A guy I work with acts like he’s my friend but then talks shit about me to a guy I’m dating to make me look bad. What can I do?

[Jendcheuebc]

[jahaims]

Why do you care if he talk bad about you? If your boyfriend believes someone over you, you picked the wrong guy

[Jendcheuebc]

He doesn’t tell me anything really. He still likes me for some reason, not sure why.

[Chill_Thoughts]

Dude still stuck in middle school... If he gets too annoying/aggressive just report him, that is childish behaviour

[Jendcheuebc]

Well the guy I’m dating has been talking to me a little less. My coworker is very very controlling and probably likes me too.

[Chill_Thoughts]

He definitely does but that's not an excuse for it, if you think it's affecting your relationship, you should report asap

[Jendcheuebc]

Well it’s awkward because the guy I like wants to meet with me when he’s in town but said this guy should come with too. So now is this some love triangle?

[Chill_Thoughts]

What

[Chill_Thoughts]

No, just tell the other guy to leave you alone and that you're just coworkers and that what you do after working hours is none of his concern

[Jendcheuebc]

They’re both my coworkers.

[Chill_Thoughts]

So? Once you're not at work, you don't have to be with them if you don't want to. You wanna be with the one coworker you like and the other guy has no right to tag along

[Jendcheuebc]

Well what if the mean guy likes me too and is trying to poison my chances with this guy? We aren’t completely official yet but I don't know if they’re close then he might complain about me to him. He’s really controlling and narcissistic which scares me.

[Chill_Thoughts]

Listen how the mean guy feels doesn't matter and you should talk about it with both hr and the guy you like. That other dude is just jealous

[Jendcheuebc]

Not sure why he’s be jealous though. He’s suddenly been following up more though after me and the other guy started flirting more.

[serious]

That is so cheap and he has no ethics. No values.

[Jendcheuebc]

I’m upset because it’s a guy I like a lot but he basically is told that I don’t know how to do my job and stuff.
Tbh I think both of them like me so there’s maybe some competition going on or something I don't know

[serious]

@jendcheuebc

Whatever it maybe. It is cheap.

[Anonymous]

Confront his sorry sss.

[Jendcheuebc]

He’s very defensive

[Jendcheuebc]

I can’t say anything to him but he has scolded me several several times for things even if they weren’t a big deal.

[Jendcheuebc]

And he steps away from his computer a lot but if I do that he’s all “concerned” and tells me he gets pissed off.

[Opinion Owner]

He’s a real asshole.

[Jendcheuebc]

Well tbh I’m scared of him and feel like I have to be extra kind. I feel like I’m tip-toeing on egg shells. All of my other coworkers male ans female are amazing and I have no problems.

[Opinion Owner]

I say start looking for a new job.

[Jendcheuebc]

Well he’s not going to be here starting in 2 weeks. He’s leaving.