Is it normal to feel lonely/solitude after being rejected by a crush?

[Anonymous]

A girl who I liked a lot rejected me and says that she has someone else. It's just a feeling that hits the heart and goes up to the throat. It's just like a feeling of missing out on something that you could've had and can't stop thinking about. Does anyone else feel this way after this happens to them?

[Kkstarzz96]

yeah. there's not really much to do except to let it run its course, you only get over people truly if you understand your reasons for liking them weren't very good reasons because if they cannot see the value in being with you, what value do you see in being with them? the relationship you imagined you'd have is not a real relationship, and thats what you deserve, is a real relationship, that doesn't end over "if only's" if only she didn't meet that other person, if only i asked sooner, but thats not what happened and also no guarantee that's the reason. if only I was an educated rich white woman, my ex wouldn't have left me for one. but he also left that one, for another one. so it's not true, he basically doesn't know what he wants and thinks this type makes him look better in society, which is superficial and lame, and I don't want to be around someone like that. so there you go.

[Asker]

I hope you are doing better without him :) Great luck with your future endeavours.

[Kkstarzz96]

the term better is very surface level, basically without him, I have to face my truth and that is no man was going to make me happy because I have my own issues that need my attention more than a guy does. but if a guy wanted to be there for me, i wouldn't push him away. it's just usually they don't want to be there, they just want sex. which I think, is mostly the reason why a guy likes a girl, his penis likes her, not him likes her. therefore, not a good enough reason to date her exclusively and be hung up on her if she said no.

[Asker]

The thing about this girl was that I never realised she was leading me on. For me I never think about the sex first, it's about the relationship building. But then again most people have this novelty and fantastical understanding of relationships; thinking it'll be mainly uphill without minor bumps. I started to like her because primarily she was my type but didn't fully understand her personality. Turns out she isn't very nice at all and is the type to cheat. I'm sure there are relationships close to novelty but it's hard to find.

[Kkstarzz96]

hm I wouldn't say cheating can be foreseen. I wouldn't thin anyone goes into a relationship planning to be messing around with someone else at the same time, or else there's a huge miscommunication or they mentally left the relationship but didn't verbally clarify it because once you say it's over, you know you can't easily go back. have you ever been fighting with your partner so much you know it's almost done but it seems too much of an emotion to deal with so you just disassociate yourself from them? usually, wanting to give in to someone else is enough to realize it's time to break up, but some people get too carried away before understanding what they've done now. anyways, sorry that was random lol.

[Kkstarzz96]

think***

[Anonymous]

I know I would