How can I learn from dating and about my type if I never dated anyone before or get dates? What am I leaning from all of this negative feedback?

[poneglyphs]

So, what do I learn from all of this besides that women don't like me? How do I grow as a person if I never dated? Am I an incel, creep, or something else 🤔

[DaveJord]

So honestly dating is hard, like super hard even for the best of them... I am far from the best but I am better than most. I think I am anyway.

Reading through tge comments and your responses it doesn't sound like your trying very hard to meet women. You had a date a year ago and it didn't work... okay so what have you don't in the last year?

Work is not the place to meet women. So where you meeting women at? How often do you talk to women? Its not like they are going to fall out of sky.

I had a lot of success on line in getting dates and finding women.. But I did a lot reading and research on it, constant improved my profile, photos... but there's no better way to get better at something other than doing it. So you got get out there and make the mistakes and learn from then, constantly improve yourself to be the best version of yourself.

But its never going to be easy. Rejection and failure is just part of the process. Can't get discouraged. I connect with God knows, 100's of women online... went on 16 dates in with 12 different women in 4 months. I mean it was terrible, but then I met my current girlfriend and all those failures seem worth it now. But it didn't come easy. I had to work hard at it, constantly improving my game, not getting discouraged, and being persistent with the process.. but constantly learning and improving.

So if your not out there doing that, then the chances you're going to find someone are very low. This why people come on here complaining about how hard it is. They cycle through these men and women... but they are not really taking any initiative or ownership over the process. They just think Mr or Ms Right is going to find them... which they might if your actively out there actively anticipating in the process.

[poneglyphs]

I don't go out because I don't have a car and I have been on 1 date this year. Last year I went on 5 dates. I don't meet women or talk to any because I don't know where or what should I talk to them?

I can only dream of getting 16 dates in four months. I just go to work, sleep, play video games, and hangout with my friends. I did try online dating rarely got success from there. Most women ghost me or cancel on me during dates.

[RealMarek]

You’re overthinking this. If you find someone with whom there is mutual attraction and she treats you well, you have met a good match. As for rejection, you’re not getting feedback really. You’re just finding that these girls who reject you are not the girls for you. You just have to march ahead, build a good life for yourself, and not give up on finding love.

[poneglyphs]

Okay, I just get frustrated with it too and get fed up with it all

[RealMarek]

Yeah, it is frustrating and takes patience.

[Twalli]

As long as you treat people nicely, you won't be an incel. Maybe you can do what I did to be more confident with women. Compliment them randomly. It can be simple like, I like your nail color, your hair looks nice today, etc. It makes them feel better thay day, because someone noticed them, as nd you're more used to light romancing. Then when you find someone you really like, you'll be more comfortable complimenting them. You'd be surprised of the reception you get simply by offering compliments. I still do it because I like making people feel better even though I have a girlfriend.

[Avicenna]

It takes time to learn what your type is. When I was your age, she just had to be interesting, childless, and willing to have a lot of sex. Now I have a lot more requirements.
There us nothing wrong with you.

[poneglyphs]

I just feel like something is wrong and get emotional over it 🥺

[Avicenna]

I understand why you're frustrated, but lots of people have trouble finding a girlfriend or one that is compatible.

[poneglyphs]

Yeah I am 🥺

[Avicenna]

You have to talk to women when the opportunity presents itself. Approach it as something fun, not with dread of rejection.

[ArtemisSilver]

You should consider a therapist, they might help you figure out what you're doing wrong and how to communicate better.

[Anonymous]

If men put as much effort into their life purpose, as they did in women and dating... both factors would take care of themselves...

[Anonymous]

I get what you're saying man. But It doesn't take "learning" to be a good person. Be a good person and don't stress about it. The rest will take care of itself.

[Anonymous]

Have you ever asked anyone out on a date? If yes then it gives you some clarity as to what kind of girls you’re attracted to (physically, personality wise, etc)

[poneglyphs]

Yeah, like last year but it didn't work out. She stopped talking to me after the first date

[Opinion Owner]

Do you have any idea why?

[poneglyphs]

No but that's how most of my date's go. They stopped talking to me after the first date

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm something must’ve happened then. Do you usually text them after the date thanking them for their time etc but you get ghosted or do you wait for them to reach out first?

[poneglyphs]

I text them that we had a great time then they reply for a bit but then they never want to make another date and ghost me

[Opinion Owner]

Ah okay, tbh that happens a lot (especially if you met them on a dating app). I guess you need to do some self reflecting, what really happened during those dates?

[poneglyphs]

Nohing bad, I talk to them, make them laugh, I try abd get to know them, also have fun

[MikeInHawaii]

I can’t remember who the East Indian philosopher who said it was, or I’d give credit: “It is no sign of mental health to be well adjusted in a depraved society.”

[exitseven]

Make some goals and work towards them. You will grow as a person.

[Anonymous]

Reminds me how I look at dating and relationships and attraction from a different perspective now

[NathanDavis]

you don't need a type... I never had a type

[Nikki1989]

Do you even talk to women?

[poneglyphs]

I have a few friends that are women but I rarely talk to women outside of work 😕

[Fuentes]

Get your ass in the gym lol