Guys, how can a girl let you know she likes you without being too obvious?

[lovethislife55]

[TheLoneTerran]

Why not be obvious? Why not just ask them out? It can save a ton of time. Also, a lot of men nowadays have been taught their whole lives that if a woman is nice to them, it means the woman is being friendly, not because she's into him. Even if you think it's extremely clear that you're into them, a ton are going to think you're just really friendly.

One of my earliest relationships, I'd arrived at her dorm with our movie tickets. I thought we were just hanging out as friends. She sat me down, sat on my lap facing me, and told me point blank what she wanted. A lot of things made more sense after that.

Not saying you need or should be that forward, but just ask them out. That way it reduces a lot of chances for miscommunication and plain ol' missing signals.

[OlderAndWiser]

Maintain eye contact, try to stand or sit a little closer than you would with a friend, sit on the same side of a table instead of opposite sides. If you are dining together, suggest sharing a dessert. If he comes to your home to pick you up for an event, be quite not ready and ask him to help finish zipping up your dress. When you are walking somewhere, hold on to this elbow. At the end of an evening, give him a full body hug, keep your arms around his waist but pll your head back, look him in the eyes, then tilt your head and close your eyes. If he doesn't get the idea after all of this, he is either dead or homosexual.

[lovethislife55]

Haha thank you, this is perfect. I have been going to the same coffee shop for 3 weeks, and the barista there is flirty but hasn't asked me out. So im not sure whether he is jnto me at all

[OlderAndWiser]

Start asking him what he does away from work, what he does or fun. FInd a common interest with him. If you go in to the shop and he is not working, ask the other workers about him; they will probably alert him that you inquired about him. Then, next time you see him, tell him tat you missed him the last time you were in. FInd out what kind of cuisine (e. g., Italian, Mexican, Thai) he likes. Then find a new restaurant that specializes in that cuisine, mention that you heard about this new place and ask him if he has tried it yet. If he doesn't take that hint. . .

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO. If you get a chance to use any of my suggestions, please let me know how they work for you!

[lovethislife55]

Hi there! Thanks so much for your thorough response and help, today I looked him up and found that he is married haha I guess that explains his flirting and lack of action to ask me out. Thanks again!

[OlderAndWiser]

That one fact tells you all that you need to know!

[lovethislife55]

Yes its a true shame that we have shared such a great spark, but it can't go any further!!!

[OlderAndWiser]

Does he not wear a wedding ring?

[lovethislife55]

He doesn't. The funny thing is that today my coworker and I came to the coffee shop, and after we left she said that coffee guy was so into you, the way he was looking at you, he really likes you! So I know I'm not crazy haha

[OlderAndWiser]

Next time you see him, you should ask "Do you think married guys should wear wedding rings?" :) :) :)

[lovethislife55]

Hahaha he would probably screw up my coffee orders on purpose LOL

[Zeldaismyqueen]

Wear a really nice pair of leather pants and then ask him how you look in them… trust me on this

[lovethislife55]

Haha i love it! He works at a busy coffee shop as a barista so our conversation hasn't been too often so that would be bold, but i can give it a try haya

[Zeldaismyqueen]

Do it! It sounds lame but it works, so you own a pair?

[lovethislife55]

Theyre pleather haha

[Zeldaismyqueen]

Hmm do you have a pic of your outfit? Mine are vegan leather and look just the same, I can share mine too!!

[RuthlessAggression]

Don't affiliate with him too much. Be short with your answers and hardly reply. But when you do reply make it sweet and thoughtful.

However, I don't really condone this sort of behavior. I think if you like someone you really should just be up front with them. Games are for kids

[Anonymous]

Well for me (and many guys), the more obvious the better because we might suspect, but it's not always enough for the guy to approach you (depending on the guy). Personally I'd like her to approach me. Shows courage and CONFIDENCE, which like for you women, is attractive!

[caring__1]

Smile at him.
Ask him for help.
Compliment him on things he says or does.
Show consideration for him.
Share with him.
Gently make physical contact as you pass by him.

[PastorJohn69]

Simple. Offer to spend time with them.
Invite to your plans on Saturday...
Invite them to coffee...
Keep it simple... keep it fun

[spartan55]

Why wouldn't you make it obvious? We won't pick up on your hints so I recommend telling us.

[Avicenna]

Compliments, being enthusiastic about talking to me or doing an activity with me, good convos.

[abiyazfar]

if guy think good and understand about you.. and know you.. if her canot understant becoz the guy not love you and know you. .. if think positif you can wait the guy to time for love you.. if you negatif.. just try more any guy to can love you

[Wise4myage]

By flirting with me and showing an interests in what I like.

[FilmGuy93]

She can and should just say the words.

[Dkc123]

Gazing n being awkward around

[CloudMassacre]

Please be obvious.

[lovethislife55]

I would but i have no idea if he is friendly because its his job or if he likes me, which makes is awkward for me, because he is a barista at a coffee shop i visit every am, and i dont wsnt to make things weird... lol

[In_Trance]

Be bold

[lovethislife55]

Bold as in, just tell hin i like hin straight out?

[In_Trance]

Yeah

[lovethislife55]

Thanks, i guess i am just worried that because he works at a coffee shop i come to everyday that if he rejects me itll be awkward and i will have to find a new place to go to haha

[Anonymous]

Flash him?

[Slim57]

Just be obvious