Can money really buy love?

[Manmore112]

And if so, why and how? Is this ancient adage fully true?

[Xoxocutekitty]

Of course not, but it can buy men into waking up and realizing that there's more to life than chasing money.

Many a young man, can get stuck chasing money and only when they have fulfilled their own self concept of enough do they typically seek relationships or make pro-relationship decisions.

This is also happening with young women because they are in a society that allows them to be more than housewives. I will say that, women will not discount a relationship because of a career, whereas men will.

Working 80 hours a week regardless of your gender is probably not going to have a happy outcome on getting or maintaining a relationship.

So there is a point at which more hours at work (making more money), is inversely related to relationship satisfaction.

[Cathy7734]

I would like to add that many people can find happiness by working a lot of hours at work. Look at Mother Theresa. I've read that she dedicated her whole life to work. I don't know how many hours a week that is.

[Anonymous]

Sure it can - money is directly correlated to your success, worth ethic, masculinity, and overall attraction to women. A woman will be very impressed by a man who is rich and in turn will treat him like royalty and try to bring the best side of her to the table. Most divorces happen due to financial problems. Money shows me that you are a strong provider, able to bear children with me, able to live a life of comfort with me, and most likely much happier and fulfilled than a struggling person. Those are attractive qualities to look for.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Money can buy you food, a house, a car, and a lot of nice things. Money can never buy you happiness, but the use of it can contribute to having a secured well-being. With that said, money can never buy love. Although it is a factor in modern day relationships, especially marriages, but money alone can never afford love and it can never pay someone to get rid of your heart break.

[Qdbrown]

Depends on what your call love? If you want attention, a lot of dating options, and opportunities, cash makes it easier.

But real love is developed over time, with only so few people from spouse, kids, family and very close friends. That can't be bought, nor sold. It's a different kind of investment.

[jennifer_bloom]

Money can give you chances to connect with people but it takes character and hard work and Kindness to win love.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Money can give you financial securityMoney can buy you all the material possessions you desireMoney can give you power and controlMoney can't buy true inner peace and happiness and money can't make someone love you for yourself

[Cathy7734]

But money can help you afford to see a therapist so one can change from the inside out. Maybe money can't buy inner peace but lack of money doesn't do it either.

[msbrightness]

@Cathy7734 lack of it is no good, certainly. Excess, I don't think is needed.
It does seem to make a genuine difference in feelings, though - when people expect they have your financial backing (even if it is just as assurance) - vs when you pull it back.
I have had people go genuinely concerned - and start to pay a lot more attention - once I took the money they thought they could dip into, away.

[Loveydove]

It can buy you a form of love that feels, talks and walks like love but isn’t real. Real love does not come to take but to give. Real love can’t be bought. It’s cultivated over time.

Once the money is gone how do you know they’ll still be there and care?

[Ammi_goldie806]

It does not matter how much money you have you actually have to have a relationship with that person in order for it to be quote unquote love or something that's actually real. You can have a million dollars and someone still would not want to date you for your personality but for your money they love the money not you.

[nella965]

The purest form of love is a parent to child, brother to sister type of love.

I have seen husbands immediately start dating again after their wife dies. The immensely High divorce rates show that marriages aren’t a reliable form of “love”.

If uou want real unconditional love , have a child. Go to your parents , cherish your blood related family members. These folks are likely to be on your side forever unlike boyfriend/girlfriend or wives

[Djaay]

That isn't exactly true.

[nella965]

@Djaay this is true. A wife can leave you anytime she is bored of you. A mother won’t leave you even if she is sick of you

[Cathy7734]

It seems to me that unconditional love is unhealthy. Basically, you are saying no matter what you do I'll love you. I'll reserve unconditional love for a child and/or my dog/cat.

[Djaay]

Lmao...

[nella965]

@Cathy7734 I think unconditional love is needed. Because there are many kids who grow up with parents who base their love for their kids , completely on acheivements. I will only love you if you get As in school. I will only love you if you obey my every order. Nobody is perfect.

A wife is not loyal to you. If you go through severe depression and you no longer are the man that she married, your wife will simply leave you for another man who can give her a better time.

A wife can leave you once she gets bored of you, your mother will never leave you even if you hit her out of frustration due to depression. Your wife will leave but your mother will not.

Your wife is incapable of unconditional love. This is why parent child relatinships are much stronger and sustainable than romantic love relationships.

There is already proof that romantic love is not sustainable. Just take a look at the extremely HIGH DIVORCE RATES in western countries. 46% of all US marriages end up in divorce. Now you can't say this is loyalty right?

[nella965]

@Cathy7734 Kids who grow up without unconditional love, tend to have low self worth. Nobody needs to get As to prove they are lovable. Nobody needs to obey someone's every command in order to feel worthy. This only creates push overs or people who try too hard to please.

[nella965]

"I will stay married to you as long as you give me a good time and a lot of fun in life"

This is really not the essence of love. Love is self sacrifice for someone else so that they can be better off. Just take a look at how parents work so hard to pay for their children's education, provide food, shelter, clothing, games, summer camp for their kids.

Even though so many kids are ungrateful and give their parents a hard time, parents never stop working hard to raise their children.

[msbrightness]

That also isn't true.
I know several mothers who are, deeper down, entirely uninterested in their offspring. They fake it when they gave to.

[msbrightness]

@Cathy7734 it's more about unconditional availability when you get a connection.
Of course there are boundaries, and as long as there isn't trauma on either side causing unavailability, it can get genuinely good.

[nella965]

@msbrightness Do you think those high divorce rates are proof that this type of love is sustainable? why would you prefer having fun over someone you can trust / rely on? I rather have someone love me unconditionally rather than a spouse who loves me based on how entertaining I am.

What if I fell into deep depression and I'm no longer fun? should i start worrying that my husband won't stick around anymore because I'm so miserable all the time?

what if I screamed and yelled at my spouse throughout my wrost years, would I trust that my wife will be there for me until the misery is over? NO!! she's just gonna leave me for another man who can buy her gifts and make her laugh. On the other hand, I can trust my mother to have my back , anytime throughout life. Now this is someone I can 100% trust to be there for me, no matter what. And this is why its so special.

[nella965]

@msbrightness "I know several mothers who are, deeper down, entirely uninterested in their offspring. They fake it when they gave to."

If most mothers did not love or sacrifice for their children, we wouldn't have a next generation. It takes immense sacrifice of hard work, money, time to raise children. This is why humans evolutionarily evolved to love their children. If your parents didn't love you, there is a good chance you won't grow up into adulthood. And even if you did somehow make it to adulthood, you wouldn't be successful in life or in good heath.

[nella965]

@msbrightness

I have seen couples with huge age differences divorce. why? well the younger partner says : my husband can't keep up with me , anywhere we go. I have to constantly slow down for him. Due to vast differences in energy, my elderly husband and I no longer have the same hobbies. We never do anything together anymore. Or my husband can't satisfy me in bed anymore due to his age deteriorated sex drive.

This is not loyalty.

Your mother will always have your back. Your spouse will only have your back when he / she feels like it.

[msbrightness]

And what if the older husband is faster, and no one his age or even younger can keep up with him?
I am not talking an old boldie, I am talking someone like Zeus from the Greek mythology.

[nella965]

@msbrightness what is it about you and obsessing over rare exceptions? Just because tylenol didn't work for 1 person out of 1 million people. it doesn't mean tylenol doesn't work. Just because 1 mom out of 900,000 mothers didn't love her child, it doesn't mean that mothers don't love their children.
Just because a 75 yr old can walk faster than his own 20 yr old grand daughter, it doesn't mean most 75 yr olds can do the same.

[Djaay]

You speak of the mother and child spirit that's where the Catholic church is born out of , formally know as (witchcraft ) ... Genisis chapter 11 . That spirit is also the spirit that along side the Antichrist fights God himself to they're own destruction in the final battle of Armageddon.

[nella965]

@Djaay If parents didn't love their children, the world will cease to exist. why do you think parents naturally love their children?
why do we see much fewer parents who hate their children?

because of evolution. Children with parents who didn't love them, did not end up making it to adult hood. Therefore, these types ceased to procreate.

[Djaay]

Wrong again. Women relatively deny that GOD himself places a soul in every new fertilized egg a woman has during conception. You ever noticed the Ora or glow a newly pregnate woman is? That love and new spirit inside her is from God. That's where the love and bonding start between mother and child. The father is commanded to watch after both mother and child , not just a provider , but for spiritual direction also. God gave men this commanded commandment , whether or not womenlike it or not. Those who miander intentionally away from God become in denial and start believing in evolution which then becomes scientific in which political correctness forms as an answer to all problems. I was abandon from my biological parents , then after my adoptive parents too. There ain't no love in that. But I'm just fine and love others easily. My real father is actually in Heaven along with my real family. I've also have 12 children and 23 grandchildren who all are very much believers also. So you see , maybe u might want to change your thoughts about your beliefs.

[nella965]

@Djaay you're just a religious dumbass.
If you insist there is a spiritual bond between mother and baby , giving that aura. So where is your mother's bond with you? why did your parents abandon you, if she has so much of an aura and spiritual connection?

[nella965]

@Djaay your grand daughter is probably older than your wife.

[Djaay]

I'm NOT religious.. that's an abomination because its man-made traditional values created by none else but mankind itself. My grandkids are all under 20 and my new wife of 5 years is 23 . Buy the way... the purest form of love is the love givin from GOD to us to share with others.

[Djaay]

My mothers bond with me? Im just lucky she didn't abort me like many mothers today do. Where's the bond with all these mother's aborting they're fetuse's?

[nella965]

@Djaay you said that god designed all mothers to have a spiritual bonding connection with the baby. Thus the “aura”.

If this is the case then why did your mother Abandon you?

[msbrightness]

You can't blame people for 'their mother abandoning'. People adopt all the time, yet no one grown up was an adoptee.
Think about it for a minute.
Adoptions out of interest - even just for child benefits - happen all the time.
Then they dump those kids a few years later - or oblige them to keep financing those same abusers who bullied them along the way.
Take it to the next level of transgenders adopting and you get the messy world we live in.
Then think about how many children got stolen, not adopted. It is not at all hard to 'register' birth of a stolen child in any of the 3rd world countries. Or to register theft of a child as adoption.

[nella965]

@msbrightness I never said that all parents love their kids. But there is a reason why overwhelming majority of parents love their kids. Evolutionarily people with parents who didn’t love them didn’t tend to survive to adulthood to procreate

[nella965]

@msbrightness adoption is not the same as a biological parent child bond. The bond between parent and child is indescribable and irreplaceable. Most biological parents won’t treat a random kid on the street the same way as their own child

[msbrightness]

Once I locate my parents, I will comment further (agree with you regarding the sentiment, but maybe I am a sentimental fool)

[Browneye57]

It can't 'buy love', but it's sure necessary for anyone and everyone to exist. The more the better.
Any woman would have to be a complete idiot to not properly vet a mating prospect for his ability to support her and the 84 children she wants to have with him, in the manner of which she is accustomed.
An no guy worth his salt doesn't pursue to his best ability, financial success.

What IS disturbing is that you're not clear on this. Time to get busy and make something of yourself.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Money can’t buy love. But it sure helps!!! Let me put it this way. When you have it, it’s one less thing you have to worry about. Not worrying about money makes it easier to focus on love.

[exitseven]

yes, hard to argue with that logic.

[msbrightness]

I don't believe so, not for me anyway, but I am not low on it and don't need more than I have/can earn.

It may be an important item for people who struggle with it - I don't really know.

It did use to be an item of interest, or something that could impress me when I was young, but not enough to be in a relationship with someone because of it.

[innerman]

thats a raw question.
Money can buy Sex the way you go shopping for groceries.
When it comes to love, it’s a little tricky. a lady can stay with you for money and never whisper to a soul that she loves you not.
-•-BUT under the right weather, perfect timing, right longitude and latitude, MONEY CAN BUY MOVE -•-

[ZackBan]

The way I see it. Money buys experiences and experiences build character which in turn makes you lovable.

Of course it depends on how you spend your money but the idea is that money can in fact contribute to making you lovable

[Slartybartfast]

As a man, you need money just to be in the game. You won't even be able to get a date without a good income.

Without it you can still find love, you can also find a winning lottery ticket on the ground, but the odds aren't good.

[Cathy7734]

Money can buy you a lot of things.
Lack of money can't.
Dean Martin, as well as other people, said, "I’ve been rich and I’ve been poor. And, believe me, rich is better."

[Djaay]

And GOD says a rich person has it easier by trying to get through the eye of a needle than get through the gates of Heaven.

[kyleelyn199723]

It can only buy love to a woman that is looking to be taken care of like you are her parent.

[Manmore112]

You mean someone looking to be spoiled

[kyleelyn199723]

No I meant what I meant.

[Manmore112]

Elaborate?

[kyleelyn199723]

If money is the only reason why you are chasing after a guy/ staying around I’m going to assume you don’t make your own money, and are very dependent on a man’s pockets.

[Manmore112]

So she isn’t usually actually attracted to him

[kyleelyn199723]

Nope. I’ve seen this situation many times where it’s usually an older White guy and a prettier looking foreign girl

[msbrightness]

It isn't that simple. Considering the struggle of uncertainty, especially for someone looking at a lifetime of low wages - meeting someone they like who is also capable of providing certainty of 'no struggle' financially, does give the relationship a lot going for it. I'd argue that 'love'' is for the safety you feel with someone (plus the physical attraction and shared goals)

[Adam_INTJ]

A woman can't depend on a poor man to have her back if things go sour--or if she wants to spend time on a baby.

So money is a prerequisite if you're a guy.

And the more money, the more security, sooo you win that way.

[purplepoppy]

Of course it can. The guy with a well paid job will always outcompete poorer guys.

[exitseven]

I don't think so. For guys they will never know if the girl is just in it for the money. For girls they have to be with some guy who maybe cannot make a living for himself.

[Avicenna]

No, but a lot of people will become potential partners if you have enough of it who wouldn’t otherwise be potential partners.

[Alyssa11]

It doesn’t buy you love. However what it does is expands your market (ie your dating market).

[GirlyGal20]

no it can't. Maybe it can make you more comfortable..

[MrBadd]

It doesn’t hurt to have a lot of money of course, however money alone will not.

[Skankhunt]

Yes and no.

Yes, but this is conditional love. If you have money, I love you. If you don't have money, I don't love you anymore.

No, Real unconditional love can't be bought by money.

[sean1234]

Only for the women who are married to the guys wallet

[McKellar]

Perhaps an escort, a sugar baby & a side-chick,.. yeah.
If you are high class or at least middle class,... probably.
Being true to yourself regardless on how much money you are making,... nope.

[legalboxers]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/srwxJUXPHvE

As Paul, Ringo, John and George sang.. Money can't buy me love...#thebeatles #cantbuymelove

[Phoenix98]

Nope, genuine love is something priceless, you can't put a price tag on it.

[Dchrls78104]

Yes; but not the kind that stands by you in times of trouble or hardship and not the kind I would want.

[Supernormal]

Money can buy submission. Submission is just one out of the many ingredients that makes up true love. Money can't buy the rest

[princeofromance]

Yes, If we did not spend money on her. We would be stuck at home playing with ourselves on a nightly basis.

[fred_durst]

no money can't guarantee a person to love you
BUT
without money , it will be even much harder to make someone love you

[Anonymous]

sort of. Money can put you in the game. Without money you will get passed over by a lot of potential mates.

[friendzoned4life]

No but it can buy you a PS5 wich is more likely to make you happy than a woman

[Anonymous]

It literally buys womens love.

Women base a mans worth on what he does for her and how he treats her which all circles around how much money he spends on her.

[Anonymous]

Yes!

[Opinion Owner]

Women simply don't date broke men. Unless she's broke and unambitious herself or just desperate to become an incubator of the low class.

[BigManSAB]

You need more than money to find love. But money definitely helps

[NightHawk99]

Yes it does. Men are not admired for attractiveness, but for what they can provide.

[JamesRandiDebates]

No, but if you have enough money, you will have a lot of bitches willing to fake it.

[msc545]

Money won't buy you love but it will buy you a tremendous amount of sex as long as you have it

[a1_jayden]

Yes money can actually buy love for some people because their greedy and like money so much, which is why their called gold diggers

[Hakkerskaldyri]

It can buy a relationship, but not love, though in a deeper sense it won't buy love for you, it buys love for your money.

[David_Bayer]

It can buy love by itself but it can increase your chances by a Hella lot.

[Tim-loves-it]

I dont know about love..

but it can buy horsepower.. and horsepower = happiness!

[SpaceGalaxy]

Money buys many pussies. whether love develops afterwards, one must try and see.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but its very fleeting and usually never lasts.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes not necessarily but as a guy without it , you will get a single relationship

[FictionalCharacter]

Hell no.
Money is only a band aid on a wound.

[BentAssassin99]

Yes. Yes it can. 🐶🐶

[magiusX26]

the adage is actually "money can not buy love"

[Floppy2112]

Love? No. Sex? Yes. Loads of it.

[Archerer]

No, money is access, but access isn’t enough.

[jasco]

It can setup love but not actually buy it

[anon_teen]

No it can't. Id never marry for money.

[msbrightness]

Regardless of money, would you marry someone significantly older, if you had a thing for them?

[Anonymous]

Will buy you companionship.

[Unicorn_lover_2002]

No, time attention is love

[bulletbob555]

Close as you can get is rent it

[Mehzmeh]

No, but it can buy you a water ski. Lol

[JamieLoves]

Oh Yes!
Hookers , Girlfriends... ( same thing)

[Asianguy123]

in a way yes, but it's true love no.

[Asianguy123]

It sure can impress women if that’s what you want

[robocop666]

yes women are attracted to it

[PeacefulRainDrop]

No definitely not

[Anonymous]

Not really but it can buy happiness and security