Have you ever been kink shamed by someone you're with / dating?

[Rockstarrrrr]

[SaartjieJane]

Well with the guy I was with before, we had a conversation about things he liked and things I wanted to try at some point. Everything I said he went on about it was weird and he’d never do this and that. That was the last time I told him about things I’d like to try some day

[FictionalCharacter]

Did you want him to be Christian grey?

[SaartjieJane]

But but I mean I’d like if a partner I’m sexually active with to take naughty photos of me every now and then or like spanking or like if you’re out in public and in the mood and can get away from everyone and do things and literally just stuff like that, BIG no from him. For him it was like, you’re in the mood, undress and have seggs. There will be nothing more to it. Don’t get me wrong that would’ve been perfectly fine but there’s still other things out there I’d want to try or do and it wasn’t even anything near Christian Grey stuff

[Markm3212]

what he didn't want to take pics of you, is he mad... and spontaneous sex again MAD...

most guys would die for that. im sure you'll find a guy more than willing to assist you in your wants

[SaartjieJane]

@Markm3212 right? Hope I do some day!

[Markm3212]

@SaartjieJane just keep the faith and keep looking. i guarantee you that there are lots of people out there that will be more than happy to do this sort of stuff. your young and have lots of time to find mr right, dont get hooked up on having to find him now, enjoy life and the experiences, he will appear when you least expect it. also keep looking and putting yourself out there, as if you dont he may not see you.

[SaartjieJane]

Yes I suppose this is true, thank you for the advice!

[Markm3212]

@SaartjieJane your welcome,

[Anonymous]

Not really shamed but they are a little weirded out when they find out that I enjoy pain and they are usually scared to do what I want them to do.

[Markm3212]

no i have never been kink shamed by a partner or someone i have told about it. but a few of them have been shocked and do not understand why i like what i do. but thats because its a kink/fetish, which is in its definition different.

[ChrisMaster69]

Nope, as those really in to kinks know not to shame.

it’s invariably those who watch porn, assume they are kinky, then meet a person with different kinks, such as blade play and are shocked.

[Markm3212]

i would say that there is a difference between kink shamed and shocked.

i like things that others dont and visa versa. now the one that you brought up "blade play" is deffo not my cup of tea, but i would never kink shame them over it. shocked yes maybe and not understanding of waht to do, yes. but i would then have to ask questions as to what it is they would want me to do, depending on the answers would depend on if i indulged in it further.

[ChrisMaster69]

@Markm3212 erm yes obviously however the question was about shaming, not about being shocked.

[Andres77]

Yeah, my first wife said "only whores suck dick" so she wouldn't suck mine and called me a pervert for wanting her to, that I was being demeaning.
Then I catch her in some threesome or foursome and she was gagging pretty loud on dick.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Woah... Classic... sorry about what happened 🙏

[Andres77]

Thanks but it was over 20 years ago.

[Rockstarrrrr]

👍👍

[oldermale]

Nope, only encouraged lol

[Rockstarrrrr]

Lol...

[oldermale]

😉😉😉

[FictionalCharacter]

Yes, all the time.