interest in you either.

[Straight2thepoint]

Get off the fkn phone and stop Instagram and snap shit and tiktok. Real men ignore woman that obsess over social media's.

[Asker]

I am not one them. Jerk

[Straight2thepoint]

Then ull be fine. ur over thinking it. Just remember guys have been ruined by feminist and society that we don't engage much.

[MagicCarpet1]

Because men prefer debt free virgins.

[Asker]

I already am a virgin

[Avicenna]

You’ve narrowed your dating pool too much

[Asker]

Already did this and I all I got was player. If I am not limited.

[In_Trance]

Because you don't know what you want

[Asker]

What did I say I my detail. Reread it.