How do I get a man’s attention?

[kittyy2k]

I’ve never dated any guy before. I’ve usually only texted men online, but they were all perverts wanting to use me for my body. I am now coming to realization that I need to do better. I’m a good looking girl. My hair is always nicely done, I wear good clothes, i never over due makeup. I wouldn’t say I’m ugly at all. But I somehow always pull in the ugliest men online, no offense. I notice that in person some cute looking guys will look at me more than once but never come up to me. The issue with all of this is how do I even get to talk to them? Do I just stare into their soul? I know I’ll have to go up to them at one point, but is there something I can do with just a look that can get one’s attention? I just want to talk to a good looking guy for once. I hate having to force myself to talk to these old men just because I want to satisfy my needs. And what about facial expressions? Do men feel intimidated when a girl looks mean? I get this a lot where some people thought I was mean until they talked to me. They thought I was a sweetheart.

[HawkPerception]

I'll address every point in what you've said to answer your question.

"I've never dated any guy before."

You're young. Some people don't date even until they're in their 30s. Go at your own pace and don't worry about being pressured by society. Although you do have to take into your biological clock if you want kids or not.

"I’ve usually only texted men online, but they were all perverts wanting to use me for my body. I am now coming to realization that I need to do better."

Well yeah... online is not exactly the best method to find decent guys. Sure you CAN find good guys out there that want a solid relationship, but the truth is, many of them are just looking to get laid, so if you do interact with them online, just be wary.

"I’m a good looking girl. My hair is always nicely done, I wear good clothes, i never over due makeup. I wouldn’t say I’m ugly at all. But I somehow always pull in the ugliest men online, no offense."

Looks matter, but personality matters more. Try not to judge solely based on looks. You might fall into the trap of ending up with fuckboys early on in life then becoming jaded and hating all guys later on in life.

"I notice that in person some cute looking guys will look at me more than once but never come up to me. The issue with all of this is how do I even get to talk to them? Do I just stare into their soul? I know I’ll have to go up to them at one point, but is there something I can do with just a look that can get one’s attention? I just want to talk to a good looking guy for once."

Hate to say it, but times have changed for the worse and in these times, men are more afraid to approach girls out there. There are still guys that approach girls, but they're in the minority. You have to be a little more obvious when it comes to getting guys nowadays. Don't be afraid to go up to them and shoot your shot. Just one of the ideas I'll give, but you can start a conversation with a funny pickup line like "How did it feel when you fell... from the vending machine? Because you're a snack." Use eye contact, smile, and give them a gentle touch/tap. I'm telling you that'll likely work for most guys. It's light hearted and shows that you're not afraid to take initiative. If they find you attractive, they'll love talking with you.

"I hate having to force myself to talk to these old men just because I want to satisfy my needs."

I don't know what to tell you here. If you don't want to talk to "old men" then don't.

"And what about facial expressions? Do men feel intimidated when a girl looks mean? I get this a lot where some people thought I was mean until they talked to me. They thought I was a sweetheart."

This definitely needs to be addressed. It doesn't matter how attractive or beautiful you are as a girl. If you don't look friendly or approachable, guys won't want to approach you. Resting bitch face syndrome is not an attractive trait. Learn to smile at people (especially if you want to interact with them). You'll learn a simple smile goes a long way. Even if it's not you naturally... you know what they say... fake it till you make it.

Hope I helped.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well you seem to have a good mindset on everything, I'd say making the first move increases your chances by a shitload, this is of course if you ever get to the point where you want to badly see results and you are willing to step out of your comfort zone, I'd say as in now maybe dress to impress? And I don't mean that horny people stuff, I mean modest and casual but appealing to the eyes, nothing degrading, just a bit eye catching, bright colors help and maybe something that will compliment your skintone and bring out your eyes.

[Pinkycloud]

Hii, im the same age as you about to be 19 but let me tell you something, you don't really want the random guys you see on the street to approach you. In my experience I've had many guys approach me while I'm just walking and they usually just want to have sex and a lot of the times its just creepy. I'll be honest it's flattering at times and I feel bad so I give my number but like I said. They wanted to have sex. You don't want a random man to approach you on the street. More like if you're out somewhere like school or a workplace. I do have to say I met my long time boyfriend online and the reason why I ever gave him a chance was because he showed dedication to me. First thing he asked me was if he can take me out on a date. I didn't take him seriously and he kept trying to talk to me till he realized texting me he never got a response so he called me. We talked everyday for a month and he asked me on a date again but I backed out I think once he says I did it twice but I remember once. I also made it clear I'm not sleeping with anyone till I'm married and he respected that. Make him work to have you then you know you found the right guy bc even if he does randomly walk past you and ask for your number he put in the work to get you. Trust me your gorgeous just men either have been heartbroken and don't trust women so they don't want to put the work or they're just lazy but if a guy rlly wants you he will initiate plans and show you that he wants you. Just focus on you and show that you have respect for yourself and make it clear to men they need to put in effort if they want you. If a guy does something you don't like make it clear if he doesn't show effort in trying to make you comfortable then he's not worth. I hope this helps and I can help you some more if you need. I promise you this is how you will get the perfect guy for you. <3

[kittyy2k]

This helped a lot. Thank you so much !! :) 💞

[Pinkycloud]

Of course! I’m so happy it helped and again if you need anymore support I’m happy to help :)

[Crimsyjo]

Wow wisest words ever spoken on here!! 😊

[Anonymous]

At 18 you will find it difficult. Usually men who work with animals are the most genuine at your age.

[AviatorTom]

Do you eat lunch in a cafeteria with other people, maybe students? Just walk up to a guy that looks interesting and ask if you can join him. Then strike up an innocent conversation.

[Nikki1989]

It is very rare to find any quality men by looking online. Find a social group you enjoy and mingle.

[Staximus]

Try interacting with the guys you want in real life and nevermind all the online douche bags. If you meet a guy and he's not a tool, ask him to go get lunch or dinner with you. You don't have to throw yourself at him.

[ale2003]

Hey honey, don’t worry there a lot of good guys out there. Just be yourself and don’t change in order to please someone. If men are looking at them and if u like them just smile or something, he should probably come up to you.

[AshleyJarrett]

Dress sexy, accentuate curves. Men like shape, they’re kinda like animals lol

[Anonymous]

It's very hard the smart ones are avoiding women since the MeToo statutes passed into law

Only the bold i. e. usually old and ugly are approaching women now because they might get a change before they are dragged off to face the firing squad

[bowenw]

Have good conversations with guys so you get to know each other better.

[Anonymous]

What exactly is it that these older men fulfill that you need?

[kittyy2k]

I just want good attention. I don’t want attention aiming towards my body. I just like when they call me pet names or sweet names in general. I haven’t texted a guy my age that likes to call me doll, sweetheart.. Angel. Some can be mature and treat me right. I like it

[Opinion Owner]

I see. So if I called you sweet pet names you’d be open to that? To give you attention, ask you how your day has been, etc?

[kittyy2k]

Of course

[Opinion Owner]

Is it simply because older men tend to still do things like that? Say things like that?

[kittyy2k]

Yes. I really like it

[Opinion Owner]

I see. But you’d never date an older man right?

[kittyy2k]

I haven’t gotten the chance to talk one on one with an older guy in person. Only at work. There is a chance I’d date one. But I know what most older men want from young girls like me. With me knowing what they want it pushes me back

[Opinion Owner]

So exactly don’t think older men want from you?

[kittyy2k]

I know that they’ll use me for my age because I’m the youngest they can get

[Opinion Owner]

Ok but please tell me what you think they want? Just sex?

[kittyy2k]

I’d think they’d just want sex, yes. But I also think they hold a lot of power against a young girl. They can manipulate so easily sometimes

[Opinion Owner]

That may be true for some, but not all older men are like that. I mean a lot of younger men I’m sure want you just for sexy as well. I’m sure they could manipulate you as well especially if you liked them. Regardless of age there’s men of older as well as younger ages who are like that.

[kittyy2k]

I know. I just can’t get rid of my liking towards older men. I wouldn’t say it’s bad. But I know with my liking it will take awhile. I just always crave someone calling me pet names

[Opinion Owner]

I see. I’m not telling you to date an older man. But there are older men who do treat younger women better. A lot of women think men just want younger women cause we’d like to manipulate them. When in reality it’s just men want a girl who doesn’t have a lot of drama, baggage, etc. More than likely older women, maybe in their kids 20s tend to have that. Not only that as a man gets older he’s more established. More than likely in his 20s, 30s, he’s still trying to build that wealth. So when he’s older, maybe he’s in his 40s, he has more to offer. To be able to treat a girl better cause he can do a lot of things for her that he couldn’t when he was younger due to lack of finances. But that’s up to you to decide sweetie. Again there are some older men who are after that, but not all.

[kittyy2k]

Of course, I understand. I lack trust due to past experiences with older men, specifically online. But I do know that there are men from 20 and up that know how to treat a girl well. I live in a city which gives me a good chance. I appreciate your replies of curiosity

[Opinion Owner]

May I inquire what sort of trust issues? Like what happened?

[Opinion Owner]

How exactly would an older men go about catching your attention?

[kittyy2k]

Sorry, I don’t know what the correct word would be. But with the very few older men I had texted, they would beg me for pictures. When the pictures weren’t given they would shame me. I guess it would make me feel ashamed. It has really changed the way I view certain things. Like when a guy texts me I get nervous if they’re going to turn out like the rest of those bums I had given my time to. But it’s in the past and I don’t care much about low life’s like them. I knew a few people like me who have gone through this. I’m a curious girl but I’ve learned much from it. I haven’t texted anyone of such

[Opinion Owner]

I see. That can be a big turn off. If he’s aggressive in a way like that. It makes you wonder don’t actually like me for me, talking to me or you’re just interested in me sexually. So it doesn’t feel like a genuine interest. I would feel the same if someone got mad about me not sending a pic right away either. Have you actually ever met one of these men you engaged w online?

[kittyy2k]

Well the older men texted me first. For in person, one can catch my attention through the way they present themself. Which means taking care of themself, wearing good clothes.. and also well spoken

[kittyy2k]

No, I have never met these men from online. I would put myself at risk. Not only that, but I never had an interest in them at all. It was like we were both the same. Except I never wanted them sexually, I just wanted comfort. It might seem like I am an abandoned child, but I get much love. I would just like to talk to a man

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. So what would the man get out of this if you aren’t interested in him? Don’t tell them that upfront?

[Opinion Owner]

When you say they text you first, do you mean through this forum?

[kittyy2k]

This might be silly, but I didn’t know where to text older men from. I went onto the hub which is full of disgusting men. They had reached out to me. I liked the way one spoke and then carried on. It was the first and last time I ever went there.

[kittyy2k]

They would enjoy texting me disgusting pictures of themselves. But that is expected when they are met though an explicit app. It never crosses my mind to do such again

[Opinion Owner]

What exactly is the hub? I don’t fully understand why go there if it’s full of disgusting men. I take it you don’t have a boyfriend? Someone you’re talking to?

[Opinion Owner]

Ok I see. Yes a lot of men will do stupid things like that. I don’t get why. I mean I kind of do but wouldn’t you as the man want to win her over so you could be w her all you want, have intimate times together.

[kittyy2k]

The hub as in Pxrnhub. And no, I don’t have a boyfriend. And also, I never talked to multiple guys at once. I only talked to one and one only. In total there were 3 I had fully talked to. I wasn’t some full on internet slut. I was new to this stuff and was acting like some nymphomaniac. It’s embarrassing to say, but every girl has this stage

[kittyy2k]

What do you mean?

[Opinion Owner]

What do you mean what do I mean? You mean as far as sending dirty pics and things like that? What I was saying was if a man could just like her for her, be genuine, love her, all those things he’d want to done her would more than likely happen once she’s developed feelings for him. She’d be more than happy to obliged. But a lot of men go straight to see. But too they go to that right away too cause we both know a lot of men just want sex right away.

[kittyy2k]

Ah ok. I understand.

[Opinion Owner]

So you’re a student? College?

[kittyy2k]

I am, yes

[Opinion Owner]

What’s your field of study?
Do you talk to your dad or mom about this whole thing w talking to older men?

[kittyy2k]

My field of study is biology. And no, I haven’t talked to them about it. Sure, I think it was a bad thing. It’s in the past and I’ve pushed it behind. The only reason to why I had made this question was because I wanted to know how to properly talk to someone

[Opinion Owner]

I see. Honestly most men are approachable these days. I’m not going to lie, if you’re cute, pretty, etc, you have a better chance. Men aren’t that complicated. I think too many women take advice from other women who are bitter, been screwed over by a man or something so they give bad advice. Easiest just to ask a man.

[kittyy2k]

I see. I am never one to give bad advice to my friends when asking about guys. After all, we have completely different tastes.
But I will get out there and try, thanks.

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t think you’ll have trouble meeting men. From the small part of what one can see of your profile pic you’re probably a little cutie.

[kittyy2k]

Ahh thank you very much.

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome Ms. Kitty. You seem like a good girl. Maybe a bad kitty I don’t know lol

[kittyy2k]

Ahahah always a good girl.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok I’ll take your word for it. But good can also be in a bad way too.

[kittyy2k]

Mhm, sometimes. Good is the best way to go.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes it’s. Good is always best. So don’t ever stop being a good girl. Men love good girls. It’s ok to be a curious kitty at times, just don’t fall off that good vibe.

[kittyy2k]

Of course.!

[Opinion Owner]

So Ms Kitty been into any mischief lately?

[kittyy2k]

Not at all. I’m not a fan of getting into trouble

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. Good. Walk that straight line. Kitties are good at balancing theirselves. Do you mind if I add you? If you’d like to talk more, maybe have some questions in the future I’d be happy to answer.

[kittyy2k]

Sure. Just don’t turn into what I’ve talked about, lol.

[Opinion Owner]

No I won’t. I enjoy talking w people. I’m very honest though so if you want an honest answer from a male’s perspective just ask. Just don’t get mad though if you don’t get an answer you like. I’m not going to be rude about it, but a lot of times women get offended when you give them an answer they don’t like.

[kittyy2k]

Ok, I won’t mind. Feel free to add me.

[Anonymous]

Have you tried flashing your tits at him or bending over in front of him in very short skirt? (I mean, YOU wear the skirt, not him!)

[convo_king89]

Depends on what kind of attention you want.

[dudegreat91]

That's what me too era has done. Guys think twice before approaching in person now :D

[Enes38]

I think you're trying too hard, just let it be and maybe sometimes you should take the leap.

[Anonymous]

You want to know if it's ok to ride a man but you don't even have the man yet?

[kittyy2k]

No, that’s why I said I’m a virgin. I want to know before it happens

[PetiteMisSmooth546]

What needs do old men satisfy?

[kittyy2k]

Well for starters I just like talking to older men. Some of them can be mature and know how to talk to me right, as in calling me sweet names

[noohair]

A smile works wonders.

[Anonymous]

Just be yourself

[itsannalee]

Just br yourself.

[Anonymous]

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