I always get sick of talking to guys, how to stop?

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Whenever I’m talking to a guy I usually after a couple of day (or even later) I either get icked out or just stop liking him at all. Like I get queasy and want it just block him cause I’m sick of making conversation. Even with guys I’ve had crushes on for like years I’ll get grossed out (except with them it passes and the I’ll like them again but I never get with my crushes.) Why is this happening to me? I can’t get past any talking stages bcs I always else up blocking them or just getting sick of talking at some point.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Are you, by any chance, scared of opening up and being vulnerable and do you feel threatened if you overshared something?

Maybe that’s why you feel this way…

It has never happened to me but I was grossed out by boys who loved me in childhood.

One day, at 12-13 I thought and found out, instead of being grossed out, I should respect them, because they have a good taste in girls.

I tried to think, why was I grossed out? Maybe because I was so insecure at that time, I felt gross somebody would like me?

That’s in our heads. These people have feelings as well, if you dislike them, you can explain politely and that’s it, no need to make them feel like they are gross human beings and worthless to have a conversation with.

I never block people, it’s a bit immature.

My brother told me, when I reject men, I should always do it gently, so I won’t hurt them... And they will also respect you more.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I guess don’t text them as much and try to actually go out on dates with them. Tell them you’re not much of a texter.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Well the standard rule for me when it comes to talking or texting with women, is to safe ot for the dates.. move it out of texts and chats into meeting in person. Then do activity based dates, where your not just sitting somewhere talking trapped behind a table with not escape struggling to move conversation way from awkward silence.

I do walks in the park, zoo dates, minor league baseball games, street markets, festivals almost any type of date that gets us out and moving with people around... it helps to really connect with the other person. When your out like that there always other things going on around you that helps distract you from tge fact that you're on a date.

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

When talking to guy try to figure out what in particular turns you off or makes you turn away? I think you win a lot if you start to figure out why you crush on certain guys because I think you compare your crushes with other guys you meet and if the guys can´t keep up with your crushes you loose interest in them.
Maybe it would help to figure what your crushes have or can do.
That way you could find other guys that are similar and get comfortable with guys in general.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe you like women.

You’re using very strange language to describe how you feel: “icked out,” “queasy,” “grossed out” and you used the word “sick” several times.

I think you’re just disgusted with men.

You don’t like them, and you’re not really interested in them. 🤷‍♂️

IJhonnyI · Answer

Just do you, you don't gotta be taking too men all the time concentrate on your self clearly you have to find yourself your over here wasting your time on men😂

Guy__ · Answer

That could be better than having no boundaries. What is it about them that turns you off?

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

It sounds as if you could be Genophobic.. An irrational fear of the opposite sex.

LazyProphet · Answer

I would definitely recommend talking to a psychologist about it, maybe they can figure out the source of the problem. How do you feel about talking In person, you still get bored and annoyed by them? Maybe they just aren't interesting to you?

Anonymous · Answer

Why fight it? Most guys are boring simps and you're not interested in them. Try embracing who you are for a while and see what happens.

jshm2 · Answer

Get yourself a lesbian relationship instead, then, dumbass.

RuthlessAggression · Answer

Your problem is, you get scared. You get scared of rejection. You "develop crushes" only to then never actually tell them how you feel. And that's due to being a little scared-y cat

Loveisgirthy · Answer

I would just put attention elsewhere. Interesting predicament you don't hear about a lot though so thanks for letting me know this happens

Waldoe · Answer

people need face to face interaction... chat is hollow and empty of many personal aspects...

Anonymous · Answer

Dunno you definitely sound flakey. Good luck with that.

Blackcosmo · Answer

Get help from a therapist.

Guy13 · Answer

Keep mouth closed🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️

Wise4myage · Answer

Consider giving it a rest.

RandomGuy1030 · Answer

Self sabotage , fear of rejection etc

JohnK123 · Answer

No idea

Anonymous · Answer

ok so you are just a fuck

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