Guys: would a girl look desperate if she asked to hang with you even if you haven’t answered her texts?

[Anonymous]

[IsoUser]

To be perfectly honest I wouldn't mind she would just be a friend helping me make lasagna lol

[Jamie05rhs]

It depends on the context.

[barn_stormer]

yes, very

[Asker]

What if we have been talking for a month and the convo just kind of went dead?

[barn_stormer]

same answer

[Asker]

And what if I blew him off twice but we have plans for a concert this coming Sunday?

[barn_stormer]

why did you ask the question if you already have plans with him?

[Asker]

Because he hasn’t answered my text messages which isn’t like him

[barn_stormer]

maybe he figures since you already have a date planned, text messages aren't important anymore

[Asker]

We were supposed to hang out in between that though, but I kind of blew him off due to him making last minute plans and then me getting sick. He hasn’t answered my texts all day which isn’t like him tbh we don’t text much but it’s weird that he hasn’t answered all day. That’s why I’m wondering if it’s desperate to ask him to hang out after him not answering me

[barn_stormer]

just wait until Sunday

[Asker]

Not the point lol I feel like he’s losing interest because I blew him off twice and haven’t made plans to hang with him this specific week

[barn_stormer]

you just said you're hanging out Sunday...

[Asker]

Yes but we had plans to hang out before that but it got ruined due to me being sick, plus I wanted to kind of have a serious talk with him because our whole dynamic has been all over the place and confusing. Can’t do that at a concert

[barn_stormer]

I would only worry if he bails on Sunday.

[Asker]

I know he isn’t going to bail because he has a friend going but like part of me thinks he doesn’t want me there because he’s growing uninterested lol maybe I’m just overthinking, but he’s never gone a whole day without messaging me so it’s kind of weird to me that’s all

[barn_stormer]

maybe he's using game on you. delayed messaging is a way to make women go crazy.

[Asker]

That’s exactly what I was doing to him 😬😬😬😬 maybe he thinks I’m uninterested because I blew him off twice and don’t answer for a little while?

[barn_stormer]

lol. it's still weird cuz you're meeting up Sunday. he should be texting you back.

[Asker]

Exactly my point lol it is weird but then again it’s only been a day? I feel like I’m thinking too into things , but I do see him online not messaging me back and also not looking at my stories like he has been yesterday

[Asker]

Like is it my fault for not making plans in order to make up what I essentially blew off or is it his fault for not speaking up about why he’s bothered and not texting me

[barn_stormer]

it's kind of rude to not reply to someone. again, weird cuz you're meeting up Sunday.

[Asker]

Maybe it’s because we text back non sense? I do think it’s weird that there’s just severe lack of communication going on

[barn_stormer]

ya if you just talk about nonsense, nobody needs that. just don't flake out Sunday and everything should be fine.

[Asker]

Part of me does want to flake off Sunday just because he sent me non sense in fb messenger yesterday and he hasn’t even answered it back lol like has he just suddenly became uninterested?

[barn_stormer]

lol. you're gonna blow him off AGAIN?

[Asker]

I mean 😂 this is why I wanted to make plans before the concert because I’m interested in knowing his intentions with me since he’s been blowing hot and cold with me

[barn_stormer]

it's probably just game. I wouldn't worry about it or else he'll win.

[Asker]

Yeah but I don’t want games 😕 I want transparency, I’ve only been running game on him because I don’t know his intentions

[Asker]

But essentially I feel like I fucked up by blowing him off twice

[barn_stormer]

nothing can be done about it if he's running game on you. but at least it means he's interested.

[Asker]

Showing interest by ignoring all my texts and my stories? 😬 that makes me uninterested and less likely to open up

[barn_stormer]

blowing him probably didn't help but if you were sick, nothing can be done about it

[barn_stormer]

ya but you're thinking about him all this time. so it's working.

[Asker]

You’re right, but I am also thinking of not going to the concert so what good is that? Lol

[barn_stormer]

that would be a mistake if you like him. if you don't go to the concert you can kiss this relationship goodbye.

[Asker]

I mean 😭 well that’s why I’m trying to make things right by considering a hang out before the concert but I also don’t want to come off desperate

[barn_stormer]

if you blew him off before, it's on you to suggest meeting if you want to meet before the concert. it won't seem desperate.

[Asker]

Yeah I’ll wait until like tomorrow lol maybe space or not texting everyday is good also. I just get overly excited when I vibe with someone and want to talk to them

[barn_stormer]

makes sense

[Asker]

But yeah he’s probably over the paragraph texts with no attempt to hang out. My guard is just on super high because I don’t want someone in my space that is just here to fuck

[barn_stormer]

ya nobody likes long boring texts with no attempt to hang out. makes sense. fuckboys are the worst.

[Asker]

I just got out of a relationship with a fuck boy 6 months ago so my guard is super up, I haven’t had sex since because I just don’t want that energy in my space if there isn’t a genuine vibe first.

[barn_stormer]

is the vibe there with concert-guy?

[Asker]

And you are right. He is running game. He answered me 🙄

[barn_stormer]

haha nice

[Asker]

I hate it here 🙄🙄🙄 lmao

[barn_stormer]

why?

[Asker]

Because I don’t like the running game shit lol maybe that’s why they have arranged marriages in other countries to avoid this shit

[barn_stormer]

lol. at least you know he's interested now.

[Asker]

Eh who knows 😭😭 I just don’t like the games

[barn_stormer]

it might just be that you blew him off before so he took a step back and waited for you to initiate things. glad it all worked out.

[Asker]

I didn’t initiate anything yet though lol

[barn_stormer]

you didn't ask him out before Sunday?

[Asker]

No. I am leaving him on delivered until tomorrow and I’ll ask him then. I think space is required and he’s implying it by not paying attention to my stuff

[barn_stormer]

okay. good luck

[Asker]

Thank you lol

[Anonymous]

Too despo

[Asker]

Yeah he answered back but I’m leaving him on delivered until tomorrow. Space is important and him not frequently texting shows in need of space

[Opinion Owner]

Yo should have self respect

[Asker]

I do have self respect which is why I give the same energy I get.