Am I cold hearted for chasing money over love?

[shaysh87]

If I had the option to pick between a millionaire and staying with someone that i love who can make me laugh and be happy for the rest of my life. i would pick being a millionaire.

[Honesttguy]

Nah it is definetly reasonable choice. Movies give this illusion that true happiness comes love. But its just lies to keep us poor people going towards something.
Lets say you marry lovely person but you work morning shifts and he works night shifts, so basically you dont see each other, so much for true love isn't it?

[serious]

No, you are not. I also always choose money over love.

[serious]

Thanks for the MHO

[TheMajesticKing777]

The difference between the two is that with money you will never be satisfied, you will always want more, it's a form of greed that is endless and probably impossible to control because money is needed in our world and you can never have too much of it, that greed can be blinding and can turn you cold hearted to the point money is all you think about, you are already thinking about an object over emotional happiness and I guess only you can tell yourself if it's bad for you or not but personally I know I wouldn't want to love money more than love itself, you can say you'd prefer being a millionaire over finding someone you care about but what will cross your mind when you have all that money, will you be happy spending it all on your own?

[shaysh87]

I think that you dont know what it means to be rich.

Rich people do not need to work 8 hours a day, stressing under a manager, seeing coworkers that you do not want to see, dealing with customers you dont want to deal with, doing housework when you're dead tired after working an 8 hr shift, worrying about how much baby sitter will cost, whine about never being able to take a vacation, wanting to retire but can't afford to just yet, worrying about kids not doing well enough in school

Being rich is wayy more than materialistic things. Its a whole new lifestyle

[shaysh87]

Money provides beyond material satisfaction. I can have control over my own schedule, do more on my leisure, do more with my life, I don't have to see people I don't want to see or deal with people I don't want to deal with, I can make money with my existing money by investing. I can start a business and have people work for me. I can have more time to explore my hobbies.

While you spend 40 hours a week working your ass off , dealing with people that you do not want to deal with. I can spend 30 hours a week , golfing, traveling, having good conversations, thinking creative ways to make more money, making friends.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Yes it is but more money still forms more problems, you are thinking of all the good stuff but not the bad stuff, I myself chased money for a long time and I'll tell you it's a lonely lifestyle, you are reaching the point you will end up putting money over people and at that point you'll just lose your humanity, there'd people out there that take human lives for money and I'm not saying you will become a hit woman but money brings a lot of toxicity, it will form fake friends, fake relationships and just people chasing your money, it will complicated your love life and connections with people, now I'm not saying being rich is bad because my goal is actually being wealthy but I wouldn't put wealth over love, because money can always be made, you are thinking about wealth very blindly because you are just thinking about the good things about it, what about when people around you find out about your money, how will they treat you, money is the root of all evil, and I feel like you forgot about that by the way you are speaking, you might just be speaking out of frustration, I am currently hustling for my money, I don't have a job because it's not for me, I agree that having a job is a shitty lifestyle because it just is, mostly if it's a job you don't like or want but you are letting your fantasies about all the money brainwash the reality because in real life, money can rot a person and if it's not you, it's someone around you, it can create envy and hate and can form grudges and break off friendships and relationships, you are probably speaking from a point of view where you have family that cares about you right? When that family has passed on and you have no one else loving you and you are completely alone and have to make friends not knowing who is real or fake, will you be happy with your wealth?

[shaysh87]

@themajesticking777

there will always be problems in life. But FAR fewer problems when you're rich compared to when you're poor. There is no such thing as a life without any problems. Even little children have problems in life such as doing poorly in school, not meeting parent's expectations

Rich people don't need to hustle. They already have what they got.

[shaysh87]

[there'd people out there that take human lives for money and I'm not saying you will become a hit woman but money brings a lot of toxicity, it will form fake friends, fake relationships and just people chasing your money,]

I think this can be easily solved by being smart and only befriending the rich.
And learn to discern through con artists and lies. Its a skill that is very learnable unless you're just stupid. there's a good chance you won't be rich if you're stupid anyways.

[shaysh87]

[ I agree that having a job is a shitty lifestyle because it just is, mostly if it's a job you don't like or want but you are letting your fantasies about all the money brainwash the reality because in real life, money can rot a person and if it's not you, it's someone around you, it can create envy and hate and can form grudges and break off friendships and relationships, you are probably speaking from a point of view where you have family that cares about you right?]

if people envy you, then dump them. If someone holds grudges, dump them. Only befriend other rich people. PROBLEM SOLVED! You don't realize that many of your own problems are caused by yourself.

And I can tell you from personal experience that rich people are typically wayy cooler , have wayy more meaningful connections, smarter friends (if you're a millionaire, there is a good chance you are smart, not stupid). Rich people are also more likely to have connections to high power politicians and people that can improve their situations.

And speaking about "money can rot a person". THis may be true only in a poor person's perspective. But to a rich person's perspective, money does not rot them. It only improves their quality of life. If it were true that money can rot a person, you wouldn't be husting right now.

You need to understand that vast majority of the people in this world are only out for their own self interests. Nobody will save you when you have your house taken away from you. Nobody would care if you're homeless. Its time to stop pretending that the world cares.

[TheMajesticKing777]

I feel like you are getting lost about what your question was, I am speaking about money over love, not about the difficulty compared from rich and poor and befriending the rich will decrease your chances of friends by a lot because in reality a small percentage is wealthy and those wealthy people can always replace you, it's very hard to think of others when you are blinded by wealth, I don't know what you consider a friend but what I consider a friend is someone that cares about you and has a form of connection and loyalty to your friendship, not just someone that has things in common with you, let me ask you something, are you rich?

[shaysh87]

[When that family has passed on and you have no one else loving you and you are completely alone and have to make friends not knowing who is real or fake, will you be happy with your wealth?]

Happiness comes from within. Parents will eventually die anyways. Siblings do not care about us the same way our parents do. Siblings will put their own wives and kids as first priority, not us. Learn to be happy on your own. We enter the world by ourselves, we live life feeling everything by ourselves, then we die by ourselves. there's nobody that lives life with you. You arrive by yourself. You exist by yourself and you exit by yourself. Nobody exits with you.

[shaysh87]

what makes you think that a rich friend cannot love you for who you are?

you're acting as if rich people can't form valuable friendships.

[TheMajesticKing777]

You perhaps but if I'm going to die I'm planning on having my family of my own, wife and kids and my wealth will just keep my family living comfortably, only time will tell if you can be happy alone but I'm telling you now, humans aren't meant to be alone, we are meant to love, we all have emotions and feelings and that is why no one can be happy completely alone, the reason I believe they don't is cause just like you are thinking of your money first, they might be doing it as well and like I said, putting money over anyone is a blinding mindset, don't get me wrong there's people that are wealthy that can be a good friend but those are most likely people that have lived poor at once and know what a struggle is because they know how it's like to have nothing and struggle and that forms a type of mindset where they are thinking more of human life than their money, people born into wealth don't know how bad it can get and how bad some people live which forms a bad mindset that they start believing themselves like they are better than others, I've seen it happen plenty of times, if you want to be wealthy then you already started out wrong by believing that people aren't worth your time and that money will create your happiness, we don't create our own happiness, I have never made myself happy when I was sad or angry, my happiness comes with my mood and its something I can't control, that's with all humans and I believe that you won't know until you feel what it's like to be completely alone and unloved, if you think a new car or house will fill up that gap then I don't know what to tell you.

[shaysh87]

I can have kids on my own. I do not need a husband. If I am rich enough, I can pay to buy sperm, get pregnant, receive the best maternity care. I can even buy Ivy League sperm. My kids can be geniuses.

who is happier? you wasting your prime years of life, working at a job where you constantly wished you didn't have to be there? Still working at the age of 50 , wishing that you could retire and finally travel the world? Imagine how many friends I would've made over 20 years of leisure while you spend 20 years working the same job , facing the same stress, facing the same customers that annoy the shit out of you?

how much would you have missed if I traveled 10 times all over the world with friends while you could never afford to travel to half as many places as I have?

You will never be able to afford to do even a third of the things that I have done throughout my lifetime.

Love is not everything. You are only desperate for love if you are insecure about your own self worth and needs someone to prove to you that you are worthy on your own. I have always been self sufficient on my own because I have a solid self esteem. I don't need someone to give me a hug just to confirm my own self worth.

[TheMajesticKing777]

You aren't reading what I'm typing are you? If you only read a part of it and not all of it then that doesn't count, I feel like you aren't understanding what I'm saying because what you are saying has nothing to do with my responses, I feel like I'm wasting your time, agree to disagree 🤷🏽

[shaysh87]

@themajesticking777

because you're a dim wit who can't understand someone else's perspective. I honestly doubt you're reading much of what I'm writing either.

[shaysh87]

you're saying I can have no love in my life with money. if I am rich, I can have kids on my own. I can have loving relationships with my children filled with love and care. so i don't know what the hell you're talking about.

[TheMajesticKing777]

You go off topic to your own question and I'm the dim wit? okay buddy, I read everything you have mentioned but I feel you should take another glance at your question because I don't feel like you are properly comprehending the conversation, your question is asking if it's cold hearted for chasing money over love and love is a general term including children so now you are just contradicting yourself and ruining your whole question and I feel like maybe I am a dim wit for responding to your question when clearly no one else did, which I'm starting to put the pieces together that maybe it's for a reason.

[shaysh87]

I think you just stop debating because you realized that my point makes total sense but you would never want to admit it.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Debating? Lol maybe you were debating I was just stating advice, I don't care what you do with you life, I'm just answering the question, you on the other hand completely changed the question so what is your question now because now you aren't wondering if it's cold hearted to chase money over love which that was the original question but now you are mentioning that now you want to have kids or whatever so now that leaves us here, what is your question? What is the point of your post?

[shaysh87]

if you insist that I am still wrong, then go ahead. Prove me why I'm wrong

[TheMajesticKing777]

Cause you did the full 78 formula 1 laps around your own question, I hope you know that chasing money OVER love means one or the other and the one seems to be the money which means no love but you changed it up and mentioned maybe having kids to love so that completely ruins the point of your whole question so I know where I stand but you on the other hand 🤷🏽

[shaysh87]

[Cause you did the full 78 formula 1 laps around your own question, I hope you know that chasing money OVER love means one or the other and the one seems to be the money which means no love but you changed it up and mentioned maybe having kids to love so that completely ruins the point of your whole question so I know where I stand but you on the other hand ]

hey dumbass... you don't need love in order to have kids. Money can buy high quality sperm. And you can still get pregnant.

[TheMajesticKing777]

So you aren't gonna love your kids is what you are saying?

[TheMajesticKing777]

Why even have kids then?

[shaysh87]

The "love" mentioned in this question is romance, not love for children.

[shaysh87]

@themajesticking777

[shaysh87]

this is why I prefer to have a lot of money than find romance. I'd be wayy happier with money.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Then you fucked up cause like I said, love is a general term and it's used in general, romance and love are two different terms with two different definitions, love is caring for someone in a form of a deep emotional attraction, romance is a different type of bond that also requires love but it's not used like that because you can love a family member or friend but having a romance is completely different, either ways if that's how you want to live your life then good for you I guess, I already said what i has to say

[TheMajesticKing777]

Had*

[shaysh87]

I can have money and still have love.

why would I just have love but no money?

[shaysh87]

money can buy love.

money can buy sperm. money can buy IVF. Money can buy surrogates. Money can buy children. We love our children

[TheMajesticKing777]

I only answered your question, ask yourself that because you were the one that asked about it like you only have one choice, are you like a record stuck on repeat or something? Money can buy sperm but love isn't something you buy, there's crime scenes where mothers have killed their infant child and that isn't love, if you don't know the different between a physical object and an emotional feeling then you might want to buy a dictionary and start expanding your vocabulary

[shaysh87]

how can I not buy love?

I can buy sperm and make a child.

I love my child.

so how can money not buy love?

I'm better off than you. I have both love and money. You only have love but no money.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Well your vagina isn't going to produce children forever so I think you might have a better chance adopting a child but that is besides the point, having a child doesn't mean you love them, like I said people have children and kill them, it's happened and that's a perfect example of not loving a child which is down the same category you are talking about because you can't buy love

[TheMajesticKing777]

Now if you don't mind I'm going to pretend like I'm going to bed so I don't gotta respond to you, goodnight

[shaysh87]

[Well your vagina isn't going to produce children forever so I think you might have a better chance adopting a child but that is besides the point, having a child doesn't mean you love them,]

single women can always have kids if they want. if I want a kid, I can have a kid anytime before my childbearing years are over. Even after my child bearing years are over, I can still have kids through IVF. This is the POWER OF MONEY. There are plenty of rich women in their 40s who successfully had kids through IVF.

[I said people have children and kill them, it's happened and that's a perfect example of not loving a child which is down the same category you are talking about because you can't buy love]

people who hate children didn't want to have kids in the first place. they were just too poor to afford an abortion. Like I said, lack of money causes a lot of problems.

[shaysh87]

haha you mad, bro?

[TheMajesticKing777]

Why would I be mad 😂

You are the one asking the question, you are the one with the childbearing, you are the one with the problem and you are the one with the lack of comprehension to simple words, so no I'm not mad but saying anything else is pretty pointless and a waste of time so I just won't respond cause at the end of the day I'm chillin, good luck with your life I guess lol

[TheMajesticKing777]

It's also a waste of my phone battery which I forgot to mention

[shaysh87]

seeing your whole pile of passive aggressive insults, i can clearly see you're mad.

[shaysh87]

single men die alone without kids. single women can have a family on her own.

[TheMajesticKing777]

I feel like my passive aggressive insults are pissing you off cause my blood pressure is totally normal and I'm relaxed so perhaps its some reverse psychology and you are mad which is why you tried turning it to me, and they weren't suppose to be insults, they are pretty factual, you are not very good at comprehending, you repeat things several times and mention things completely off topic like you have some form of disability which if you do then there's nothing wrong with it but a perfect example is this, what do single men have anything to do with the topic and what are you trying to say, I don't don't the point of your messages anymore lol

[TheMajesticKing777]

Get*

[shaysh87]

At the end of the day, you failed to prove my perspective as incorrect.

[TheMajesticKing777]

And you failed to comprehend... well everything

[shaysh87]

@themajesticking777

I think i have explained to you why money is more fulfilling than romance.

Its just the dumb loser won't admit he's the one with the inferior view

Im sure you learned a lot from this discussion too. I saw a lot of ignorance and cluelessness in you

[TheMajesticKing777]

And I saw a lot of blindness and stupidity from you, if it's ignorant to have an opinion then I guess you are just toxic, now shoo, go away 😂

[shaysh87]

maybe if you were smarter and made smarter decisions, you wouldn't be so wrong right now.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Whatever you gotta tell yourself smh

[Anonymous]

Yes you are but chances are that’ll never happen given your age sadly. Millionaires usually aren’t out looking for women almost past their prime. But if you can pull it off than more power to you.

[shaysh87]

Why would i need to marry a millionare if i am already a millionare?

[shaysh87]

Id have male gold diggers chasing me. And yes they do exist

[shaysh87]

Personally i think its a wayy better deal to be a millionare than to marry a millionare. I would still be free to date absolutey anyone i want, i dont have to be stuck in a marriage with someone i dont wanna see on a daily basis. What if i eventually get sick of him? How will i continue to eat?

[jahaims]

Not necessarily. You just don't understand life that well.

[shaysh87]

I think I do understand life very well.

[Berethor]

It means that you are a gold digger.

[shaysh87]

i pick money over men.