How do you gain a man's interest back?

[Anonymous]

We been dating for quite some time but he's been talking to another girl. Since beginning he said we can date other people. He just been talking to me less so I'm wondering whats the best way to lure him back without looking desperate or stupid?

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I want to thank all of you for being honest and opening my eyes. I realized there's no point trying to get a man attention if he clearly doesn't want anything to do with me. He treated me so bad that I was getting miserable and felt like I was walking on eggshells. I decided im going to move on and been seeing a good friend for support. So far I been feeling really better because I know I deserve better and he's a toxic person. Its getting weight off of me feels good

[TommyMountainFigure]

Do you want me to be honest or tell you what you want to hear?

If I'm being honest, then that ship has already sailed.. It was stupid to accept that whilst he was dating you he could date whoever else he liked!

My advice? Put an end to that relationship and learn from it.. Don't allow yourself to ever be in a position like that again!

[DanniOnnaNimbus]

I wouldn't waste my time. Can we forget about the chasing in dating culture. If he likes you then his actions would show and he will give you time. I was worried... I can still answer right? The guys opinion seemed harsh and "manosphere like". But yea girl, I say let it go, see other people as well. He got out of ldr so he probably wants to play bachelor rn. Thats ok too.

[slatyb]

Lure him back? Is he gone? He's doing the sensible thing, getting to know a number of women before settling on one. He told you up front that he didn't want an exclusive relationship. Maybe you should date some other people too.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AQGXa3FiXKM

[Nawlins34]

By being yourself and if that wasn't enough? Let that man go.

You don't want to travel this path, lady. If he can detect you're trying to lure him back without being yourself, the BEST thing that could happen is he lets you know he's not interested. Because if he knows you're doing this?

He has leverage and he won't stop there. Be yourself.

Be safe and good luck.

[kinggeorge007]

If his interest has been drifted naturally, without you doing anything stupid; it's probably not gonna get back no matter what you do. Because you are not his type.

Find what his type is and if you genuinely feel you can relate to that, give it a try to engage in things that likes. But acting up won't work. Because you can't act 24/7 a whole life.

[ImJustSomeGuyLol]

You've already played yourself, you agreed to terms that you didn't want. But you can't really take them back now.
Set yourself better standards, make it clear what you want.
We'll get em next time.

[FilmGuy93]

You have to give him more of your personality. You have to demonstrate that you are the kind of woman he wants to invest in further, because what you've given him so far hasn't really caught his attention.

[Anonymous]

Well you already look desperate in my opinion. I only give energy to women that they're willing to give me. I ain't trying to win favor with ANY woman.
It's called self respect! Always have it.

[Asker]

So my plan is to not start conversation with him unless he speaks to me first. What if he ask me to go out to eat should I say no?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't want to answer this for you.
Because I wouldn't go out with a woman who told me "we can see other people". No one should accept that kind of treatment from someone they're dating, man or woman. I would be friends with him ONLY. Based on the little info you've given me about him he's NOT serious about ANYONE.
Always have self respect for yourself girl! I don't care who he is or how hot he is. You're due respect!

[Asker]

No I never said that he told me "we can see other people" not me

[Asker]

Oh I just read what you wrote sorry I misunderstood. Yes I agree with you! The bad thing he had gotten out of long term relationship and thats why he wants to just date around. I just wanted him to only date me

[Asker]

Yeah im trying to lose feelings for him by building hate. Thats the only way I can not feel as much pain

[Opinion Owner]

I totally understand that sentiment. I always try to think of their bad points (I guarantee he had them) then I just play it over and over again in an endless loop. Lol

[Asker]

Yeah lol thats what I been doing and it has been working :) I dont really have feelings anymore and don't feel sad

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

By doing the same things it took to attracted in the first place, that's about it I mean it's literally like when you lose something and you retrace your steps

[Reaper1985]

[007kingifrit]

if he's seeing you but says you can date other people... you shouldn't want him back

[Guy13]

Lose weight…

[Asker]

I'm fit

[Guy13]

I doubt it especially if USA standards.

Here’s fit: My lady friend looks just like Betty Boop at 4’ll-5’1. She weighs 96 lbs with skinny arms and legs AND all Butt 🚼 and Orange 🍊 grapefruit Boobs.

[Guy13]

I’m 6’3…and she crawls me like a 🐒 scurrying up a 🥥 🌴

[Asker]

Lol im actually 4'11 100 pounds 😂

[Sorbay]

low body fat